A Simple Yet Powerful Practice For A Fulfilling Year

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Proof. Hey everybody, it's Adam Markell. And welcome back. Welcome back to another episode of the Change Proof podcast. I am amazed that another year around the sun has already begun. And I hope this just finds you in a great place. And man, I, I don't know where the time goes and we could talk about that, but I won't. I instead want to share something with you today, just myself. So no guest. I'm your guest today as I typically like to start the new year or end the year with some thoughts about life, about business, about just sort of anything that might float into my consciousness in the moment. I hope that's okay with you all. I have enjoyed this year immensely. I've enjoyed the guests that we've had on the show. I hope you have and I hope if you have, you've let us know. And if you haven't, then you've also hopefully let us know because the feedback is, is vital to our growth and we know it's. It's a lot to ask, honestly, with everything that's going on and everything that's vying for our attention all the time, it is a lot to ask for you to take a moment and leave a comment or take that time to give us a rating on the platform that you're consuming the show and letting us know your feelings in, in some ways way, shape or form. But if you have done that, we so appreciate it. And if you haven't and you're willing to, again, thank you so much. And if you're not willing, we thank you too because you know, you have the freedom to make that choice and we more than respect it, we truly honor it. I make those choices just like you every day. What will I give my time and attention to, which I think is a fair lead in to the subject that I wanted to chat with you about today. I'm going to keep my thoughts pretty concise and it'll be a short episode, but I think of a meaningful one. I know what I'm about to share with you has been truly powerful in my own experience and that's frankly the only reason I'm sharing it with you. So I know that the context of change proof is discussions around work, often creating in our Language, the language at work. Well, we like to think of how do we create healthier environments at work, how do we create healthier and happier places to work? And by we, I mean our, our company and the work that we do in working with other companies, working with, with leaders and teams and organizations at a grassroots level on how to meet people where they truly are and not just help to develop greater well being, as that term has been used a lot. And it's sort of general, but really how to chunk it down and get to a granular level on how it is that we meet people in the place they are. And we know where that place is because we've all experienced it. It's a place that's filled with a lot of busyness, it's filled with a lot of responsibilities, a lot of things that are coming at us. It's filled with quite a bit of tension, quite a bit of stress. And we have to manage all of that while still developing our own plan and strategy for our growth, as well as deploying our talents and our skills in the service of others, of the teams that we are a part of, of the organizations that we are a part of, that we are committed to. And then ultimately, hopefully what we're doing each and every day is doing some good. That what we're doing each day hopefully is contributing some value in the world. I think two years ago in our organization at Workwell, our commitment was to add more value. That was sort of the mantra for the year, keeping it really simple, chunking it down was to add more value. And Last year, the 2024 year, our message internally was looking for fresh opportunities for service. There was fresh opportunities for service. That was what was, was fundamentally on our, on our plate and on our hearts and minds. And I think again, when we think about how we do that, we do it as a group. We will always be better as a group than we are individually. We are individually brilliant and miraculous beings and, and superstars in our own right. And we have talents and all of those things. And yet fundamentally, it's when we come together and when we connect with others and we merge those, we synergize our talents, our passions, our abilities, all of all that we bring to the table, the change becomes exponential. And so often I think we are exhausted and many of us even feeling anxious and dare I even use the word burned out from time to time because we're trying to go it alone, because we somehow feel alone. And loneliness is a real thing that a lot of people have been feeling more and more in the last several years, not just during the pandemic, but certainly since and before even. And I think when we do try to do things, when we try to go it solo thinking that we're better off that way, that we have more control in that scenario, that we don't maybe think that we can trust others or trust the system even then ultimately we're struggling that struggle. And I think that struggle is optional. That's a viewpoint. You don't have to buy that. But I think that we create that struggle for ourselves when we try to go at, in some way, shape or form without the collaboration of other people, when we work together, when we are part of something bigger than ourselves, the exhaustion disappears, the burnout disappears. We just don't have to go it alone. That is a route to a dead end, let's put it that way. So today I wanted to share something around how it is that, that we individually work on ourselves while recognizing the whole time that to work on ourselves, to work on us individually is our, our personal responsibility. And yet, just like a puzzle piece, it doesn't. It won't matter as much as it can matter if we don't merge our piece, if we don't find our piece to place in the puzzle, and if we're not looking, I think vigilantly looking for opportunities to contribute to something that's greater than ourselves finding that place to drop our puzzle piece, or looking for others to help us to find the placement, the great placement of that puzzle, puzzle piece that is us, because we are a mystery. We are a puzzle, to be sure. So my own evolution and hopefully gaining some greater consciousness each, each year that goes by and maybe even at a more daily level, at least that's what I aspire to. I have a practice and that practice is something that I want to share with you today. I did that last year as well. But it's a different practice that I'm going to share today, one that came to me through a mentor this year. You may know that a mentor can be somebody who is alive or somebody who's passed on. I know it sounds funny to have a mentor that's no longer alive, but I have one and I know a lot of you do as well, that you read the books of and