Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

One question can change everything!! #podcast #podcastclips

8 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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Short spoken segment arguing that asking 'what' (what happened) is more useful and answerable than asking 'why'—'why' is vague and elicits 'I don't know'. The speaker gives concrete examples (child disliking school, sibling conflict, brushing teeth, broccoli) to show that 'what' uncovers actionable specifics (abuse, cause of anger, softer toothbrush, alternative foods).

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Never ask why. Why is a terrible question. Even if you knew why. It's not powerful. But we don't know why. Why is meaning. Meaning is made up. What? What is answerable? Why? I don't know. And that's what you'll get from your kid. Why don't you like school? I don't know. What is it about school that you don't like? I had a client ask her kid that question and comes to me and finds out her kid is being molested at school just because she asked the right question. What? Not why don't you like school? What is happening at school that you don't like? Why did you hit your sister? I don't know. What did your sister do that pissed you off? Now we got a question. What don't you like about brushing your teeth? Oh, the bristles hurt my gums. Oh, now I can get a softer toothbrush. What is it about broccoli that you don't like? We can try a different vegetable. So what is a really good. It's answerable.