Identifying The Source Of Our Limiting Patterns with Chris Salem

Welcome to the Conscious Pivot Podcast with international speaker, business mentor, best selling author of Pivot, and your host, Adam Markell. The Conscious Pivot shares the stories and wisdom of people who have successfully reinvented some area of their business and personal life. You'll gain powerful insights into how you can fully embrace new opportunities, increase your performance, and master the art and science of innovation and resilience. So please join Adam as he guides you on your Conscious Pivot.

Hey, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Conscious Pivot Podcast. I'm your host, Adam Markell, and it's a beautiful day. It's a beautiful day to be alive. I feel really blessed and deep gratitude to be here with all of you. And I hope that you're in a place right now that whatever you're doing, that you are able to appreciate the surroundings, maybe your work, you could be driving or on the treadmill or walking or talking to somebody. Well, hopefully you're not talking as you're listening to this, but who knows, right? We're always multitasking. So whatever it is that you are up to, I want to just start our podcast, as I always do, by bringing our attention to gratitude, bringing our attention even to our breath. Because I don't know that there's anything that I personally could be more appreciative of than my breath. And by that I mean in this very moment where I'm breathing, where we're all breathing, there are people who are going to be receiving their last breath. And so it is indeed something really, really important that we are grateful for something that's not a guarantee to any of us. That's Death is a great teacher. I know it sounds a little morbid, I suppose, but there's one thing that we all have in common. Whether we're rich or wanting to be rich or not feeling very rich at all, or we are male or female or some other distinction that we have for ourselves. Wherever we are and whatever we are feeling in the moment, we all share this breath in common. And we all share in common the fact that it is not guaranteed forever. So I am incredibly lucky, feel very blessed and happy that I get to spend this time this way. And also to have somebody on the show today, a guest who is a leader in the space of personal and business transformation. Somebody that. I'm going to read a little bit of his bio in just a moment and then bring him on, introduce him and ask him some questions about himself and his experience and how he's helped people. But outside of the bio, I will just say that Chris Salem is somebody that I respect. I got to meet him a little more than a year ago and think he's just a hell of a good guy and somebody that I think is worth listening to and definitely somebody that we feel quite blessed and honored to have on our show today. So Chris Salem is an accomplished life and business strategist, a world class speaker, award winning author, certified mindset expert, life radio show host and wellness advocate. Partnering with corporate leaders, entrepreneurs and sales professionals to have sustainable success at the next level by resolving the root cause to mindset barriers. He has a special passion for empowering them to take their businesses, game and life to another level by operating in the solution rather than the problem. I love that Chris shares from experience what has worked successfully for him through understanding the root cause behind the effects of limiting patterns in our business and personal lives. He is the originator of the term prospreneur, an individual whose health and wealth are in alignment in a way that leads to true prosperity. His book, Master your Inner Critic, Resolve the Root Cause, Create Prosperity addresses this and went international, became an international bestseller in 2016. November. He also co authored the recent addition to Mastering the Art of Success with Jack Canfield. He's a friend of ours. His weekly radio show, Sustainable Success is part of the Voice America Influencers Channel. And I want to welcome you, Chris to the show today.

Adam, it's a pleasure to be here.

Way cool. Way cool. So you know, that's a wonderful bio. There's a lot in there. What's something that's not in the bio that you would love people to know about you?

Well, I would say that I'm also a youth coach when I say that in terms of sports. So I spend a considerable amount of my free time coaching youth sports in football, baseball and basketball. And it's something very passionate to me because my son is 10 years old going on 11, and I've been involved in his sports now since he was 4 years old. And so I've been not only a part of that through those years working with him, but with also other kids his age. It's something I love to do and I gladly give my time for it.

Yeah, that's way cool. And what's something that you're grateful for in this moment?

I'm grateful to be in the moment itself. Just like you talked about my breath that I have another breath that I can breathe and I'm grateful that I can serve my true purpose in providing value to other people to be their better self.

Beautiful Brother, way cool. We'll start. Start kind of in the reverse order of things, but you've just recently been a part of a book with Jack Canfield, who is somebody we get to spend some time with each year. And he's just a heck of a nice guy, awesome guy, just a really good, good man, and a pleasure to know him and learn from him, etc. So you've done a book or part of a book called Mastering the Art of Success. Did you.

Was.

How was that for you? What was that experience like for you?

