A short motivational talk by Adam Markel emphasizing that harm comes from lack of recovery from stress/exhaustion rather than stress itself. He argues that people rarely practice recovery rituals (mental, emotional, spiritual, physical) the way elite athletes do, and uses the Thai cave soccer team and their coach teaching meditation and breath control as a central example of resilience and recovery under extreme conditions.
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It's not stress that kills us. Stress gets a bad rap on some level. It's a lack of recovery from stress that kills us or makes us sick. It's not exhaustion that's the issue. It's a lack of recovery from exhaustion. We're just not taught how to take better care of ourselves the way we would if we were Olympic athletes. If we knew tomorrow we had to get up and run a marathon. You'd make sure you had a proper night's sleep. You'd watch what you put in your body today, what you were eating, what you were drinking. Isn't that true? Yes. Professional athletes, Olympic athletes, they compete much less than they train. In fact, it's a 90:10 ratio that athletes, the best athletes in the world, typically are training 90% of the time to perform 10%. Whereas the rest of us. Where does our workday end? Where's our work weekend? There are almost no boundaries between our work life and our home life. How many of you answer emails on the weekends? Some of you don't want to admit it, but yes, thank you for your honesty. And we all do that. So the exhaustion level for us is even greater. And yet we spend the inverse amount of time working, performing on the field of play versus taking care of ourselves, recovering and creating rituals for our recovery. Mental, emotional, spiritual and physical rituals. How many of you followed that story of those boys, the soccer players that were trapped in the cave in Thailand? Yes. It was a miracle that they got out. Wasn't was a miracle. You know what else was a miracle? That their coach was with them. Understood something about rituals for recovery. Understood something about resilience and how it is not just physical endurance. It's not just physical resilience. It's mental, it's emotional, it's even spiritual on some level. So what did he have been doing in that cave weeks with no food, 30% of the oxygen that we have in this very moment. What was he doing with them when their lives were so endangered? Thank you, sir. Teaching them how to meditate, to stay calm, to breathe less oxygen, to be in a place where time could collapse. Time is a fiction of a sort anyway. And those boys lives were saved in that moment. It could have cost any one of them or all of them their lives. But they were calm, they were resilient. And their coach modeled that for them.
