Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

Your body might be present, but your subconscious is always scanning for safety

13 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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A short monologue (YouTube transcript) in which the speaker tells an anecdote about refusing dermatological removal of sunspots—framing them as ‘tattoos’ that mark memories—and uses this to reflect on how many women live by others’ beliefs, feel absent from their own lives, and regain wellbeing when they reclaim their sense of self, improving relationships across the board.

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My dermatologist. I went for my yearly checkup, and she's like, you know, while we're here, we could take care of some of those sunspots. I said, for what? They're just going to come back. Yeah, but you're here. We should just get rid of them. Are you kidding? These are my tattoos. Do you know how many beaches I've been on? Do you know how many times I've made love to my husband on some exotic part of the world? That's what all of this reminds me of. Some people get tattoos, I collect sunspots, and I am not ashamed. And so I had to really examine my beliefs, because what I realized is at the core of so much of the suffering for these women who come to me over and over and over again that say, I feel like something is missing. What is missing every damn time is them. They are missing from their lives. I help them get themselves back into their lives. And you know what? Their marriages get better, their relationships with their parents, their children, their communities, their bodies, everything expands. But we don't spend enough time really being honest about the beliefs that we've built our life on. So when you wake up and you feel invisible or like you're hovering over your life, it's probably because you've built a life based on somebody else's belief of what the world should be.