The Human Potential Movement With Stewart Emery

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Thank you, Adam. It's certainly when you talk about that it goes back a long way. So I'm thinking I'm getting up there at age right. I'm always 78, so I've been around, you know, I was ground zero, as they say, of before the human potential movement was a thing.

What did they call it back then? It's just a question I have. Did they give it anything?

Well, it was. Well, it got a name probably about the time I got here from Australia. I landed in San Francisco in 1971 and turned left at Lombard street and went over the Golden Gate Bridge, but stopped at Haight Ashbury before I did that. Inhaled and I knew I wasn't in Sydney anymore. This was just, it was a different scene.

Did you run into Julie Garcia then?

No, but I ran into some very interesting people over the time, but it was crazy. And so it was very exciting. I'd watched Australia get in the grips of the militant elements of the British labor movement, gone very left, and the marginal tax rate was 90% 9, 090.

Wow.

And I got here and looked around, and originally I was coming for a couple of weeks. I'm still here, basically, but I ran into a fellow called Werner Earhart, and the rest, they say, is history. This thing started that became called EST and then became the Landmark Forum. And so they were exciting times. They were. I think EST was phenomenal in its day. At the very least, it was extraordinary theater. And at the very best, people's lives went through what you call a pivot point as a result of their involvement in the S. Training. And I really do like that phrase, by the way, a pivot point. And for me, arriving in America was the aftermath of a pivot point I went through in my life before I got here. So I can tell a story quickly.

Well, what. What did that.

What. What did that look like?

I mean, I thought when you started to speak that you were from Kentucky, so I'm glad you cleared it up and that you're from Sydney originally.

Yeah. Yes. Yeah, I do. So. But I can relate to Kentucky, seriously, because.

Is that another pivot story?

Well, kind of, sort of. I mean, I grew up in Australia, but my early years were set in the Blue Mountains, and I was. Grew up alone. We were very poor, and I won a scholarship to a school for privileged children. So I didn't actually fit in very well. My father died as a result of his involvement in the war, although why he went off to the war at 50, I have no idea. I wasn't born yet. But he felt he had to do something. And he was a cartographer, very famous in Australia. But that turned out not to end well for him. And so I, you know, I went off to university. I studied philosophy, psychology, economics, ran with two other guys, the university newspaper. One of them was a fellow called Robert Hughes, who became very famous. He's passed now. Another was a radical called Richard Neville, But I'm not actually a radical activist at all, although I guess at university we all are. Many of us are. But I decided somewhere along the way, I. I couldn't see myself as an economics professor. And I was into photography because my father had been an artist, essentially. And so I took up photography through a series of serendipitous events, ended up shooting for Vogue, becoming famous, went to advertising photography, became one of Australia's top food photographers. And I had always thought that the secret to life was consuming the right stuff. I mean, hell, I was an advan, right? So I was a guy telling you that unless you use the right toothpaste, you wouldn't get kissed, let alone anything else you were hoping for later that night, Right?

Yeah.

And if your deodorant failed, your life did, right? That was the deal.

Because God forbid you should walk around with ring around the collar. I mean. Right, Right.

I know, but wait, there's more. There's more. Think how crazy this is to have integrity as an ant. Man, I had to believe this stuff, right? Yeah. I really had to believe that being a man was about riding a horse, smoking while we're getting laid at the same time. I mean, this is like a ridiculous metaphor. Politically incorrect. But hey, I'm Australian, so political correctness is the.

You get a mulligan for that.

But. But. So I remember waking up one day and I'm driving a Porsche Audi show car, which is a platform for the Wankel rotary engine. It's bright orange. I've got a bright orange racing suit to go with it. I am the man, right? In my field, I'm famous, right? And I'm sitting there one day at a stoplight, which is taking a while to change, and I'm thinking, my life's actually not any better, experientially. In other words, all of the things that I thought were going to be better. Like this little kid that was bullied at boarding school, this little kid that felt alone, this little kid that felt like he just simply didn't fit in, that I'd been dropped at the wrong planet. What am I doing here? Why me? You know? And so none of that had changed. I just did it in more style. But something had changed. There's an old saying that when all of the perceived causes of your unhappiness have been removed and yet your unhappiness continues, this is a crisis. A lot of people.

A moment of awakening, huh?

