Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

Stop trying to 'fix' your partner—it’s destroying your intimacy.

26 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment of his relationship‑advice video, Josh Trent warns that attempting to "fix" a partner turns the person into a project, which objectifies them and erodes intimacy. He explains that when you view a spouse’s upset as a problem to be solved, you may start building elaborate processes and routines to prevent the issue from resurfacing—an impossible goal that leads to frustration and further distance. The core message is that the mindset of fixing and over‑structuring a relationship damages the emotional connection between partners.

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Like, this isn't okay. Gotta fix it. Yeah, gotta fix it, right? Yeah. And so I would go into fix it, right? And so when you try and fix your wife, you turn her into a project, not a person. You immediately start objectifying her. And I know that this word objectification makes people uncomfortable, but when you fix a person, you are literally saying they're a project. The second thing I would do is build process around it. It's like, okay, well, she's mad about this thing, so I'm gonna make it so that thing never shows up again in our life, which is so impossible. That I would drive myself crazy building structure and process and routine.