A conversational segment from a YouTube video (hosted by Josh Trent) about handling separation with respect for the children. Speakers describe releasing animosity, honoring each other’s freedom, and committing to personal healing so children are not burdened by parental anger. The clip also emphasizes practical communication habits—simple check-ins and commitments to support growth—and ends with the host's standard video outro.
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Well, even though, you know, I wasn't so versed in wounding and trauma, and, you know, none of us were, I could see where their beliefs were because they were very spiritual people. I wouldn't have it otherwise, but it was like, that's not my path. And, yes, we both had children with both of them. And, you know, what that did to the children and all, you know, I didn't. It's just like, I know that's not my path, and I didn't have language like. Like, I'm working with you. If I had somebody work with me and them, it would have been a hole, but that wasn't the story. And even my last marriage, it was like, go do what you need to do rather than trying to hide it. Go be that person you need to be. It was kind of loving you in freedom. And we still have a relationship, you know, and I. Yeah, sure, I'd love to talk to him and. But no, he doesn't want to go there. So I just let him go in freedom and out of due respect for our child. I knew that was so important, not to have any animosity because of the child. It's like we are separate. I honor him and I honor me, but there is no animosity that sometimes I had to work at, because the children will sense that even when they're adults, and that will burden them. That will. That will bring them to trauma. So it's so important to just work through all of that. They're in their freedom, I'm in mine, even no matter what had happened.
Does that sound familiar?
It's really freeing. Yeah. I really love that aspect of relationship, to let someone go with honor and love, especially when you do have children, because on some level, you're going to be with him the rest of your life. You're going to have them in your life. So. And that was a kind of thought for me. It's like, even if me and Josh do go our separate ways, it's like, I. I still have a duty to do the deepest work to heal my relationship with myself, because that's going to affect my children. It'll affect our relationship even if we are separate. So the commitment was really to doing my own deeper work. And I do find it that you are the best person to do it with because you want to. You're willing. And for so long, I think, in our relationship, I just didn't want to, like, budge in that way with you, because you're telling me, like, it's you, and you need to do this. And some things were very true. Like, I'm like. Yeah, I can see that. I can see that. So now I just. I don't know. I just feel like. Because you don't. I was gonna say because you don't need me now I feel like I can actually trust you. Like, I can trust that I can lean into you and that you're. You're.
Well, he doesn't need you to be a certain way.
Yes. That's it. That's it.
I'm. I'm open. I mean, what is. What is commitment? I am open to supporting you to grow.
Yes.
No matter what. But please communicate. Yes.
Give me something when we're in the shit store.
Give me some hope. Yeah.
Tell me. I'll talk to you tomorrow at 5. And I'm good with that. That's all I need.
Yep. Hardest thing for me. Sure. Yep.
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