Understanding trauma and how to overcome it #traumahealing #innerpeace #connectionheals

The nature of traumas, micro traumas, massive traumas. It's not the event itself that is the traumatizing bit that triggers a sense of aloneness, isolation, fragmentation where others around you don't relate. You feel a sense of isolation from the coral reef of other humans. You feel broken off from it because of this event. It's the way that you've made sense of that event and the way that you feel alone because of it. So healing happens when another person just looks at you and holds space and says, oh, what was that like? Oh, you mean it's this, okay? And it's that, you know, and you're just holding space for it and you're in it with them. You might cry with them, you might laugh with them, you might get pissed and irritated, but you're holding the space for depth. That's how I think where healing actually takes place for folks.