Vanessa Van Edwards teaches how to end conversations without awkwardness. Use an "exit voice" (a friendly phrase with a next action), pair it with body language like stepping back and angling toward the door, and commit to leaving. Vague endings kill your charisma.
Wrapping up the conversation sounds like, it's been so wonderful talking to you. And I'm using an exit voice. Do you hear the exit voice?
Mm-hmm.
Right, our tone really matters here. So, it's been so wonderful talking to you. I hope that that goes great this weekend, or be sure to connect with me on LinkedIn. I was so happy we were able to trade numbers. So, you're mentioning the action that's going to come later, and it's using that closing voice, and then the action. I'm gonna go grab more coffee. I'm gonna go say hi to the host. I'm gonna run to the ladies' room. I'm going to head home. Then they cannot, you've ended it then. And you also can use nonverbal cues here. So, the moment I take a step back, the moment I angle my body towards the door, our brain subtly sees, ah, they're literally trying to physically disengage. So, usually I pair those with those subtle nonverbal cues of a slow backup and an angle towards the door.
Okay.
And remember, you can be assertive with this. The worst kind of last impression is a lingering awkwardness. There is nothing worse than a, well, this has been good. It's, it's been good for you. It's, it's been good for me. Well, um, so, uh, those are the worst. So be assertive with this. If you wanna end it, if you're feeling it's the end, do it. It's been so great talking to you. I'm gonna go grab some more coffee. Good luck at the wine bar this weekend. Have so much fun. Right? Like, be assertive with it or else it will linger. And that is just kryptonite for charisma.
