An Honest Conversation About Trauma & What It Really Means To Be A Survivor w/Dr. Michiyo Ambrosius

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Proof. All right, everybody, you're going to love this episode.

I have with me today Dr. Michio. As a young woman, she escaped restrictive Japanese culture, parental control, and gender inequality and came to the US and after gaining some ease with her language difficulty, she obtained a doctorate in psychology past.

The age of 50.

Her resilient personality has helped her to overcome numerous challenges. And finally, she is enjoying her life.

To the fullest as a psychologist, a.

Transformational leader, coach, mentor to a variety of people, including Asian, Middle Eastern women, and a trainer of their pioneering trauma healing technique to other healers. Enjoy this episode and my wonderful discussion.

With Dr. Michio Ambrosius. Okay, so in just a moment, Michio, I'm going to ask you to just share a little bit about, about your process and maybe just a little bit about your background first before you describe this very important process. Because I, I would say that it is universally true that we, all of us, every one of us, without any exception, have experienced some trauma, some trauma in our lives, usually early in childhood. And for many, many people, this trauma that they experience in their lives, often in early childhood, has many effects on their physical health, on their mental health, their emotional health, etc. Throughout their lives. And they don't, many people understand why it is and what it is. And most importantly, I think what you can do to resolve those things later on in life, oftentimes these traumas can lead to anxiety, depression later in life and even dementia later in life and other physical challenges. So to figure out a little bit more and to understand a bit more about why that is and what, as I said, most importantly, you can do about it at this point in your life, no matter what age you are, I think is vitally important. And so I want to get from you an expert in this field, Michio, your. Your sense of that. So if you'd start with a little bit of your background and then explain to us what your process for healing those kind of traumas is, that would be wonderful.

Okay, well, my name is Michio Ambrosius, and I'm originally from Japan. I left Japan because I wanted to live my life to the fullest. And in Japanese culture, especially women that wish to live the fullest Life and professional know, accomplishment and all were blocked at the time I was growing up and I decided to leave and saved money. And one day when I was 20 years old, I left for the US from Japan. And ever since I had been, you know, trying to grow as a person and as a professional person. And I became, finally became psychologist at age 63. And I have been practicing, entered PhD program, doctorate program at age 53. And it took 10 years to get to that point of, you know, doing the coursework and dissertation and practicum and licensing. But I was determined and I, you know, and I love my work. And during those practicing years I developed trauma healing technique because through my clients I found everyone experiences trauma and trauma experiences. And Those symptoms appear 10 years, 20 years and 30, 40 years later. And most people don't equate the symptoms that they are experiencing now. And the starting point of having had some trauma experiences that can include loss of a pet or hearing parental arguments upstairs and a girl who was listening to that from downstairs at age 3 or 4 showed up as a social anxiety at age 14. So people don't equate and don't understand why they are experiencing this by the difficult experiences that they experienced, you know, in the way, way, way, way past. And the name of the trauma healing technique is called, it's tongue twisting neural bilateral processing. So I shortened it by saying nbp and I have started to train people to practice this technique so that I can spread this technique throughout the globe so that you know, people can be healed and they can live their lives to the fullest and with the happiness and lot of intention and purposes. Technique itself is very easy. I incorporated breathing tapping technique that you know, some people know but in a tapped in a different way. And visualization by the way, visualization including visualizing daytime or nighttime sleeping really contribute to your healing trauma or whatever else that you have experienced. This is my mission and my legacy because after having trauma I experienced infertility and we don't have any children and, and I, I have thought about what can I leave as a my legacy. And I decided this to be my legacy to leave after I depart this earth.

So that's so beautiful.

And I'm intending to live my full life.

Of course.

That's why I'm having this, you know, interview shows.

Beautiful. So NBP is your process, this something that you've created to help people to resolve trauma from the past that is affecting them in some way in the present, whether that be physical.

Yeah. Mentally and spiritually. Trauma experiences Brock people to advance. And because, you know, after the trauma, people usually develop limiting beliefs such as I'm not good enough, I'm not adequate enough, I'm not lovable. I'm not lovable is very, very traumatic because they keep marrying someone who do not love them.

Interesting.

I treated someone who married three times to someone who did not love her. Finally, you know, after the treatment, she kicked out the latest husband and she started to live much happier life. So.

And it is. That's one of those things that I don't know what the right word is. Maybe it's ironic, maybe it's some, some other way to describe that a person who doesn't feel lovable doesn't mean that they don't have relationships or they don't get married or they don't have children. They just don't believe they deserve love. So often what they attract into their lives are people that don't actually love them. I don't know what the word.

Selfish.

Yes. Yes. So I, I think it's so important. That's why I wanted to ask you to talk about this Michio, because it, there are so many people, of course, that are confused about why they have pain or painful experiences, why they attract, continue to attract people that cause them pain or get involved in situations that create pain for themselves. And so to resolve the confusion around that I think is very important to awareness is I learned a long time ago the first step on the path to resolution is to have some greater awareness. Even if you don't necessarily understand it yet or know what to do about it yet. The awareness is almost transformational by itself.