Yeah. So that crisis is handled by some people. I commit suicide. You sometimes wonder why people with fame and fortune and notoriety in a positive way in their lives. There's been a rash of that, you know, in the recent past here.

There has.

And so I got to look at that. Then I. My first wife, who passed from cancer, gave me a book by J. Krishnamurti called Think on these Things. And then serendipitously, I got an assignment to go and direct cinematography in Asia for a series of commercials. And while I was in Asia, I went into an altered state of consciousness for no reason I know of. I was up at a very, very poor part of what's now called Sri Lanka, shooting a commercial. And I went into this altered space and I was just in a state of bliss. And here was the conundrum. Here I am in very, very challenged surroundings in the midst of people who had almost nothing. Yet I'm experiencing a state of bliss and happiness unlike anything I'd known, surrounded by my opulence I'd acquired in Sydney, Australia. And it was like, you can't come back. Well, I suppose you can, but I never got over that because it completely. It's a pivot point. It turns your paradigm upside down of what you think it's all about. And so I went back to Australia and I really felt like a stranger in a strange land. A few other things happened. I ended up in San Francisco. Ended up in the human potential movement, trying to push into. And look at that thing.

Yeah.

You know that our inner experience is more unrelated to external circumstances than we like to believe.

Well, to some extent, when it's external, it's. It's just simplified for us. It's. It's an easier. It's potentially easier to look at something that's outside of ourselves than. Than something within. Is it?

Yeah, I think that it is. I mean, I forces conspire to have us believe that our internal experience is some external person or things fault. And even if our external. Even if our inner experience gets to be wonderful, we still think it's somebody else's fault. You know, like, you made me love you. Nonsense. You didn't do that at all. It had to be, you know, it didn't. It could have been any poor dump, you know. Yeah. I can get it.

Yeah. You complete me. Right. You remember that from Jerry McGuire? Yeah, yeah. It's outside of ourselves. It's on someone else. It's on something else. You know, the money, the economy, the politics, the president, whatever.

You look at the divisiveness we're fighting over whose fault our life is.

Come on.

It's as if the human potential movement never happened or everybody got an F. Nobody got an A.

Sometimes. What's that expression? Sometimes you take a step backwards to take two forward. I don't know, but it does seem.

I can hardly wait for the two forward.

Yeah, well, one thing we know is there's. There's never. There's no straight lines in the universe. So we're definitely in that. One of those inflection points, those pivot points. Right. Now in some ways, I'm curious about the bliss. Very much so, actually, because I have something that's been percolating in my head for some years which I want to run past you. But did you ever get a beat on what that bliss was from? Because again, to be in a place where there is, like you say, so much poverty and things to look at and think, geez, nobody could ever be happy for a moment in this environment. And yet you cultivated or received bliss then. Yes.

So happily I couldn't come up with a reason. Now I would like to have been one. And you know, we do tend to make up reasons till we find one we like and then we sell ourselves that reason.

Yes.

So it left me profoundly curious and actually.

And to this day, and to this day, Stuart curious about the same thing.

Yes, well, I'm a. I think my life's defined by the fact I'm a very curious person. And one other thing, I. One of my core values is excellence. I mean, my favorite kinds of people are people who are, to go back to a Thurman quote, ask not what the world needs, but ask what brings you fully alive? And go do that. Because what the world needs are people who are fully alive. And so the people that I like to have around me are people who are fully alive, being world class and doing something that they love to do. And I think when a person enters that space and they're fully alive, so then their lives become a gift to the world.

It's, gosh, I have this in front of me. So it's so interesting, the timing of things. If you believe in coincidence, which I don't, but either way, the timing of things is pretty cool. March 9, 1997, in Parade magazine. My dad sent me this pretty quickly after he saw it, but it was a conversation about success and it's between two fictional characters. I just want to read this because even in what you just said, I think it has some relationship success. Well, I don't know quite what you mean by success. Material success, worldly success, personal, emotional success. The people I consider successful are so because of how they handle their responsibilities to other people, how they approach the future. People who have a full sense of the value of their life and what they want to do with it. I call people successful not because they have money or their business is doing well, but because as human beings they have a fully developed sense of being alive and engaged in a lifetime task of collaboration with other human beings. Their mothers and fathers, their family, their friends, their loved ones, the friends who are dying, the friends who are being born. Success, don't you know? It's all about being able to extend love to people really. Not in the big capital letter sense, but in the everyday. Little by little, task by task, gesture by gesture, word by word. And my dad, he said, you know, at that time in my life I was striving, building a family and buying lots of things and working typical 70, 80 hour work weeks as an attorney. And I know he sent this to me both because he, he found it interesting, thought I would as well. But I think he also wanted me to start to question for myself and ask some questions about what, what would success mean? Not just then, but 20, 30, 40 years later. Because as you know as well as all any of us that we blink our eyes in it and it is 20, 30, 40, 50 years later. Remarkable.

