Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

Why you actually hate certain people (It's a mirror).

25 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker explains that hatred toward certain people stems from projecting disowned parts of ourselves onto them. Pride leads us to deny these traits, causing us to judge and resent others who reflect what we have not yet integrated. Citing Romans 2:1, the speaker warns against judging others because we are guilty of the same faults. By recognizing when and why we project, taking continuous accountability, and fully owning these traits, we can transform perceived enemies into teachers, appreciating the role they play in revealing hidden aspects of ourselves.

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At first, you're going to be too proud to admit what you see in them inside you, and you're going to have deflective awareness, and you're going to disown parts, and you're going to have dismemberment. You're not owning that part of yourself. And disempowerment, because you're going to want to change them relative to your pride and project your values onto them and try to make them to live in your values, which will be non-sustainable futility. But the moment you actually go and identify where and when you do it, Who'd you do it to? Who perceives you that way? And be accountable to look again and again and again until you own that trait 100%, quantitatively and qualitatively. As it says in Romans 2:1 in the New Testament, beware of judging others, for you do the same thing. But if you look carefully, you only react to people on the outside that represent a part of you on the inside that you haven't owned. And you only resent them because they're reminding you of something you feel ashamed about that you're hiding from yourself. And they come into your life to help you see it. So when you actually go and reflect and see it, you realize that they're your teacher, not your enemy. They're not somebody to avoid, they're somebody to appreciate.