Oh yeah, very much so. In order to treat the pain of trauma experiences, many people treat it with substance use and end up with, you know, substance use problems, addiction and cause depression and anxiety also. And their will to, you know, advance can be blocked because of the trauma experiences. If you believe that you're not good enough, you don't attempt you, if you feel you're not, you know, adequate enough, you don't advance.

Yeah. And I know personally in the work that, that I do and that our company does in the world today, it's, it's focused on resilience. I wrote a book called Change Proof, leveraging the power of uncertainty to build long term resilience. And the, the book is, is, is divided up into the mental, the emotional, the physical, and of course the spiritual. And it, it focuses around how it is that we develop greater resilience for ourselves as well as for our families and also In I'm a workplace expert and I am a resilience speaker and, and deliver keynote talks on the topic of resilience. And so in the workplace in particular, I think it's very important we understand what you've been sharing because you bring all of your trauma wherever you are, you bring it with you wherever you go. So to think somehow that a person might, might be dealing with this trauma or unaware even of what the, the effects of the trauma are only in their private lives is, is quite foolish even because we, we are holistic beings. So your trauma goes to work with you. And in part, what we've been talking lately about in organizations is how that trauma is to be dealt with at work. Meaning that it's, it's not like you leave that at the door, whether it's the physical door now or it's the figurative door, because so many people are working from home and working virtually or in hybrid work situations. The trauma informed workplace, I think is very important today. I think your work, Michio, has such a valuable place not only in people's, quote, personal lives, but also in their business lives. Because again, organizations want to deliver their value in the world. They have a mission and a purpose and they want to execute that and do it flawlessly and profitably. But when they don't understand that the people who are working within the organizations have these issues that have yet to be resolved, it's no wonder that people are feeling so anxious. It's no wonder that people are resigning. It's no wonder that there's so much workplace illness and time off that's taken because of accidents and things that occur in the workplace. But we don't always look at where the real causes are or the cause of the causes even. And I think you provide, you provide answers to that. So thank you.

Yes. Well, even very capable and, you know, ambitious individuals, their personal life are suffering. And like, you know, you may already know, I have a lawyer friend and he worked for Law Firm 1 once before after he made a pivot. But he mentioned every one of the people who are very successful at work. They have been married and divorced two or three times. And their personal lives, you know, suffer and really. And of course, you know, if your personal life is not satisfactory, you don't have that, you know, happiness, joy in life, no matter how you become successful.

Yeah. And I, I personally think that it gets in the way of greater success. It may well be that you have successful people who've had pretty, you know, very, very difficult personal lives and circumstances. And many marriages and maybe even bouts with substance abuse and things, but somehow they are still successful or they still are able to. To Achie, what level of success or achievement could they have if their lives, their personal lives were not such a mess? I mean, it's a. It's a rhetorical question, right? Because I don't think we can ever answer it or know it.

I just.

That's my assumption that if we weren't living chaotically in our. In our personal lives, you didn't have to go through two or three divorces before you, you know, somehow either either found the right person or we're just living alone or whatever it might be. Just think, right, how much more energy you would have and how much more. How many more people you could serve and more solutions you could create if you weren't so often distracted by these things. I'm sort of ruminating out loud with you right now, but I think you. Again, the work that you're doing and in helping people to resolve traumas that have happened so many years ago, maybe even decades ago, is vitally important. So I want to thank you so much for making time today to discuss this with me and share a little bit about your process. This was just very fortuitous that we could get together. And so in the show notes for, for this conversation today, there'll be information. This is, you know, from. For our community. I'm saying this if you want to find out more about Michio's work in the world, her psychotherapy, but her process and the work that she's doing, the programs, in fact, that she even delivers and all of that, those that information links to click on will be in the show notes as well. And again, Michio, I just want to thank you for taking the time to talk with us today.

Thank you very much having this opportunity.

Well, as promised, that conversation with Dr.

Michio Ambrosius was amazing. I mean, amazing in that a woman with so much that she needed to overcome, including language barriers and cultural barriers and just about every barrier you can think of, nonetheless, through resilience, through perseverance, through intelligence, overcame them and now is helping so many other people, men and women, do the same through her unique trauma healing technique, one that I think is a game changer for anybody that is lucky enough to find her and.

To work with her.

I found this conversation to be personally gratifying and inspiring. I think the concept, the truth really is that we all experience trauma, and many of us early in life and at later points in time, and those adverse experiences, those adverse traumatic experiences really change us in many ways and can permanently affect our lives negatively if we don't first understand them, recognize them, have an awareness of them, and understand what they are and where they've come from and how they impact us, and then ultimately with that understanding, be able to change many things in how we relate to those experiences. And I think what's great about Dr.

Michio's work is that she helps people.

To do just that, to recognize, understand, and to make those changes and through a, a tool that she's developed in her, in her life for herself and as a result of her, her training and ultimately attainment of, of a, of a PhD in that, in that particular area. So I, I learned a lot. I, I love the, the candor and transparency of this amazing woman. And I know it's an episode that many of you will probably share with others and, and, and sink your own teeth into because again, we, we're all the same in this respect. We are all traumatized on some smaller or not so small level that ultimately it is our path not to hide from those things or bury them or repress them, but rather to open up to them, to embrace them and ultimately to transcend them. So again, love this episode. I know you will as well.

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