I love that quote. I'd love you to send it to me. We did a book called Success Built the Last with Jerry Porus and Mark Thompson, and it's in a lot of languages now. And we actually did a global survey on what people thought success was. And the consensus was what you just read. Not as eloquently expressed by us as you just shared with me, but we interviewed also some of the world's most successful people. And we don't mean just monetarily. I mean, we had the requisite billionaires, we had Michael Dell, Richard Branson, Steve Jobs. I mean, I'm trying to go down the list now, but. And then we have people like Desmond Tutu, Mandela, Wow. Muhammad Yunus, who got a Nobel Peace Prize for microlending Oprah. I mean, it went down the list. So there were people who you may never have heard of and people who were very famous. But if you look deeply into it and got beyond the trappings of success, but beyond that, you looked who did you just feel uplifted by being in the presence of. When you got over being impressive, you were inclined to be. But once you got over that, and some people don't ever, hence we have, you know, people following the Kardashians. Why would anybody do that? But if you get over being impressed and you're just there with somebody's humanity and you look at how they've lived their lives, we interviewed a couple hundred people like that and put what we found into a book, but it's all put in that phrase, few paragraphs she just read to us. That, to me, is what success is. And then we find our own way of getting there. But we found all of these people were really good at doing something that seemed to be a gift to the world.

Yes. Yeah. It seems to me that when. When we get to the end, whatever the end is. I don't believe in an end, personally, so I do have a. I guess a faith in eternity. And no way to know for sure, of course, but it just feels. It feels true to me that the soul does not expire, so to speak. And it's actually interesting because a friend and a colleague, somebody. Somebody actually, who's we've worked with, in fact, on his public speaking, because he now has an incredible platform to speak about the nature and the origin of consciousness. He wrote a book called. Just recently launched a book called An End to Upside Down Thinking. Mark Gober, and he's an investment banker in the Bay Area, interestingly enough, and Princeton grad and all this. And sometimes make a joke when I've been introducing him that, you know, he's one of these underachievers, but clearly not. But what's really intriguing to me about this gentleman is that 33 years old, that he started to question some things. He had every reason, as many of us do sometimes when things are going our way, to just continue to press our foot on the gas pedal because money is coming in and success as other people, or even as we define it, is seemingly sort of in our laps. And yet the inevitable, I think, result of not thinking and pausing to be even more aware of things is that we get to a place where we can strive for great lengths of time and find that we're not happy. That somehow or another, despite the title and the money and other things, we're not happy. He was in that situation. He started to question some things and wrote a book about the origin of consciousness. And in essence, saying that the upside down thinking is the materialist view, that our brain produces consciousness. That consciousness does not exist outside of our own. Our own physical brain. And in any event, it gave me even some. I don't want to call it evidence, but just additional fuel to support my own thought that we are. That we're eternal beings, that somehow we're not done. But wherever it is that our physical bodies end, and we know that definitely comes to all of us at a certain point. I feel like looking back on our lives, all we've got is an experience of being. What else will we have? Right, Stuart? You know, our best relationships, we can't take with us. Our best toys we can't take with us. But what we will have is how we experienced being alive. As you said, just A few minutes ago.

Yeah. And you know, I used to say to people who worked out this cast iron alibi for being unhappy.

Oh, I gotta hear what that is, right.

Well, we were doing a workshop in New York. There's this woman here from. From South American country, and she'd spent like a quarter of a million dollars in psychoanalysis. This is like 25 years ago, right?

When they called it analysis, not therapy. Isn't that hysterical? They don't call it analysis anymore.

That was analysis. And if you were in psychoanalysis, you went five days a week, right?

Yeah.

I used to say to my friend who was a psychiatrist, he's passed now. I said, so why is New York crazy in autumn, in August? He said, because all of the psychiatrists are out of town on summer vacation, that's why.