The experience was great. I mean, there were several different contributors to the book. It's something that Jack puts out every few years. And I think they saw that. The fact when you look at success, success is really up to the individual. You know, it's not just how much money you make, it's really how you live your life. And, you know, do you live a happy, prosperous life? It's having that balance between your life and your business. And so the book is kind of geared towards that. It looks at success at different angles. And in this case, I was looking at getting to the root cause, to the limited beliefs that hold people back, that have success. You want to be able to operate within the solution rather than from the problem when embracing the process towards success.

That makes sense. Yeah. And, Chris, you know, this is a show about pivots. And so our listeners and our viewers on YouTube, they wait with bated breath for the moment that, you know, the.

Dramatic moment, the tragic moment.

Where did you. Where did you screw up?

Where did wrong? You know, I could spend another show talking about that. Yeah, many of them. Many of them, Adam, in terms of, you know, if I could go back, you know, my childhood, you know, this is where it kind of all started. And then right to the point I turned 30, and everywhere in between, you know, I grew up with this disconnection from my father. You know, my father was present, but not emotionally present. It was more or less okay, if you need something, here you go. But was really never there. And so at the time, I didn't realize that they had an effect on me, but I just knew I grew up a very angry individual. You know, I acted out, got into, you know, involved in certain things that I shouldn't have adopted, certain types of behaviors that did not serve me well and affected other people, including certain habits. And all of this led to an addictive personality. I used my anger, and then I would medicate with certain types of addictions like alcohol, drugs, sex, it didn't matter. It Was to cover up that anger that I could not understand where it was coming from. I thought it was just something that was normal to young men. But it persisted into my 20s, right into the point when I turned 30. And it affected so many different situations. Losing jobs, losing business ventures, losing an engagement. And instead of, you know, coming from the victim role which I was, I had, I finally, when my father developed cancer, I knew at that point enough was enough, that the only way this was going to, you know, turn. Turn around completely is that I had to take responsibility. I couldn't point the finger at anybody anymore. I had to make amends and forgive the source to my anger, which at the time I was still unclear. And that being my father.

Yeah. What was that process like for you? Did you. Was this a training? Was it a book? What was. I'm sure it was a series of things.

It was a series of things. So I had two near death experiences in my late teens and one in my 20s. That was not the turning point for me, however you would have thought that would have been. But it wasn't. It was my father developing cancer. But it was a combination of finally saying, okay, I got to take responsibility. So it was a 12 step program. And it was also eastern meditation and Eastern philosophy. And I took a blend of both to adopt a process that allowed myself to go through this and to heal myself. And that's what I did. And this is what's led up to where I am today with master, your inner critic, resolve, root cause, great prosperity. Working with individuals from either a business and a life perspective to get them operating in the solution rather than the problem.

Yeah, well, I'd love to know what the anger. I mean, I think a lot of people have challenges with anger. I really believe it's in many ways the results of stress. And there's lots of different things that might define what stress is.

But.

How did the anger manifest for you? What was. What were some of the symptoms or signs? I can. And I'll say this before I pause for your answer, I'll just say that I. You and I are simpatico on this topic. You and I, when we first met, we had a conversation about this.

I believe I knew we clicked on that. I remember that.

Yep. And I was. I was a lawyer and I hated what I was doing. But mostly what I hated about what I was doing was that it felt fueled my anger. It gave me more fuel for the fire. So I was already an angry person. I don't want to be mistaken when I say this Being a lawyer didn't make me angry. I came in angry already. There you go. It just became like, you know, squirting the lighter fluid on what was already raging. So what did it look like for you to be angry?

So for me, it was very easy for me to get angry. You know, I grew up with loud music. That was a way to kind of escape. And for me, like, certain triggers, it could be, you know, working for somebody that would end up being like my father, and it would just trigger this rage. And it wasn't my father. It was like a boss or it could be a colleague. But, you know, behind the scenes, I didn't realize it, but it was really looking at. Like I was looking at my father. It could be road rage. I had a. I had a bad issue with road rage. And in a couple of cases where I actually had gotten into a fistfight on the side of a highway twice, and thank God, knock on wood, I was not arrested, but I should have been. And every time when I thought that that's what fueled my anger, that person cutting me off in traffic, it was only a trigger. And that's what it really is. What you just talked about, the profession of law was a trigger, but it wasn't the actual source to your anger. And mine is. Every time when got into a confrontation with road rage, it was like I was looking at my father. The other person was my father didn't realize it.

