Shift your mindset from complaining to gratitude

Hello, Facebook Live! How are you doing today? I am Val Nichols and I am a women's life coach, and what I specialize in is mindset and clarity for women. So that is for the woman who is looking to have huge transformation and get a clear path for what she really wants in life so she can live the best life. Possible. So I am coming at you live today on my business page, that is Val Nichols Coaching on Facebook. I also have a High Vibe Tribe, which is for women who are looking to uplevel their life in every single area of their life. And I have a program launching in August all about clarity. That's gonna be a 15-day program. It is gonna be awesome, which I do want to speak to because I have had so so many women messaging me and talking to me in person about the program, but they're hesitant because they say, I don't have the money, or I am, you know, this just isn't the right time. Well, you know, that's great. I've heard everything in the book. However, if you are being drawn to do this program Now is the only time that you have. Do this for you. Do this. I mean, you spend more than that on Starbucks in a month, I guarantee you. But the value and the results you're going to get are going to be amazing. Anyway, with that off the table, I would love to jump in and talk to you guys about what I posted here. This live is about How your words affect your life, and this seems to be a really common theme of things that I am talking about lately with my clients. You know, there there's this this shift in mindset that just seems to need to happen in so many of our lives, and believe me, I've been guilty of this too. Right now, in my high vibe tribe, I ran a challenge for. 30 days for the women in there, myself included, to do no complaining, which means we are really striving and pushing ourselves and challenging ourselves to stretch to that uncomfortable place where we're starting our day focused on positivity and focused on a positive mindset. And not complaining, and it has been life-changing. I'm getting some really great results. Some ladies have been tracking with me the whole time. Some ladies have been jumping in and out here and there, checking in, which is is great. You know, we each have our own pace that we're working, but it has been amazing. So what I want to talk to you about mindset is is mindset and your words are pretty much. Every single thing, because whatever you think yourself to be, you are. Napoleon Hill said it the best when he said, if you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. So many times what we do is we, we convince ourselves that something is not going to work or that we're not going to succeed that we'll just kind of give up because we would rather not disappoint ourselves. So we speak the words that it's probably going to fail anyway, so why should I try? Or he's probably just going to be a jerk anyway, so why should I even go on a date? Or to bring it back more to a personal level, you will be shocked if you sit and track every single thing that you're saying to yourself in your mind every single day. I think you would be shocked by some of the things that we're telling ourselves. Think about it. You drop something and you say, oh my gosh, I'm so stupid. So what you're doing is you're looking for the evidence throughout the day to confirm that belief. Or if you're looking in the mirror and every single time you look in the mirror you think, oh my gosh, I'm so ugly, I'm so fat, I have so many wrinkles, then that's what you're going to see every single time you look in the mirror. It is All about the words that you're speaking over yourself. If you speak the words that my husband is so lazy he never does anything, then every single time you see him sitting on the couch, you're gonna think, yep, he's lazy. Yep, he's lazy. So why not just try spinning all that around? You know, literally take those words back, and instead of saying, I'm so stupid. Say, wow, I am really smart. Or instead of you're saying to yourself, oh gosh, I'm so fat, I'm so ugly. How about if every single time you walk past a mirror, you wink at yourself and you say, hey there, good looking. How you doing? Gosh, you look good today. Wow, I really like your hair. Why not? I mean, if you can say it to your girlfriends or say it to other people, why can't you? Express these kind, loving words to yourself. And I'm not saying go out there and be completely narcissistic and like push people out of the way every time you go by a mirror so you can check yourself out. All I'm saying is, why can't you look at yourself and love yourself? Why can't you say some kind things to yourself throughout the day? Like really give yourself a pat on the back. Be proud of yourself. If you do something really freaking amazing, tell yourself, say, wow, I'm really, really proud of you for doing that. Wow, you really put a lot of hard work into your garden and it looks amazing. Wow, I love how you took the extra time to pick out that outfit, and wow, that color just really, really looks good on you. Why can't we do these things to ourselves? You know, it's, it's It's really a very, it's a very conscious decision that we have to make if we want to have a better mindset, is we have to start paying attention to what we're saying with our mouth and inside of our minds. Because what we think inside of our minds, what we say to ourselves, whatever we Think about it. If a child is constantly told they're a loser and they grow up believing that they are a loser, they're going to make