Secure Attachment Style: How to Raise Healthy Kids #secureattachment #attachmentstyles #healthykids

I have a 7 year old son and no one will be shocked to know that a seven year old boy wants lots of toys and loves eating ice cream and wants all kinds of unreasonable things all the time. And I don't yell at him and say that's stupid. No, absolutely not. Because I'm your dad. Do what I say. Stop talking to me. He asks for something and I get down on his level and say, good buddy, tell me what you're thinking, tell me what you're wanting. And I listen to him and I say, okay, let me present this idea. Have you ever eaten too much ice cream? Yeah. Why? Did you feel really sick now? Imagine if that was every single day, all the time. Would you like to feel sick all the time? Forever? No. Now we've identified balance. Let's figure out a balance point for how sick you want to feel versus how healthy you want to feel. Here's healthier foods that are going to take care of you. Right? You raise your child as an apprentice adult. If you were raised as an apprentice adult with respect for human dignity and cooperation during conflict, you believed that your parents would cooperate with you during conflict and so will other people and that you were worthy of human respect and dignity. This is secure attachment style. And you can build this.