Yeah. It's so interesting. And I don't know whether the. The exploration took you here, but for me, it did. And ultimately, when I was breaking through anger, and I remember being at an event, like personal development training event, and I had never been to one before. I was like, not something my family did, and none of my friends had done that, but somebody had invited me, and I went and kind of begrudgingly so. But I remember having this opportunity to think about something that was an obstacle in my life and something that felt true as being in my way. And I wrote anger on an arrow. And then there's this whole exercise, we break this arrow with your neck kind of thing. And I never forgot that. In fact, we took that arrow and put it in a box frame, and, you know, it's hung on the wall for a long time. And it's interesting because anger. Anger is the root cause of so many illnesses, disease in our body. It's the cause of so much dysfunction in our relationships and all kinds of things. And when I started to look at the root cause of my own anger, I realized that anger was a part of the blueprint for what love looked like in my house. And again, I grew up in a loving home. My mother and father both loving, and they were also volatile at times. And anger was kind of intermixed. This angry words and angry actions was a part of the fabric of the loving environment. So for a kid, you know, we don't know anything and we think everything's about us anyway. We kind of put the responsibility for everybody. So in your home, you know, if your parents didn't get along or if they fought or, you know, it's always about us. As a child, you just think it's. You're the cause of it.

Absolutely.

Yeah. But that. That anger was. Was intermixed with my own definition of love. And I'm just curious if you. You get a sense of. You said earlier, your dad, you know, that was the root of the anger. And, and did it have something to do with, you know, more to do with. With love or the lack of love or, you know, that like I would.

Say it was at the time, it was lack of love because my, you know, now that I look back, it's different because my father didn't know how to be the father that I wanted to be. Because he came from a family where his father didn't pay attention to him. There was no father, son bonding. So going through that and not knowing as a child that, well, why is my dad not at my ball game? Why is my dad not once in a while give me a hug or tell me that I'm doing great? Because he didn't know how to do it. And at the time, you know, you don't know that. And so you kind of internalize it. And so at the time I looked at it, it was a lack of love. But I began to see in his own way, when I had a back operation towards two years before he died and passed away from cancer, that he made the attempt to show that he, you know, he cared. I always knew that, you know, now look back, I know he loved me, but it just didn't know how to show it. He never said it, but I know it was there. And he proved that in two years before his death, when he was at the hospital every day, when I went through my back operation, when I was in and out of the hospital for six months. And that was during a time where he was trying to get his company sold and there was a lot of stuff going on. And the fact that he sacrificed that for me, which he had never done before, was kind of A turning point for me.

Yeah. And now you have a son, and you spend a lot of time on the ball field and coaching, and so it's so interesting the way we respond to things that happen in our lives, right?

Oh, absolutely. I said to myself, I'll be the complete opposite. And that's what I've done. I put my son first, but at the same token, I want to empower him with certain things that I feel that will help him develop to be a better man. A better man than I was, so he doesn't have to go through that process like I did.

Yeah. So just hanging in that space for a few more moments. I think resources are always great, and I love it when I get good referrals and resources. One of the books that I think is worth. Worth reading, and I'm sure most of these. These two books I'm going to mention you may have already checked out, Chris, but Hal Dwoskin wrote a book called the Sedona Method, which is really very impactful on the side of how do you release things, how do you let go of things? Because so many people realize, you know, maybe I've got something I'm hanging on to. It's a little resentment. Little. You know, whether it's anger or it's shame, sadness, guilt. Yeah. I mean, there's a lot of these emotions, and the emotions in and of themselves are not bad. I mean, I think people will judge. Will judge whether an emotion is good or bad. Like, joy is good, but resentment's bad. And I don't think it's a good or bad. It's not really a judgment. It's absolutely. Because the emotion is a thing itself. And if we. If we sedate it, which is part of addictive challenges. Right. We're sedating it in some way or trying to control it in another way. Well, then we're in essence, shooting the messenger or pushing the messenger away and saying, you know, I'm not gonna deal with this emotion. I don't want to deal with my anger. It would be crazy if I. If I opened up that can of worms, God knows what, you know, what would happen. Right. So it's this idea of keeping it away, and we all know that you cannot. The pressure, the strain, the work involved in keeping that away from you. It's like you've ever seen sometimes a, you know, a beach ball in the pool or at the ocean or something. You try to press that beach ball underneath the surface of the water. We know you can do it for a while. You can hold it down for a little while. But it gets to be a challenge, it gets to be a lot of work, and ultimately the beach ball always wins out. And I think it's the same thing with a lot of these emotions that we want to keep at bay.

