This content was created by Vishen Lakhiani. This content was uploaded by Vishen Lakhiani. This is a YouTube video titled "The Dalai Lama's Remarkable Practice of Presence | Austin Mao" created on November 5, 2024. It features Austin Mao discussing the concept of presence, connection, and learning, referencing the Dalai Lama's approach to human interaction and the Internal Family Systems model.
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And ask them about their lives, about their day, about their dreams and their passions, from the CEO down to the WAITS staff. Just being completely with the human inside of each of them in that moment. What I imagine is that person in front of them is the most important person in the world. To the Dalai Lama. I seek to emulate that in my life when I'm with people. But the interesting thing about being present with other people, it's all about me being with you and your experience. But actually it's about me feeling myself at the same time. The impact that you have on me when you blink or when you move your legs or when you. The way that you're sitting with me right now, like the impact that you're having on me, and me being able to relate that back to you, and recognition of how I'm impacting you, getting curious about you, etc. That's real presence in connection. So is presence simply a form of stillness and focus on the person that you're being present with, or is there more to it? I think there's so much more to it. Something I'm very passionate about. How do we learn and how do we teach? And there are two kinds of learning. There's didactic, AKA from a book, from a lesson from mindvalley, and there's transmission, which is you and me sitting here and me intuitively feeling you, you intuitively feeling me. I believe both are extraordinarily valuable, especially the didactic, to teach other people. And one of the things that I learned from a field called internal Family Systems ifs, which is the fastest growing psychotherapeutic and psychospiritual model. And it's all about parts. Parts work. If you've ever said, a part of me feels anger, a part of me feels sad, a part of me is confused. Well, you're kind of speaking that language. And what ifs says is that there are all these protective parts and what they're protecting you from is feeling yourself, feeling the tender, wounded inner child of yourself. Those buried deep down parts that IFS calls exiles. The one that has been most prominent in my life is the one that carries a burden, a voice that says, I'm alone and actually goes a little deeper. It's an existential quality of I'm spiritually alone. Like I can't be met in my spiritual experience of myself. And when I was unaware of that part I would do in my life is I would seek to enroll people into my quote, unquote level of spirituality. How that would express sometimes is let's say I'm facilitating other people through their transformation. If it didn't go perfectly, I would get anxious, I would get angry, I would get stressed out because that part inside of me was like, oh, no, that person's not going to be my friend. That's. The person's not going to connect with me.