choices based on that, that they think of themselves, and they will choose jobs, they will choose relationships. Yeah. They will choose careers. They will choose life choices based on the thought of thinking that they are a loser. Isn't that sad? I mean, really, it is devastating. I can't tell you how many women I've started working with and then boom, I realize there is this huge block that they are holding themselves back. In so many ways, because they are terrified to believe that perhaps, just perhaps, they might be worthy enough to have whatever it is that they know in their heart they really truly desire for their lives. Sometimes it's hard to write it down. Sometimes it's hard to speak it from your mouth, but there are things in your heart that you know you are uniquely put on this earth to do. And I know that there is a passion in your heart and a dream in your mind that you are just holding on a shelf right now. And here's the thing: if you speak it into life and speak to it as if it is already come to pass, you can do amazing things. Guys, this is not a new concept. It is straight out of the Bible. It says, "Without a vision, the people shall perish." This is from God's word. He says. Seek and you will find. Ask and you shall receive. If that's not mindset, I don't know what is. Because if we don't even know what it is that we want to ask for it, you know what ends up happening? The same thing that happened to my life in my early 20s. I literally was like the leaf on the river. I bounced here and I bounced there and I floated and I just went with the current and I went here and I went there and I had like shiny things syndrome where it was like, oh, this sounds like a good idea. Oh, I know, I'll go to business college. Oh, I'm gonna drop out and do my own marketing business. Oh no, I'm gonna go to beauty school. Oh no, I'm gonna become a bartender. This is my real life, you guys. Like, this is really what I went through. Oh my gosh, I lost you guys. I hope you're still there. So this is what I really went through in my life, and what happened is I had to really, really, really get clear With what it was that I wanted, took a lot of hard work, took a lot of soul searching. But once I was able to get completely clear with what I wanted, I kept my eye on the prize, and I spoke it into life as if it had already come into fruition. And slowly but surely, every single single thing I wanted in my life has come true. And sometimes it's hard for me to believe. I wake up not even believing that this is my life because there was a time when I did not believe I was worthy enough. I did not Believe that someone like me, who was so broken, so flawed, I was convinced that I was damaged goods and that no one was ever going to love me. I never believed that I could have the things in my heart that I wanted. And one day. One day, God told me to take those dreams off the shelf that I put up there and to dust them off because what He had started, what He had started, He would bring into fruition and He would see to completeness. And I truly, truly believe with all of my heart That he will do the same for you. I know this, and I would love to partner with you. I would love for you to get someone who's going to walk beside you and, and lead the way and hold your hand when you get scared and talk you down when you let fear get in the way, because it's gonna happen. As you create new neural pathways, your subconscious starts fighting back a little bit. And usually that's either fight or flight. So if not me, I encourage you to find someone you trust and let them know that you have a dream on your heart, and let them know that this is what you really truly want, and say, hey, will you hold me accountable? Will you walk with me? Will you encourage me? Can I just call you and will you pick up the phone and can I just run things by you? I encourage you, find your tribe. Find the people who are going to cheer you on and be hesitant of the ones who don't cheer when you have success. Those, those are not your people. So find your people, find your tribe, and I just want to be here to encourage you. So please, if you, you don't like my business page, please like my business page. If you're a woman who's looking to uplevel your entire life and to find those tribe of people, join my High Vibe Tribe. I don't know if it's on this page, but it's on my personal page. So join my High Vibe Tribe. Just answer a couple questions so I can get to know you a little better. Jump in, find out if it's for you, because there are some amazing women going through some amazing, incredible transformations— going back to school, discovering what they really want to do, letting go of fear and the what-if, and jumping into their new lives fully and completely. You guys, this is what I live for. I live to watch other women find their true purpose and their true calling in life and jump even when they're afraid. Because if you have the right people, there will be people who are going to jump with you And show you the way. And there are going to be people who are going to be at the bottom waiting to catch you, whether you fall or if you soar. So ladies, my hope and my prayer is that you jump and you soar. And if you don't soar, my hope for you Is that you have some amazing people who will catch you just in case you fall. I love you all, and I hope that you got something out of this message, and I hope that you all start paying more attention to the words that you're speaking over your life and the words that you are speaking to yourself. I love you all.