The best relationship advice from Dr. Stan Tatkin 🙏🏼 #relationshipadvice #consciousrelationships

You said we have a bite that fits each other's wound. Can you share about that? You and I find each other based on memory. Everything is memory. Almost everything we do, choices we make is memory based, whether we know it or not. I pick you based on familiarity and recognition. If you were too strange, I couldn't. I may be able to have sex with you, but I couldn't commit because you're too far away from home. It's not that nature made a mistake. It's that I still haven't learned how to deal with all these different states that I experience that were unrepaired in childhood. Because I recognize you, you are more likely than not to play some of the characters in my life or to produce feelings in me that recall other experiences with important people with me. And so then I can confuse you with those people.