They're all Nantucket.

They're all in Nantucket. So anyhow, so she's up there and she's got this long narrative, right? We love our narratives. And I said, well, you're pretty much screwed, but not in the way you'll enjoy it. She looks at me, what do you mean? Well, you know, you spent a quarter, well, your family spent a quarter of a million dollars getting in this perfect alibi for being unhappy. And you've got this narrative about all these terrible things that happened to you or didn't happen to you. I said, what are you going to do if you get to the end of your life and you find you made this whole thing up and you wasted your entire life being unhappy? Because at this point, the sanctity of your narrative is more important to you than your unhappiness. Until you decide that the possibility of being happy is more important than believing in your narrative and blaming your life on external circumstances, you're done for. But I notice people usually don't want to waste a quarter of a million dollars. So ain't under the narrative, right?

Yeah.

And so my son is honors degree in theoretical physics and applied mathematics. He's head of engineering of a big data science company. He has extraordinary PhD astrophysicists and mathematicians working on his team. And they sat down one day because my son is. Is not a religious man. So I sat down one day and because they could, they started doing the math on the probability of this all being here. Today you and I talk probability of that happening. It's so many trillions to one that there was a moment there where they looked at each other, paused eating their sushi and drinking their green tea, and said, whoops, we may be here through no fault of our own, Right?

That's a great quote. Do you remember Albert S. Albert Ellis? Is that a name that you're familiar with? My dad studied with him and I don't remember when it was, but it probably was in the 70s. And. Yeah, it was probably more and more in the 70s. And he had something called. I think it was Rational Emotive Therapy. Correct?

Yeah, he was the band back in the day.

I mean, he was a pretty radical guy.

Very radical.

You know, I remember just growing up with certain sound bites that really impacted me. I mean, you know, that nature, nurture, conversation is really telling. I think there's a lot of things, of course, that we bring from the past and maybe from our DNA and who knows what else in the past, but what you hear and the environment that you're in is so important. I love Yogananda. I think his quote was, that environment is stronger than will. Environment is really powerful. And in that environment, my dad used to repeat things that Ellis would say, like, you know, you're catastrophizing. You know, there's. There's no shoulds. It's not, you know, there's. There's only hassles and inconveniences. There's nothing that's a catastrophe. But we, we do. We tend to. I mean, we're in a world where we catastrophize a lot of things on a daily basis, don't we? I mean, it's good. It's good media. You were in the media business, so to speak, right?

Yeah. So we not only catastrophize it, we weaponize it.

What do you mean by that?

Well, we use what the narrative that was developed over this catastrophic event that happened. Then we use it as ammunition to condemn the other party or parties or whoever's fault it is other than their own, because it's never our own.

It's interesting, the environment that we find ourselves in right now, because there are some really important things that are happening and things that certainly deserve our attention and even deserve some response. And yet they all seem to be so drama driven. I mean, they are as dramatic as it gets. I mean, it is literally like living in a reality TV show, right?

It is. And, you know, perhaps people don't feel alive unless they're involved in a drama. I mean, it's like that kid that joins the army and he goes into the medic and says, my fire's gone out. What do you mean your fire's gone out? They give him, you know, all these things. His fire still gone out. Long story short, it turns down for the first time in his life, he's away from his mother's cooking and he doesn't have any gesture, so he thinks his fire's gone out. But I watch people that grow up, you know, families, a lot of families are broken and they grow up in the midst of drama. So I think we live in a world where aliveness is associated with drama, but that's aliveness and effect, isn't it? We used to say in est, you either live at cause, you live at effect. You know, your happiness, your unhappiness is some external element's fault. You love the drama. You're the effect of this. You feel alive. It's exciting. You know, inner peace is not exciting, it's just sublime.

Oh, my God. I had the audacity and the stupidity. I'll say. And you know what? I don't want to. I want to retract that because I don't know if I really believe it was stupid, but when I. The last company that I was running, I was CEO of a very large personal development training company. And I was in that.

This.

