Val Nichols defines personal independence as making choices free from others' judgment. Limiting beliefs keep women stuck in negativity, so she's launching a 30-day No Complaining Challenge to shift toward positivity and join her High Vibe Tribe community.
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Hello everybody, how are you doing? I just want to get on here and wish you a happy, happy 4th of July to those of you who are in the States like I am. I am coming at you live from Oregon, um, and I am Valerie Nichols. I am a life coach, and what I do is I help you break your mindsets and your limiting beliefs to have the life that you have always wanted And live the life of your dreams and complete and total freedom. So I just wanted to come on here today and talk to you about celebrating independence. And to me, what that means is when I am completely independent, my choices and my behaviors are not dependent on the actions, the thoughts, or the ideas of someone else. What that means to me is that regardless of if someone hurts me or someone does something that might offend me, or maybe they really truly genuinely cause me a wrong, I have the freedom today to choose to be happy and to walk in my own independence and my own freedom and And my own power, regardless if that person ever comes to me and apologizes or ever even acknowledges that they did me wrong. I'm really, really passionate about this today because I had a conversation this morning that really, you know, opened my eyes up to a couple of things with, with a woman that I work with and What I was left thinking was, I don't understand why women in particular, because I work mainly with women, I don't know why some women in particular choose to stay stuck in negative patterns and And negative thought patterns. And what ends up happening is if I stay in a place where I am insecure and I am reacting to life based off of my own fears and my own insecurities, what's going to happen is that's going to manifest into my life as judgment of others. I'm going to see the world as negative. And what I'm going to do is I'm going to start treating others in the ugliness that I feel inside of myself. Ladies, what I want to say to you today is if you're not at a place yet where you can understand your own value and you can see how beautifully and wonderfully created you are, then I encourage you to get around people who will. It does not add value to your life to remain around people that are negative, that complain, that will straight up tear you down. Because they're hurting. Here's something I've learned in life: hurt people hurt people. There was a time in my life when I was hurting so badly and I just thought so poorly of myself that I didn't care who I hurt because I wanted other people to feel just as much pain as I felt inside. So what I'm conscious of today is surrounding myself with a tribe of high vibe women where I can be lifted up, supported, and loved unconditionally. Because here is the secret: we are all on our own. Paths and our own journeys in life. Regardless of where I'm at today, or regardless of where you're at today, there's more work to be done. There are lessons to be learned, and there are steps we get to take to grow and strengthen our lives. Right now in the High Vibe Tribe, which is a group I run with amazing women, if you are a woman who is craving true and genuine and deep connections because that is what we are created to be, join my High Vibe Tribe group. And start on this journey with us. What we recently started, we started a 30-day challenge in the group of choosing positivity over negativity. We're calling it the 30-Day No Complaining Challenge. None of us have been perfect in it, but what we have is a group of women that we are holding each other accountable And we are coming to the awareness of how often our words and our thoughts and our patterns are so subconscious sometimes. But we are now focusing on the awareness of when we're complaining and what we're complaining about. And I guarantee after these 30 days that we spend doing this, if we all remain diligent, we're going to be— it's going to be life-changing. And each one of the women who are participating in this 30-day challenge are going to change their complete and total lives and complete and change their sphere of influence around them. Think about it. If 10 people in the United States and Canada or wherever you are in the world started choosing positive mindset over negative self-limiting beliefs, How much of an influence could that make globally around the world? So if you're interested in taking the challenge with us, you can jump in at any time. Just request to join the High Vibe Tribe. There's a couple questions you answer and you're in. You can join in with us at any time. So you can private message me if you have any questions about that or if you would like to join. So here's another point I really want to press today with you ladies. And I know that this is going to speak to someone out there. I want to warn you about people who are not going to be cheering you on as you change your positive into a positive mindset. There are going to be people who are going to notice the change in you. And there are going to be those who are going to be so excited, and they're going to support you and lift you up, and they are going to just celebrate you. And then there are going to be those people who are not happy with your change. They're not going to be happy with your decisions to remain in positivity because maybe they liked the negative side of you. They liked when you fed into the drama. They liked when you fed into the gossip. They liked having someone that they could just sit with and, and, and just stew in that misery with them. Some people are not gonna like it. And here's a tip that I want to point out: become aware of the people in your boat and make sure that you surround yourself with people who are going to row with you. And also become aware of the people who are going to stab holes in your boat when you're not watching. It is completely a truth that there are going to be people that are going to try and sabotage your success. And sisters, that is not That is work that they are left to do. So leave that work up to them. You don't have to feel guilty. You don't have to feel shame. And you don't have to try and pull them along with you. Either women are going to run with you and cheer you on through, through the race that you're doing, through the journey that you're taking. Or sadly, you might leave some of them behind. But I guarantee you, as you release the things that are no longer working for you in your life, it will open you up to incredible things and incredible possibilities that you can't even imagine today. So ladies, I want to celebrate Independence Day with you, and I want to celebrate that starting today we have the choice and the opportunity to walk in total and complete freedom. Ladies, I hope this message resonated with someone. If you're watching this on replay, go ahead and put hashtag replay and comment along and let me know what you're celebrating today on your journey. I love you, and I will talk to you soon. Bye!
