This content was created by Val Nichols. This content was uploaded by Val Nichols. This is a YouTube coaching/live video titled "Eliminate Self-Sabotage in Your Business + Your Life | Val Nichols Business Coach For Entrepreneurs" (published 2022-11-25). It features Val Nichols delivering a solo motivational coaching talk to an audience of entrepreneurs about identifying and eliminating self-sabotage. Nichols shares personal anecdotes (digital nomad distractions), prompts reflective questions (e.g., “Am I happy with the direction my life and business are going?”), and gives practical steps: get clear on vision/why, make a decisive declaration to move forward, and commit to actionable change. The tone is vulnerable and motivational with a clear call-to-action to reflect and recommit before the new year.
Chapters
Val Nichols here coming at you live, and today I am talking about how to eliminate self-sabotage in your business and your life. I'm gonna have a very vulnerable moment here with you guys today. We're gonna talk about self-sabotage and how to eliminate that in your business and your life. Back in like August, I think a lot of you guys know I was traveling a lot and doing the digital nomad lifestyle, which was super fun. However, I realized that a lot of that was in the space of self-sabotaging. Even the good distractions, even the good things in life can be self-sabotage. Distractions can be self-sabotage, right? Family, friends, saying yes to a lot of things— even the good things can be self-sabotage because When we're in analysis paralysis, right? Or if we are avoiding a situation or being really busy building our calendars in one area so that we are not really paying attention to the things that we are committed to—the money-making activities, the things that are going to move the needle forward, the things that are actually going to move our business forward—and we can get stuck in a lot of different activities or building the website page, creating the content, doing the real yada yada yada. There's a million different things. Things that we can be doing that is a distraction. And so I got to sit down with myself in August and say, okay, Val, are you really happy with the direction that your life is going? And are you happy with the way that you are self-sabotaging? I will be the first to admit that the person we can lie to, the person we can deceive the most, is ourselves. Because what is that saying? The road to hell is paved with good intentions, right? We may have the best intentions to travel the world, to distract ourselves, to go see things, to do things, to be things, to create the reels, to get the likes, to do the thing, to have enough adrenaline rush or enough dopamine for those ADHD people out there That if we can get that automatic dopamine hit from something small that we're doing, it might actually distract us from those things which are going to actually move us forward, from those things that are going to actually move the needle forward. And so if you recognize those things, if you recognize the fact that you've been self-sabotaging, just know that there are ways that you can get beyond that. You can get through it. And my friend, if I can get out of self-sabotage, so can you. So let me share with you the simple things that I did to help move the needle forward and to get myself out of self-sabotage so that it can serve you and you can go implement these right away into your life and into your business to help you get back on track. Because what better time than right now to get back on track? Because 2023 is right around that beautiful corner. And as you guys know, if you've been in my world for a while, you know that I truly believe the new year does not start on January 1st, 2023. The new year starts right here, right now, in the grit, in the determination, in the work that you do in this moment right now to get ready for when the clock strikes midnight. And the brand new year appears. There's a saying in the boxing ring that the fight isn't won in the ring. The fight is not won in the ring. It's won in the gym. It's won in the preparation. It's won in the determination to win the fight. If you wait until you're in the ring, getting your butt kicked, taking the punches over and over and over, Then you're not going to win. And it is the same when it comes to self-sabotage. If you wait until you're in the moment when those good things become the distraction, that become the cycle that starts to create the self-sabotage, that is when we must be aware that the fight is not won in the ring. The fight is won in the gym, in the determination, in the grits, in the building the strong foundation and the determination to win the fights. If you are ready to eliminate self-sabotage for good, Here's what I would love for you to do. Here's my invitation to you. My invitation to you is to ask yourself a simple question that may not have a simple answer, but trust me, trust me. Ask yourself, am I happy with the direction my life and business are going? And I challenge you to lean a little bit further and ask yourself, Am I happy with the self-sabotage I am creating in my life? Lean in further and ask yourself, what will happen if I continue on this road of self-sabotage? What will my life look like in one year from today? These might be some pretty heavy questions, and it might even bring up some visceral, you know, feelings within you. And just know that the answer on the other side of this is going to be so incredibly beautiful. It's going to be so juicy and amazing, and you'll be able to identify what is the self-sabotage that's happening. Are you happy? And what is your life going to look like? The awareness. And next I want you to get clear on your vision, your goal, your big beautiful why. Because on those days when— I'm not going to say if, I'm saying when— fear pops up, self-doubt arises, the desire to go back into those old behaviors, those old patterns that sometimes feel really good to sit in— feels really good to sit in that doubt, that fear, that self-pity, that sabotage. It can feel really good. So get so clear on your why that it will pull you forward on those days when the self-sabotage starts popping up. And then step number three is I want you to boldly declare right here, right now that you are moving forward. You are ready to make a decision. When a surgeon makes an incision, they're cutting into something. They're cutting it open. When you make a decision out of your powerful leadership, because you are a leader, and the clients that I work with, the people in my world, are leaders who lead other leaders. They lead themselves first. So when we make a decision, we are cutting off any other possibility and declare, I will no longer allow self-sabotage to keep me from the amazing, incredible business and life that I'm so lit up by. That I'm so excited about when I wake up in the morning that I can't even wait to like get on calls with clients and look at my entire calendar that's just full of beautiful juicy things, whether if that's amazing elite clientele, if that is meeting with your clients daily, if that is, you know, going out and snowshoeing with your friends or traveling the world or going to Hawaii and working from the beach like I've done, whatever that is for you. You get to make the decision. You get to decide right now, today, that you are no longer going to allow the self-sabotage, the doubt, the fear, the excuses, the playing small to hold you back from what it is that you truly desire. And if that's you, I want you to make a commitment right now. Make the decision. Declare it loud. After this live, go ask yourself those questions. Get deep, because this is how you are going to powerfully move beyond, cut out, and move forward from the self-sabotage that has kept you stuck for far too long. So what will you decide? That's my question for you. I love you, and I'll talk to you soon. Mwah! Bye!
