How to completely take control of your thoughts

Intrusive thoughts can often feel like a volcano. It builds and builds and builds. It's dormant for a period, builds and builds and then erupts. But when the lava cools down, it remineralizes the soil. Now what's this analogy telling us about thoughts? An unmanaged thought will keep erupting like a volcano destroying parts of our life. There is regrowth. We can learn from those things. But then if we don't sort out the volcano, we get triggered and the whole thing happens all over again. When we talk about managing intrusive thoughts, we're talking about understanding that we need to get that volcano to become extinct. And eventually when a volcano is extinct, you can still see the shape of the volcano. Your story never goes away, but it's no longer erupting and triggering your life and creating this trauma and damage, etc. And all these damage to relationships and so on. You actually get to the point where you are controlling the triggers and that would be like an extinct volcano.