you study and you think about people from the past, whether they're relatives or they're people that have inspired you in some way by their example in the world. The things they've done, the things they spoke about, they taught, they did. And so, yeah, alive or in some other realm, we can have mentors of all kinds. So my mentor is a. Someone who was known as Emmett Fox. That was his. His earthly name, Emmett Fox. And where he is now, I do not know. But his legacy lives on. It certainly lives on in me, and I know it lives on in many, many other people. He's a metaphysician, philosopher, probably could have called him a social psych, could call him a social psychologist, but not the term that would have been used for him, you know, back in the day. And for sure, he was a person who spoke and spoke to many people and wrote, and his writing impacted many people. So all of those things really resonate deeply with me and the work or the path that I've been on and the work I've been doing. But one thing that I learned in reading more and more of his work, I started to practice this year, and that's the practice I'm going to share with you now, which is the following. I was instructed through writing, through something I read, to try an exercise. And the exercise was really simple to write down on a piece of paper. I mean, you could obviously use any other form. You could use technology to do it of any kind of your choosing. But I really have been focused this year a lot on analog, on regaining some. Some connection to the analog. So I could read articles and lots of things online. And I do, of course, like we all do, I think. But I really wanted to read the newspaper this year. I could read a book on a Kindle or in some other way using technology. But instead I've really leaned back on reading a book that I could hold in my hand. And I feel like that is in many ways when I'm reading a book or reading newspaper, doing those tactile things, those things that are analog and not digital, I'm giving my brain, my mind, my body, even an opportunity to recover. And as many of you know, our philosophy around resiliency is that it is not about grit. It's not about our ability to even bounce back as much as it is about our capacity to recover and therefore grow and move forward. So it's really about bouncing forward. And so in recovery, there's lots of rituals for recovery. Many of our episodes we've talked about that. And much of the work we do with organizations focuses at a granular level on how to ritualize recovery so that people can be at their best and therefore produce their best. So in this instance, I chose to do it this exercise with a paper and a pen, and I sat Down. And the first instruction was to write down all of the things that I want. Basic what do I. What do I want in my life right now? And it took a minute and to write them all. And I started with. With one thing. And the first thing I'm happy to share with you was to think. To think rightly each and every moment of the day. And by think rightly, you might intuit what that means, but to me, it's to be able to think in a way that really is how I would want to experience myself. If I could separate me from me and look objectively at myself. How would I want to experience myself if I was someone else, for example? And that's loving and kind and grateful and open and vulnerable and trusting and, you know, and a million other things that just are the things that I would want to be in the moment. And all of those ways of being begin with our. With my thoughts. And so to think rightly each moment of the day is a high bar. It's a high standard, since I know that I think wrongly a lot of the time. Time when I'm judging people, when I'm dwelling on negative thoughts, you know, and I won't get into the list. It's a long, long list. We understand. We know, like if we take a moment, take a breath even in this moment, and check in with yourself and think about, you know, what you've been thinking about for the last hour, what have you been thinking about periodically throughout the day? I mean, frankly, if. If the police, if the FBI or, you know, the CIA or whoever, if they knew what we were really thinking, you know, we'd all be locked up, I think so from time to time. Because that's the nature of our. Of that monkey brain, that we all have that ancestral way of thinking. And so it's impossible, I know, to think rightly every single moment. But if I was going to create a list and I was going to start with any one thing that I truly desired, that was it. And. Yeah, do I think that it's likely that I will be able to do that? No. But can I think rightly more frequently? Can I think rightly more often? Because I'm consciously aware of it. Because it's something that I've stated that I truly want and that I'm focused on, that I can. I can be 100% committed to. I could be committed in the moment that I'm aware of, that. Yes, I think that is dual. So I began this list. And the list is about a page and a Half of, of line by line, things to do with, with health, with relationships, with business, with family, with leadership, with how, how I spend my time and, and what brings me joy. I won't get into the whole list. I won't read the list to you, but it's about a page and a half. So that was the first part of the exercise. Write down the things that you, that you want. And then the second part are the things that you wish to remove from your life. And I began to write those things down. What things did I want to remove from my life? And, and that was just as easy a list. And maybe it was even quicker for me to write down the things that I wish to remove from my life. And mostly those things were, were really just about me and about how I was showing up or how I was being on a daily basis, like how, how good or poorly I, or bad I, I listen to other people, how compassionate or, or not am I, how, how often I become agitated, where, where I, I ultimately allow my thinking to spiral into negativity. And, and again, I'm not going to read the entire list, but, but the things that I wanted to remove from my life became a, an exhaustive list of the things that I know that, that, that were truthful, that I was aware of and yet I was willing to tolerate. And I think that's the truth for all of us, that there are things we know about ourselves that are not the way we'd like them to be. There are things in our lives that we have control over that are about how we show up. And there are also things in our lives that are a bit outside of our control, including the people we're around and the people we spend time with and how we engage with those people. Like, for example, you know, we can all talk, talk a bit of gossip, talk about other people. And I wrote that down. I said, I want, I want to remove from my life any, any