Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

Which lane of life are you in?

27 Sept 2022 · 1 min

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A short motivational monologue advising listeners to make self-praise familiar and self-criticism unfamiliar. The speaker uses a highway-lane metaphor to argue you cannot occupy both confidence and insecurity simultaneously, so you must decide which lane to stay in and commit to it.

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If you want to change your life on a dime, I cannot recommend enough. Make self praise familiar and make criticizing yourself unfamiliar. Move away from that. See, your mind can't go in two lanes. Here we are. This is a highway. There's that lane, and there's that lane. In this lane, I'm confident. I'm making praise familiar. I believe I've got something to offer the world. I'm nice, I'm smart, and this lane is. Oh, God, I'm really anxious and I get things wrong, and I'm not very good. But you can't be in both lanes. There's no way you can drive in both those lanes simultaneously. So decide which lane you're going in, which is always that one, and stay in it.