Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

DO THIS TO STOP PEOPLE-PLEASING

11 Jul 2025 · 1 min

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Short YouTube video by Josh Trent offering practical advice to stop people-pleasing: practice saying authentic “no” in low-stakes situations (e.g., order the salad when others order breadsticks) to build trust in yourself and make saying no easier in higher-stakes scenarios.

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If you notice yourself saying, I'm a recovering people pleaser, I'm a recovering perfectionist, well, then do this Practice the next time you have a low stakes situation in your life. It could be as simple as like sitting at a table and all your friends order the breadsticks and you really want to order the salad, but you want to fit in. Use those moments to feel and practice saying your authentic no. Many times, a no is the greatest gift we could ever give to anyone. Our no is so powerful. When I receive a no from someone, it just makes me trust them. When we say no, it's a flex of our love for ourself. And the more times you can practice saying no in low stakes situations, the more it's going to happen. In high stakes situations when there's potential financial or harder consequences.