Why men + women need to work together #attachmentstyles #marriageadvice #relationships

One of the biggest indicators of a long term, healthy, stable marriage is a hormone called vasopressin. Vasopressin is released when we solve challenges together, overcome problems together, we work as a team. Men have more receptors for vasopressin than women do. And that wanes over a while. It wears off. So we have to refresh it. We have to remember that we are a team. Women detect that through feelings. We don't feel like we used to. We don't feel close. We don't feel like a team. We are stuck in a boring rut. They instinctively, through their feelings, intuitively safeguard the relationship. So when the man says, no thanks, we are shutting off a tremendous amount of the value that they bring to the relationship. So that right there is why wives crave not to be in control, but to be listened to and to be trusted. To have their feelings mean something to their husband. Male and female brains are designed to work together as a system. They must, or everything falls apart. They're not meant to work individually. Men go forward and we build and build and build and we expand. Women follow afterward, and they fill the space that men have built.