Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

Your vibes and your energy are contagious, literally.

3 Mar 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief talk, the speaker challenges the common belief that yelling is about volume, asserting instead that it is defined by tone. He illustrates how human behavior is contagious through the example of yawning, explaining that mirror neurons cause us to automatically mimic observed emotions. The speaker argues that negative vibes and a yelling tone trigger others' mirror neurons, which then reflect negativity back, creating a feedback loop that can quickly spiral into conflict. To break this cycle, he emphasizes the importance of self‑regulation—consciously managing one's own emotional state and energy before entering conversations—to ensure that the energy conveyed is constructive rather than destructive.

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Have you ever been accused of yelling when you did not think you were yelling? I hear a lot of guilty laughter. Yes, I've got news for you. You were yelling. Okay, so yelling is not about volume. Yelling is about tone. And this is why it's important to understand this. Think about if we're in a room and somebody yawns. What happens next? Other people yawn. It's a weird human thing, right? And for some of you, even me saying the word yawning, I got you. I got you, right? Even saying Just saying the word yawning triggers it. Why? Because of mirror neurons. So mirror neurons are nerve receptors that reflect back the emotions that we see. So in other words, vibes matter. If I'm coming into this conversation with negativity, if I am yelling in this conversation, what happens? Their mirror neurons see that, they reflect it back to me. Then my mirror neurons see that and they say, are you— do you have an attitude with me? And now things spiral out of control very quickly. So we need to be making sure that we manage our own emotions so we carry the right energy into these conversations.