Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

Most married couples face this issue (unknowingly)

30 Jul 2026 · 0 min

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In this candid testimonial, the speaker recounts how his marriage has been affected by a pattern of sexual and emotional disconnection. He acknowledges that he has been sexually manipulative, causing his wife to engage in sex she did not want, and that he has objectified her, reducing intimacy to a mechanical process. He describes how sex has become a checklist activity, leaving both partners feeling detached. His wife often dissociates during sex because he is not present, and she responds by withdrawing from the space. The speaker reflects on the difficulty of recognizing and addressing these issues, highlighting a common but often unspoken problem in many marriages.

My wife told me that there was times where I was sexually manipulative and we had sex and she didn't want to. And there was times where I made her feel completely objectified. And there was times where, like, sex had become such a process that it felt like we were just checking a box and, like, we'd do it and, and, like, she didn't feel into it, I didn't feel into it. She told me she would disassociate during sex because I was so not present that she would become not present, and she reacted to me not being there by also leaving the space. It was so hard to