Billie Eilish's Porn Obsession Began at Age 11! This Is How She Healed from Porn Addiction

I think it's really important to talk about people that are idolized. False prophets, False idols. Billie Eilish, and this is on the screen right now for everyone watching on YouTube and Spotify. Billie Eilish actually shared a clip that we're going to link to. And she had said she got exposed to pornography when she was 11 years old. And she said that it really hurt her on such a deep level because when she was exposed to it, she knew that it hurt her brain. And here she is a very, you know, popularized singer. I think many people have heard of, of Billie Eilish, but the fact that she has the courage to share publicly about how pornography had wounded her and how she's taken so much of her life to actually heal herself from pornography is so very special. And it's what exactly the world needs right now. I want to flip that to you going back to current events and if you could take us through a play by play, just, you know, paint a story for us here. How did you desexualize your brain from pornography and what transformation has happened because of that?

Man, we're getting to some neuroscience. This is my favorite subject when it comes to recovery. So pornography has four primary effects on the brain. The first is desensitization. So desensitization is what you watch or what you're used to watching doesn't give you the hit. So you need to watch more of it, you need to watch it more intensely or you need to watch something new. The second effect is sensitization, which is the exact opposite. And this is where your brain starts to. You see something that would be seemingly innocent, but for you, it becomes a trigger because your brain is, is craving it. And so it's looking for things that maybe remind you of scenes you've watched or whatever. Um, the third is a poor stress response. So this is very prevalent. We see this a lot in our clients. They have low capacity for emotional stress, physical stress, whatever it is, they just don't have the wherewithal. And the fourth is a thing called hypofrontality, where, you know, the prefrontal cortex makes all your executive decisions, allows you to look long term. And when you have hypofrontality, this part of your brain, literally, just like it, becomes less active and it can start to rewire and reshuffle the priorities within your brain. So when you have someone like Billie Eilish, who's talking about early exposure, the first thing we need to understand is that when, when a minor gets exposed to pornography and their Brain is not fully developed, that dependency becomes very high because their sexual development basically goes in synchrony with pornography. And as we stated earlier, what porn provides to the brain is what they call a supernormal stimulus. In other words, the level of stimulation it provides is unnaturally high. There's. There's nothing else you could experience that would even match up to it. Which is why today. I don't know if you've ever heard this stat before, Josh. About 30% of men under the age of 40 are dealing with erectile dysfunction. And the reason for that, you know? Well, there's a couple reasons, but in my biased opinion, the reason for that is because of pornography. Because. Because we're getting exposed at a young age. Porn is rewiring the threshold for what we need to feel arousal. And unfortunately, real life experiences just aren't cutting it. So if you follow that quote a little bit with Billy Eilish, I believe you're talking about the interview with Howard Stern. And. And if not, then there. I think there was another clip as well. But in her interview with Howard Stern, there's a few. Yeah, there's a few. Yeah. In her interview with Howard Stern, she actually talked about how when she started to be sexually active, she started to do things that she thought were normal because that's what she saw in the pornography she watched. And then she started to realize, like, I don't feel good about myself. That kind of felt weird, you know, Like. Like, not. Not everything is totally connecting when she's having these experiences. And then. And then after more conversation and more exploring, she's realizing, oh, those are like. That's like bdsm. That's, like, really intense stuff. But she just thought it was normal. She didn't. She didn't think it was any different. And she thought, if I don't provide this, then it's not a real or a quality sexual experience. So porn wreaks havoc on the brain for all these reasons, especially when there's early exposure. My word. I mean, we could get into study upon study of how early exposure can lead to infertility, greater chances of affairs, more likely to pay for sex. Bisex. Like, the list goes on and on. Um, but the. The whole brain part of it is where is really kind of the centerpiece. As far as I'm concerned, this is where. This is where we have to be really careful if we really want to heal and. And make sure that porn isn't having that effect on us.

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Yeah.

If this was, if this was around the type of media that's around 50 years ago, there'd be rioting in the streets. But now we've been slowly conditioned. We have been slowly conditioned. Just like when you boil a frog and it kills itself by staying in the water because it doesn't know it's being boiled. Our soul, our connection to spirit is through, is going through a boiling process right now. I, I do believe that our soul and our connection to spirit is going through a heating up, a boiling process right now. You and I have, have left the boiling water a long time ago, but we have so many brothers and sisters. We have so many people that are in the water thinking it's normal.

Yeah.

Without knowing that they're being cooked alive. And. And you know what the prize is, Sethia? The prize is the soul. The prize is the human soul. And there could not be a more important prize on planet Earth.

The reality is.

And you.

You said this earlier. I loved it. The reason that we watch pornography is rarely actually a sexual reason. Almost never. Yeah. It has nothing to do with sex. It's not about your sexual needs. It's not about any of that. It's actually much more fundamental. And so for us, when we talk about the root issues, we'll try not to be too ethereal here. We've broken it down into three primary buckets. So the first is what we call emotional fitness. So when we're trying to help people, we're trying to help people build emotional fitness. We're trying to. Somebody lacks emotional fitness, it's that numbness. It's that inability to access the inner world. Thoughts, feelings, everything that's going on within. And this is sort of like the gateway, you know, because, like, if you ask somebody, like, well, why did you watch pornography? You know, you said you're trying to stop what happened today. A lot of the guys that we work with are like, oh, well, you know, I was stressed or I was bored or, you know, I was. I was horny. I don't know. It just kind of hit me. It's like, no, no, no. There was stuff going on underneath. We need to, we need to access it. So that's the first bucket. The second bucket is what we would call a transformation of the heart. And this is where people are working through traumas. It doesn't mean that you have, like a sexual trauma history. Again, like, for me, some of my traumas were just parent child dynamics that existed growing up. And I grew up in a. Actually relatively stable and, and healthy home. But no one's perfect. You know, there's always going to be those dynamics. And so when we're talking about transformation of the heart, we're talking about really working through different experiences in life that have ultimately contributed to the decisions you're making now. And then the third thing is shifting your identity, and this is shutting off the old beliefs. You know, I, I'm so grateful for, like an Alcoholics Anonymous or 12 steps that have kind of paved the way for addiction coaching and addiction recovery. There are some things I'm not a huge fan of, and, and I, again, I think they're fantastic and they do very good work. But one of their, one of their philosophies is, you know, once an addict always an addict. You know, you introduce yourself, hi, I'm Josh. I' addict. We just can't subscribe to that ourselves because we believe so much in the shifting of an identity. Like, if you believe you're an addict, then you will continue to stay addicted by faith, because you believe that's what you are. So we really, we really believe in that. And the way we know somebody has properly gone through it, we have a little saying which is that you reach a place where you would rather be 100% your true self and rejected than 80% your true self and accepted.

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