Josh TrentIdentity Transformation Architect and award winning Host of the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast—a decade-strong show with over 750 episodes and 15M downloads.

YOU ATTRACT WHAT FEELS FAMILIAR

19 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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A short excerpt from a YouTube interview ("YOU ATTRACT WHAT FEELS FAMILIAR") in which an unnamed guest describes repeatedly attracting the same kind of partner until a healing journey revealed they were the common denominator. The guest links early childhood experiences of secretive, shame-associated love to adult relationship patterns and explains that the nervous system looks for familiar cues of safety. Host Josh Trent asks the guest to explain the idea that "the body speaks safety."

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Don't stay in the seat of the victim because that is poisonous to you and to everybody around you. I actually attracted the same kind of partner over and over again. And it wasn't until going through my healing journey that I realized, whoa, I'm the common denominator in that. Why am I the common denominator in that? Why do I keep attracting this person that wants to keep me secret or doesn't want to claim me? And I realized, oh, the first way that I experienced love as a little girl from my parental figure was in a dark, secret, shameful back room. You can't run from it or sweep it under the rug. Your nervous system is looking for familiar situations to identify whether it's safe or not. And when we're used to repressing it, we aren't attuned or listening to the body to know that we're safe or we're not safe. And then we'll end up finding ourselves in similar situations again.
You've even said in the past, the body doesn't speak French. The body doesn't speak English. The body speaks safety. Can you go into that.