Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

Why love isn’t the glue in a relationship? #podcastclips #relationshipadvice #healthyrelationships

17 May 2023 · 1 min

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A brief excerpt from a YouTube podcast clip (Josh Trent) arguing that romantic love is not the sustaining "glue" in relationships; rather, attachment biology is often confused with love, and shared purpose plus ongoing consensus about goals and mutual pleasing are what maintain healthy relationships over time.

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What happens when that contract breaks? How do we reestablish love to be the glue? Love isn't the glue. Love is not enough. So let's take it out of the feeling realm. Because attachment, the attachment biology is the glue that we confuse with love. Purpose is what keeps us going and keeps us together over time. Happily. What is our purpose at any given moment? Is it shared? Or is it just mine? You and I have to create consensus so that we find always where we agree and where we're the same. Let's find how we're going to please each other, how we're going to work this out so that we both get what we want and we both avoid what we don't want.