Absolutely. It's like a knowledge. You have to be aware and acknowledge it and accept it where you are to move forward. I think a lot of times we're in denial of what that is. So that was a good analogy. Adam, what you talked about with, you know, you're pushing it down, you could keep it down for a period of time, but it's gonna eventually take over and come to the surface. And sometimes you don't know when that's gonna be.

Yeah, you're driving on the highway and somebody cuts you off, and the next thing you know, you know, you got your window down and you're pulled up alongside them and you give it to the bird and, and saying maybe a couple other choice words. And the next thing you know, that guy's doing the same thing and we go, hey, you know, pull over. Let's, let's discuss this like men, like, like animals, right?

It was like yesterday, but that was 20 something years ago.

Oh, man. Listen, when Randy and I first met and we're married this summer, be 29 years, so we know each other longer than that. And there was times when I would do the same sort of thing. I mean, he's getting an altercation, pull off the side or something and you know, there but for the grace of God, I'm still alive. Because, you know, you can get, you can get dead quick or. Yeah, there's a lot of things that can happen from, from that out of control state. So, yeah, the Sedona Method is a really great book on that. And the other one that I discovered more recently in the last year is called the Presence Process. Michael. Michael Brown wrote the Presence Process. Beautiful, incredible, incredible book. And while I'm at the Michaels, I always recommend the Untethered Soul, which is Michael Singer, more well known. Michael Brown's work. The Untethered, the Presence Process. Almost nobody I mentioned it to knows about it. It's like one is, look.

So it's a rare gem.

Guy's from South Africa and it's truly remarkable book in on this topic. But, but what's another place in your life where because you, you, you got through a pretty serious challenge, this challenge, and it started to inform what you were doing for a living as well, because you become a speaker, you become a coach, you Become an author. What was it that drove you in that direction?

Well, I mean, I spent a majority of my career in sales, so I spent a number of years in aviation media, selling media programs, being around digital agencies, brokered aircraft. And that was something I knew very well. But it reached a point where I felt like it wasn't something coming from the heart. It was something I knew well. I was able to do good with my skill sets of doing presentations and connecting with people, but it wasn't heart centered at that point. And my son at the time was around 4 years old. And I said, well, I've been coaching people on the side for several years with what I do now. I said, I got to do this full time and I have to design this particular coaching career with my speaking around my son so I can be the father I've always aspired to be so he could have me when he has his games or his practices and I can contribute to the other kids. So that was like another turning point or a pivot for me to go from, you know, high octane, where I was traveling around the world, I was working 11 hours a day, to kind of throttling back where, you know, I had more balance. Now I was getting back where it was more time spent with him and then not as much time at work. Even though I do spend time at work. Don't get me wrong, it's not what it used to be back when I was on the road selling.

Yeah, exactly. That is a pivot for sure. So you went to your heart.

I mean, went to the heart.

Like if we were creating your recipe, your pivot recipe, what would be, what would be involved? Because it's been successful for you, so you've been able to, as you say, throttle back, but not necessarily move from being in a house to living in a box or something.

Yeah, nothing like that. But I mean, for certain, certain sacrifices. But again, you know, it comes down to, you know, when you look at what success is, Success at one point to me was all about how much money, you know, I was making a lot of money. Money's important, don't get me wrong. But it's also making sure that your wellness is at the highest level possible. That my relationships are being nurtured on a daily basis with my wife, with my son, my family, my friends, and having time for myself. I can't empower or be of value to someone if I'm not being the example or taking care of myself. And you have so many hours in the day, you have to, you Know, do your best to strike, to find that balance. And when you're able to do that, for me, that is what true success is all about. And it's not necessarily I have to be making as much money as I was. It's really being grounded and centered and really serving my purpose, you know, that really defines, you know, my success.

Yeah, absolutely. So the recipe. Let's go back to that for a second.

Yep.

What would your pivot recipe look like today?

