Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

ARE YOU GROWING TOGETHER OR FALLING APART?

10 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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A short conversational excerpt from a YouTube video (hosted/created by Josh Trent) discussing how conflict in relationships can either be toxic or a catalyst for growth. Key points: conflict is inevitable; the important factors are how lovingly and quickly partners repair and reduce reactivity; shared commitment to growth allows working through patterns and trauma; trying to change a partner often signals an inner avoidance.

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When is something toxic and when is it an edge that you can grow from? Any conflict is a potential edge to grow from. There is always going to be rupture. I think that's inevitable in any relationship. If there's not, frankly, I'd be skeptical. It's like, how lovingly can you repair? And again, it's like reducing the half life of reactivity. It's like, how quickly can you go from being in that place of conflict into, okay, we're back in connection? Is there some kind of agreement or commitment that you've both made that the relationship is there in part to serve as a catalyst for your growth? If that's there, then my sense is that any degree of conflicts or any degree of trauma, bonding or patterns can be worked through. But if you're trying to change your partner, it's essentially a sign that there is something within you that you're not willing to feel.
People can feel when you're around them that you want them to be something other than they are. If I'm so focused on making my woman act different, then what am I hiding from in my own development?