A speaker with 20 years in personal growth argues that chasing perfection deepens imposter syndrome. Research shows success splits 50/50 between confidence and competence. The fix: stop hiding your flaws and embrace them instead.
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20 years.
Becoming Philosophy.
50/50 — equal parts confidence and competence.
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Are you walking down this slippery slope? You want to become a better person. You keep finding new teachers, new trainings. You keep working on yourself. And the more you work, the more you feel that you are as far from perfection as you have ever been, or maybe even further. Well, I've been in personal growth and transformation for 20 years. I've seen the people who actually get down this rabbit hole and can't get out. The more they work on themselves, the more they feel that they are imperfect. And there's much more to do. Do you know that this is exactly how imposter symbols syndrome works? In fact, statistics shows that the more competent you are, the more likely you are to feel imposter syndrome, because the more you know, the more you realize that you really do not know. It's like a vicious cycle. So what do you do? Well, you obviously need to break out of this pattern. I need to work on myself because I'm far from perfection. And then feeling that you are even further from perfection because you've been working so hard. Well, I believe that in our contemporary world, our obsession with perfectionism is exactly the thing that leads us to the dark side. Because anything that doesn't correspond to the picture of the best version of me is so hard to face. We do not know what to do with that, how to deal with this. So we shove it away in the dark corner, and that's how the dark side arises. So do you want to break out of this vicious cycle? Well, I've written a book specially for you. For you, who suffers from imposter syndrome, from perfectionism, who realizes that you're as far from being the best version of yourself as can be. It's called becoming philosophy. It is about embracing your imperfections and realizing that it is your imperfections that make you who you really are and maybe hold your most unique and most important value for the world. Research says that your success depends in equal parts on how confident you are and how competent you are. So, 50 50. And today I want to ask you a very tricky question. What do you think? Are you more competent or more confident? Vote in the comments below.
