Vishen Lakhiani explains that forgiveness is a powerful, transformative practice with measurable benefits for brainwave states, physical performance (vertical jump, endurance), sleep, anxiety, and relationships. He supports this with references to institutes and university research, a neuroscientific example from the Biocybernaut Institute, and a detailed personal anecdote about a man ('Daniel') who forgave his brother across space/time leading to an unexpected apology. The talk frames forgiveness as both a biological and interpersonal healing mechanism.
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How do you become unfuckwithable? Forgiveness. Okay, Forgiveness. Now I remember when I was at the Biocybernaut Institute, this was the story they told me. There was a woman, she was showing incredible improvements in her brainwave state. And so the neuroscientist asked her, what, what are you doing? And she goes, I don't know, I'm just forgiving that asshole. And all she was doing in the chamber was forgiving her husband for cheating on her. But the act of forgiveness was causing her brainwaves to go through this incredible evolution more and more and more towards the ideal brainwave state of monks who spend decades in meditation. Forgiveness is that magic pill. Studies are now showing that forgiveness does so many other things. It improves your sports ability. It actually improves vertical jump and increases endurance. What? It's crazy, right? University of Israel. Forgiveness increases endurance. I think it was Utrecht University. Forgiveness improves your vertical jump. I literally had a Olympian basketball player reach out to me to say, how can I master forgiveness after I shared that study. It helps you sleep better, it helps resolve nervousness, anxiety. It improves your relationship with everyone around you. But it also seems to transcend space and time and cause the person you're forgiving to go through an awakening or healing. So let me tell you a quick crazy story. Crazy story that, that happened to me. So I was at one of these institutes with Dave Asprey. He's the founder of the biohacking movement. Brilliant, brilliant man. He studies everything that has the potential to heal and transform human beings. So I was there with this group of really high level people. Obviously it's an expensive protocol, 15,000 for five days. So high net worth individuals. And we were having breakfast in the morning at a nearby inn before we went to the institute for, for a five hour long meditation session. So this was around day three. And this guy comes running down the stairs, let's just call him Daniel. But he comes running down the stairs and he's staring at his phone. And I asked Daniel, is everything okay? And he goes, my, my, my brother just messaged me and I go, is everything okay with your brother? He goes, no, you don't understand. I haven't spoken to my brother in, in two and a half years. We rarely talk. So Daniel was 50 and he told me that when he was 10 years old, his brother had sexually assaulted him and it fucked him up for decades. He couldn't have a normal, healthy relationship. He could only sleep with, with hookers. He needed cocaine. He was hooked on cocaine for a large amount of his time. And Then he'd made the efforts to become clean, to clean himself up. But he lost decades of his life because of what happened to him. And, of course, he hated his brother. He stopped talking to his brother. And Daniel told me that for the last three days, all he was doing in terms of forgiveness was seeking to forgive his brother across space and time. His brother did not know what he was doing, but his brother messaged Daniel and sent Daniel a YouTube video that he had recorded. The brother had recorded this YouTube video apologizing for what he did. This happened across space and time, and the brother had no way of knowing that Daniel was practicing forgiveness. Wow. And so there's a. There's a healing influence that seems to happen. Now, we can't measure this scientifically, like, in all the scientific studies of forgiveness. They don't talk about this phenomenon because you can't understand what's going on. They talk about how forgiveness improves your biology. It helps you sleep, it can reduce back pain. All of these incredible benefits that you should do, that you should, which means you should do it anyway. But what I've seen, and I've experienced these similar things as Daniel. I've seen people that I forgive message me out of the blue saying, hey, I'm so sorry for what I did. I was an absolute jerk. And it's healing for both them and you. That's incredible. I mean, you can't heal yourself, they say, unless you forgive, right?
