Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

What your attachment style says about you #relationshipadvice #attachmentstyles #mentalhealth

9 Feb 2024 · 1 min

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A short spoken explanation enumerating three insecure attachment styles: (1) anxious attachment — feeling unlovable after love was withdrawn and seeking approval; (2) avoidant attachment — having received little love, distrusting others and solving stress alone; (3) a combined style where repeated hurt led to forming both patterns. The content is instructional and aimed at describing behavioral origins and internal beliefs tied to these styles.

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Insecure attachment styles. Three of them. Number one is anxious attachment. Somewhere along the line you got love and then it was withdrawn from you and you have become obsessed with getting it again. But you believe that you were the person who lost it. You weren't lovable, someone didn't care about you, and you earned it that way. You think there's something wrong with you on the inside. Everybody else can see. So you have to constantly play a game of earning approval and making people feel good so that they will never see that you are unlovable. Number two is avoidant attachment style. You probably very little received any love at all. And you saw other people fighting, arguing, screaming. There was something wrong with them in your perception, and other people were not to be trusted. During times of stress especially, you thought you had to solve everything alone. There wasn't something wrong with you. But other people would reject you, they would hurt you, they would use things against you, they would take from you, they would never be fair with you or take you seriously. And then there's a third one, which is you were so hurt over and over and over, that one attachment style wasn't enough, so you formed both.