Pivot recipe would be, you know, again, to be really aware of where you are and where you want to be. And I don't know if you want me to actually use ingredients, but that would be awareness if you were in.

So for you, in your experience, what some of the ingredients I use, the first one is. You went to your heart.

Yeah, it went to my heart. So it's really going into your heart and being aware that it's okay to be where you're at, even if you're not, you're struggling somewhere, you could be hit rock bottom, whatever the case may be. Just to be aware and accept where you are right now and to make a commitment to the process, to find the root cause to the problem so you can then operate from the solution from within. The problem and the solution are in the same place, and you got to go within. This is where meditation, journaling play an important role. Certain types of habits that are going to serve you, that are going to get you to the place of where you can identify where the problem is at the source. And then the next final ingredient for me would be forgiveness. Forgiveness is powerful, and it's something I think sometimes people say they forgive, but I don't know if they truly forgive, because when you truly forgive, you could feel it from every cell in your body. It's not just the words. It's something that you can physically feel coming out of you. It's a release like I've never experienced.

Yeah. Beautiful. I'm just jotting down some notes, but what I got from this was a recipe that looks like coming from your heart or going to your heart.

Yeah.

One. Number two, being being aware of what's going on in your life and not trying to candy coat it or avoid.

It, but absolutely being transparent. That should have used that, too. Transparency is important.

Yes. So that acceptance piece, number three, problem, solution. I love this problem solution are in the same place. You find them in the same place. I'd love to hear a little bit more about that, but that really makes sense to me. And number four was forgiveness. And True forgiveness through. And I want to. I want to also understand how it is that you. Is there a process that you've used for forgiveness? Because that's. That's something people hear a lot. For. Sure.

Absolutely. Absolutely. Happy to cover it with you. So, you know, when it comes to, like, again, when we talked about the problem and solution being the same place again, this involves your subconscious mindset and your conscious mindset. And sometimes a lot of people are blind to the subconscious mindset. They can't understand why maybe certain things are going on in their life and how those things that are going in your life can tie back to what has happened in the past. It goes back to your childhood and a lot of the things that happen that you have a role in it. Your energy attracts different situations, but then yields the same results. And you wonder why you're experiencing anger over and over again, why you're experiencing shame or guilt or jealousy or envy or any combination thereof. We all have a part in it. It's not like life just happens to us. You know, things, you know, bad things can happen, even, you know, people that are in good places. But it's how we. How we, you know, respond to it. And when we come from the solution, we're able to see certain setbacks as actually opportunities in disguise to really take us to the next level of our true essence and our true being. And so for me, it's, you know, where the problem and the solution is. We have to be able to resolve the root cause at the source, to truly forgive it. The source, not only for the source itself, but also more importantly for you, because it's that at that point, when you've truly released it from your system, you have the ability now to be looking through the same process of meditation and journaling to find the solution, find your purpose, and then adopt better habits, disciplines, and a specific life and business strategy. Very specific, that's going to take you to where you want to go, what your true purpose is, your true calling, and whatever your duty is to serve others.

Yeah, beautiful. My wife, Randy, she loves this question, and I think questions are really powerful, especially at places where. Where we're uncertain of the direction, whether it's a mindset direction or it's physical direction, et cetera. So her question is, what is the creative opportunity? So as part of our recipe for pivoting, we always ask that at the intersection of problem and solution is this question, what is the creative opportunity? And clearly that's what you've outlined.

Yeah, I mean, the creative opportunity is that you get to start all over, clear the cluttered foundation. Establish a clear, clear foundation. And not necessarily that you're reinventing yourself completely, but you're aligning with your true self, your true being that is filled with love, joy, happiness, and that you have the choice to live that way, but you have to have the right tools, habits, disciplines, and a game plan to make it sustainable. It's not something that you do once in a while. It's not something that's automatic, it requires work, and it's ongoing. Like with anything, nothing just is on autopilot.

Yes, exactly. And then on forgiveness side, so what's the process you've used there?

So forgiveness there is again, you know, if the source is still present, is absolutely going to the source and having that heart to heart conversation and not releasing the expectation because you don't know how the person's going to react. They may be responsive in a positive way or they may not. But see, again, it's not about them, it's about you in this case. So it doesn't matter what, how they respond. That's their choice. You have to just release all expectations, but you have to come from the heart that you're truly releasing. You're forgiving at the heart level. It's not just words being said. It's that you really mean it, that you want that this person, or what they did either, whether it was intentionally or unintentionally, does not have control or power over your state of being any longer. You can only allow that. So when you release and forgive truly from the heart, you're releasing that power of control that that source has over you.

