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Not all #Attachment styles are negative. Learn why with Adam Lane Smith. #wellnesspodcast #growth

14 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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YouTube interview segment (Adam Lane Smith) discussing attachment styles. Key claims in this chunk: ~50% of American adults have an attachment issue; attachment is how we give/receive love and is learned very early (from minutes after birth through early childhood — mentions ages up to ~6, 7, 12). Secure attachment is described as receiving consistent, authoritative parenting (caring authority, protection, listening, collaborative problem-solving).

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About 50%.

From minutes after birth up until early childhood — speaker mentions ages around 6, 7, and up to 12.

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The research indicates that about 50% of American adults now have an attachment issue. Attachment is the way that we connect to other people to give and receive love. We learn this from minutes after birth up until age 6, age 7, age 12. Our whole childhood is about learning. Are people going to love me? Do I live in an environment where people will support me? Do I live in a place where people will love and care for each other? Or is it a fight for resources and survival and no one will help me? And is it my fault? Am I unlovable? Or are other people broken? And the brain starts trying to filter all this information from six months old. So secure attachment is. Your parents raised you and they gave you consistent love. Not permissive love, but what we would call authoritative parenting style. I'm an authority figure, but I care for you, I protect you, I grow you. I listen to you. I take you seriously. You have a need. I work with you to solve it.