Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

Understanding emotional resistance in men #tealswan #spirituality #healing #masculinity #emotions

15 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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A short conversational transcript from a YouTube video (uploaded April 15, 2024) discussing how men are socialized to avoid feeling emotions, which leads them to resist both their own feelings and women’s emotions in relationships. The speakers link this dynamic to men attempting to quickly 'fix' or remove others' emotional states. Practical advice includes using slow, deep breathing to settle resistance; the transcript contrasts men who resist emotions with those who can hold emotion without immediately trying to remedy someone else's pain.

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Men have an issue feeling their own emotions for a lot of reasons. I mean, it's not like society has been like, hey, little boy, let's figure out how to process your emotions. It's been like, don't have those. Right.
Good boys. Don't cry.
Yeah. So men do a real terrible job because of a lot of reasons that are not their fault at being with their emotions. And so when women have emotions around them because they don't want to feel their own, they want to immediately, you know, get it away. That resistance to their own emotions ironically causes the resistance to the female's emotions. And that is what causes this response of, let me get you out of this immediately.
When we're there in that sticky spot and we're feeling massive resistance come up, where do we go from there? Really, for me, it's breathing. So if I can breathe, inhale, fill my belly, exhale, slow. It really helps to settle the space.
It's very different when a man does not have resistance to his own emotions and at the same time has the deep desire to remedy the pain of other.