Yeah. It is truly the case that forgiveness is the magic key. Yeah. Can't say it enough. One of our students from years ago wrote a book which I love, and every opportunity I get to prop her and her book is a grand opportunity for me. Her name is Juliana Erickson and she wrote a book called the Other F Word. And that F is forgiveness. And this incredible, incredible forgiveness process in there as well. And I always think of the two things like brother and sister is letting go, releasing and letting go on the one side of the coin and forgiveness on the other. So it's this willingness to let things go at the same time that we're willing to forgive. So a letting go process that we've taught for a number of years are these statements that we can answer for ourselves in the moment. So where you feel tension or you know, any of those old familiar feelings, and as you said, so Eloquently Chris, earlier. This is all stuff from childhood, for the most part. These are things that were ingrained and we learned and are part of our being from long before it was, even before there was cognitive development going on. So this is happening from birth until 7, 8 years old, before our minds are even really developing. So in any event, this is some of the. The software, if you will, that's running us on a continual base, continual basis. So when stuff comes up and you know that stuff comes up, that feeling of shame or sadness or resentment or anger, and you can just ask yourself some of these questions. So the first question is, do I like feeling this way? So in the moment, you ask yourself, and I'll give you guys these questions, you can write them down and use them. Do I like feeling this way? And the answer is yes or no. Do I want to let it go? Yes or no? Am I willing to let it go? A little different? Yes or no? And when am I willing to let it go? And the answer is either now or not now. Right. And so those four questions, when answered for me in the moment, allow me to process a feeling, not ignore it, not sedate it, control it or whatever, shoot the messenger kind of thing, but deal with it and process it in the moment. And then there is this added piece which is to say, do I want to. Is there something to forgive? Is there a creative opportunity right now in front of me to forgive this thing that comes up from time to time? It's not coming up every minute, but it's coming up from time to time. So, yes, I love to release it, and now I'd also love to forgive it, because true forgiveness means that it might not have to come back again, might have to not have to feel that again.

So.

And I think any way that you can do that, whether it's through, you know, the Hawaiian practice of ho oponopono, which is a beautiful practice for forgiveness, I think it's go something like, please forgive me. I'm sorry. I love you. Thank you. I may have gotten the order of those four things, you know, out of order. But it's that idea that there's something, you know, that I'm asking for forgiveness. I'm. I'm. I'm wanting, I'm seeking forgiveness, that I also am expressing love and that I'm expressing gratitude. So whether it's that practice or it's some other forgiveness practice, it really is. It's really powerful. And it was that way for you because you forgave your father.

Yeah. I mean, it was such a huge release. I mean, it was just like, to the point where, like, it felt like there was tremors. I mean, that's how powerful it was. I never experienced anything like that in my life, but I knew one. It felt like a weight. I felt like I lost like eight pounds. Like, that's. I mean, it was like literally carrying, like, weight, you know, from it. And it just transformed my life completely, you know, in terms of how I looked at life and that, you know, I no longer, since that time, played the victim role. It was something that I. I had responsibility over my life. I had to learn how to be in the flow, learn to seek out the, you know, see the blessings in the setbacks and challenges, because that's how life is. And to really just operate from within, from who I truly am and not try to be somebody I'm not.

Yeah. Beautiful. Chris, what's, what's a ritual? Something that you do as part of your practices to keep you in a great state of mind, all that.

Well, besides meditation and journaling, the first thing I do when I wake up at 4:30 or quarter to five in the morning, and that's something I do religiously every day, no matter what time I go to bed, is I make my bed. And making my bed, I wasn't in the military. It was just something I Learned in the 12 step program. And basically what it is, is it just helps the mindset get organized so that whatever you're going to do for the day that you felt like you accomplished something and something so small like that, I mean, it's not a major accomplishment by any means, but it's just something gets the mindset really focused so that you can focus on the priorities that really matter. And when I couple that with my meditation, my journaling my workout routine, reading a chapter out of a business or personal development book daily, and eating a healthy breakfast, it all sets me up for that recipe for sustainable success in my business, in my personal life.