moment where I'm willing to talk smack about someone else, especially if they're not around. It might sound obvious and it might sound like, oh, yeah, yeah, right. But it got on the list. It's not the only thing by any means, but it got on the list being, you know, being a poor listener, got on the list, things like that, as well as other things. So I have this exhaustive list now of both the things that I want and the things that I want to remove. And the next part of the exercise, after writing those two lists down, and I again wrote them physically on paper so I could have that piece of paper to look at. And then I did in fact start to look at it, because that was the instruction to look at it each day, to look at it for five minutes or 10 minutes or whatever it might be at a time during the day when things were quiet and I could sit with those things and think about them. So the beginning of the day was really that time for me. I know some people, it's quieter for them at night or at some other point. But again, if you choose to take this on or try this out, know that you could do it at any point that makes sense for you. The only thing that's sort of, well, not sort of, the only thing that is a requirement in my view, having, having done this, is that you're consistent with it. So pick a time and do it at that time. Because if you try to do it at different times, you may likely forget. And it's not a habit yet, it may never become a habit. So set yourself up for success. How often it is that we set ourselves up for failure. We don't think about the process and we don't stick to the process. So the process for me was waking up in the morning, doing my morning rituals, and then finding this five to ten minute quiet time to sit with nobody around, just by myself and read through both sides of that paper, reading through the things that I wanted to bring into my life and the things that I wanted to remove from my life. And I've done that now every day for several months. And that's why I can say that to me, this is one of the most beautiful things that I've. I've ever been introduced to. It's been remarkable, even miraculous, I suppose, in, in how it has, has. Has changed some very important things for me. And, and I've become conscious of that. And that's why I wanted to share it with all of you to see if it's something that might be helpful, might make a difference. And I would again, just to provide a bit of framework here, you write your lists, your front and back of the paper, so to speak, what you want to bring into your life, what you want to remove from your life. And then for 30 days, if you can do it, find a time during the day to read through it. I like to read the. These statements out loud. I like to read what I wrote out loud, quietly, of course, but I like to hear it coming out of my own mouth, that vibration. And that's meaningful to me. But of course, you could choose to do that or not do that 30 days is the prescription. Again, you could choose to do that or not do that. All up to you. And beyond that, again, your freedom to choose. I have continued to do it each day. I don't have any plans to discontinue doing it. I've just been amazed by how much it has brought to me. It has paid significant returns on that investment of time, as we know that's pretty much the most valuable thing we've got. And so when I'm asking you to spend time doing anything, of course I'm very much aware that that's a big ask. And then lastly, I wouldn't tell anybody about it. I would keep this to yourself. Don't share with friends or family or colleagues or anyone that you're about doing this. See how it works for you. Experience it in your own life, in your own mentality, and see if after a period of time, it becomes something that you've adopted. And therefore, when you've got that grounding, you could then, if you feel like it, share, share the wealth, share, share with someone that you care about. Share with anyone that you want to see. Do better in, in whatever way, whether it's with their health, their relationships, their money and finance, their, their career, their, you know, just anything. And then, then you're sharing, I think, something from, from a very, a very positive place and from your personal experience. So that's it. That's the whole practice again, super simple. But like so many things in life, sometimes the simplest things are truly the most profound. It doesn't have to be complicated, it just has to be usable. And this is certainly one of the most usable practices I've ever encountered. And that's why I wanted to let you know about it and use it as a way to wish you an absolutely beautiful brand new year. 2025. Again, just mind boggling to even say those digits out loud. And yet this is the year we're in. It's a quarter of a century. We've already gotten to that place where we're one quarter of this century in. Some of us can remember the millennial change from 1999 to 2000. So it is pretty remarkable that we're here so fast and there's a lot going on in our world and so there's a lot for us to show up for. And I wish you a beautiful year. I wish that your most amazing wishes come true, that they are made manifest. I know at Workwell we do what we do because we truly believe that we can have that ripple effect and really help people in an environment where we spend so much of our time, we just spend so much of our lives sleeping and working. And so what's kind of neat is that part of most of our work is helping create that healthier environment at work, healthier and happier places to work. But sometimes that involves us talking about sleep as well. We get into sleep, we kind of geek out on the, on the how it is that we sleep better part of it. So yeah, we're wishing you great, great everything this year. Great, great relationships at work, great results at work. Just things that will really keep you, keep you feeling good when you wake up in the morning, put your feet on the floor and feel passion and enthusiasm for what you're for, the work you're doing, the right livelihood, the right work to be doing in the world. 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Working with individuals, with teams, with leaders, with organizations at a really deep level. There's a lot of information there around our case studies. There's other resources there as well. So it's worth a look. And we appreciate you making the trip over to that site to check out what we're doing and also to connect with us on LinkedIn is probably the best way you can connect with us at WorkWell Labs on LinkedIn or you can connect with me, Adam Markell there as well. For now. Anyway, I want to wish you just the best, brightest and most beautiful new year and we'll say ciao for now and see you.

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