Yeah. Beautiful. It's so interesting you say that. Just realizing now that I make. I make the bed and feel good about it because it is a victory. Like you said, it's not, you know, it's not, you know, win the Olympic gold medal, but it is a victory. And there's no question that successful people, that a part of how they create success and sustain it is that they celebrate it, that they acknowledge knowledge that there is something, you know, something they've done that's, that's worthy of some praise.

Right?

Because if you won't Praise yourself. Who will?

Absolutely.

And then people don't praise themselves. And they're always looking for other people's praise. And even when they get it, it doesn't make them feel good.

It's not enough. Yeah, it's. It's. It's. The only person that you should be judging is yourself. No one else. Nobody else should be judging you or you allowing them to judge you. It's yourself. That's where your solution is. That's where the problem is. Go within.

So do you know what your next pivot is?

That's a good question. I think my next pivot is I'm not there yet, but I'm feeling like I have a calling towards really being part of a solution with youth, where with all the school shootings going on and bullying, I'm beginning to see that a lot of times these kids, because they watch a lot of video games, again, there's this disconnect. Even if they come from loving families, especially boys, and it could be for girls, that there's just. There's something. The communication is not what it should be. And what could be the difference where a kid could be, you know, before, you know, could be healthy at an emotional level versus not healthy at an emotional level. And I feel while we have a lot of great resources out there, everyone's not taking responsibility. And I feel that, again, it's just a band aid. They're just managing the problem, and there's no one stepping up or an organization that's helping to solve the problem. And so I'm feeling kind of a little calling there on the side that. Leaning towards there to start doing something in that area.

Beautiful, Beautiful. Chris, it has been a pleasure to have you on the show, and I think you said so many things that are really will be beneficial for people to not just listen to it, but to actually think about where it is that they could be doing some things even. Even better. Whether it's on the emotional side or it's. You know, what you said earlier about taking time for yourself, how important it is that you, when you model that when you take care of yourself, it's easy or more. More easy for you to be a good model world for what that looks like. So we call it just for me time. Jfmt I like that. JFMT and I certainly support your next pivot. So anything, anything that we can do there to, as a community, support what you might choose to step into there. It's just wonderful. And for those of you who are watching on YouTube or. Or listening wherever you're listening to, I want to remind you again that we love your feedback. So if you've enjoyed this episode and you want to leave a comment, you can go to AdamMarkel.com podcast and leave a comment. And whether you've loved it or you didn't love it, we want your feedback anyway. Love to get a review from you on itunes as well. Of course, subscribe if you haven't done that and if you haven't checked out the Conscious Pivot, I want to say it's our sister community on Facebook, which we call the StartMyPivot community on Facebook. You can get to the front door of that community by going to pivotfb.com it's a real simple way to get in there and you'll answer a couple of questions and then we'll let you join. We curate the community. So it's definitely all about being both a great giver and a great receiver. It's a lot of incredible resources that are there and folks that are supporting at a very high level as well as being open and willing to receive that kind of support because we all need it. It's something we're all built the same way. So sending all of you a ton of love in this moment and want to bookend the way we began with, the way that we will transition from this podcast into the next. And that is to remind us how important it is that we are in a state of gratitude. I don't think there's anything that's more important to me in my daily practices than to be grateful. And I want to set out the intention that tomorrow that you all wake up. Chris, you are in there, I'm in.

There, everybody's in there.

We get to wake up because there's no guarantee that that'll take place. And the fact is that you're watching or listening, you get to wake up today. So regardless of whether it was an easy day or a tough day, or you needed to be inspired by what you've heard, or you're in a position right now where you're able to inspire others. Regardless of that, it was a blessing that you got to wake up today. And so I wish and I pray that you get to wake up again tomorrow. That's step one. And step two is that as you are waking up and taking that first breath of the day, that you realize that there are people who will be taking their last breath, as we said at the beginning, and there will also be babies born and new life created that will be taking a first breath, and it is truly a sacred moment, a holy moment. I don't mean in a religious way, although that's fine too. I mean that that is important. And regardless of whether you know what your assignment is on the planet at the moment, or you're curious or you don't know, whatever it is, it is special and something to be grateful for. So wake up and be in gratitude. That's step two and step three if you're willing to say it. I've got it on my shirt actually today. Love these words out my life. I love my life. I love my life. I love my life. So have a blessed and beautiful rest of your day or your evening, and we will catch you again soon. Ciao.

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