The seat of power, so to speak, for a couple of years and was feeling like it wasn't getting anywhere, like we weren't getting anywhere. In fact, I felt like we were sliding backwards because we were, for a variety of reasons. And I was at a training. One of our retreats off in the woods of bc, British Columbia. And I had something come to me, a very emotional moment where when I came out of the. Whatever it was that I was experiencing, that I realized that we had an opportunity as a company to stand for peace in the sense that. To help people to create their own individual peace for them, for us to be in some way a catalyst for the work they could do on themselves, to create and cultivate inner peace for themselves. That at a certain point, if enough people. This was my theory anyway, let's say this now, if enough people were selfishly working on their. At the cause level of their peace, that our world at some point would hit a tipping point and we would experience what world peace looked like because so many people were selfishly working on that.

Yeah. So I couldn't agree more.

It was really.

That's the deal. That's the deal.

Well, not. Not as a. Not as a mantra for a company, apparently.

Well, I understand that. But on an individual level, it's think globally, act locally. And the ultimate process of acting locally is to develop a set of practices to live in one's own inner peace. I mean, I used to marvel during the anti war period, 70s and people would want Warren and I to get involved in the movement. We had our own movement we were building. So I used to say to him, I said, when you come to me and you want me to speak at these anti war rallies, but you're also angry. How are you going to bring peace to the world if you're consumed by your anger? Go and learn to meditate. Go and learn to do something really well that brings you fully alive. And when you found the blessing of that equanimity and inner peace, when you've grown comfortable in your own skin, then we're going to have this conversation. But not right now. You know, I can't, I can't help you right now other than say, find a practice, meditate, get good at something that you love to do.

I think that's what's a good sign, I believe is that mindfulness and meditation, and I think the corporate term these days is mindfulness, but it's become something that is not in the business context is acceptable. It's not just acceptable, it's something people are speaking about with, with this an understanding that it's not just a soft skill. I hate that. I hate when you think about how personal development or personal growth work is sometimes viewed in the corporate sector as soft, as soft skills or emotional.

Given how hard it is to get.

Given how hard it is to get there. It's the, it's the, it's the hardest road to ho. I mean, no, how could it be? You have to face yourself in re with some honesty and truth and maybe integrity in a moment, moment to moment. I mean, that's, that's can be torturous. And at least my personal experience of it, it can be as usual.

Well, my wife comes from a family on a mother's side or in the hospitality business. Back in the day, they had arguably the most famous restaurant on earth in New York called the 21 Club. And one of their values was they're very, very kind to service people. And you know, I've watched my wife turn around the experience for an airplane full of disgruntled passengers simply by being kind to the service staff on the airplane. You know, and then we used to teach courses in customer service. And it used to be if you want to have great customer service, you'll learn how to be a great customer and how you have a role in serving the people who are trying to serve you. I mean, if we wanted a very simple, well, what do we do with the mess that we're in? This divisiveness and this conflict and this anger was a really simple answer. We're simply kind to each other. If we just practice being kind to each other and kind to ourselves, of course, the world would change if we welcome people with respect and warmth. I was going to say respect and love, but the L word is scary for people. So if we welcomed each other with respect and warmth. I'm into coffee these days. I was at a function the other night. Somebody's birthday party. Is a hundred people there from the LGBT community. So Joan and I are one of. We're definitely a minority, and yet we had the time of our life in the best way. It was experientially delicious. Nobody was talking politics. What bound us together was good food and good coffee. You know, I have kids who are kids. Anybody under 30 is a kid. But these are kids. Like teenagers. Yeah. Covered in tattoos and piercing and multicolored hair. And we have a common bond because I can walk up to an espresso machine and pull a shot with the best of them. So once you've established that and you're kind to each other, then age disappears, gender preference disappears, relationship preference disappears. We're simply present with each other. And, you know, present with each other requires we start in kindness. We interviewed John McCain before he announced for the presidency, the presidency that Obama won originally. And he talked about how sad it had become for him that people on either side of the aisle could no longer disagree and then be friends afterwards. That we'd started down this path of vilifying the other side, and if it didn't change, our representative republic would cease to exist. And McCain's past. Now, he wrote the ford for our book Success Built the last. And I hear that interview in the Senate building that we did and filmed. And he must have died with a broken heart.

I think. I think it broke a lot of people's hearts for him to exit at a point when it's. There is so much incivility. I mean, he. I loved. I don't normally watch a lot of the coverage of things at the White House, or I don't watch a lot of politics in general, but I couldn't stop watching the eulogies that were given from McCain, from the former presidents to his daughter. I mean, it was heartbreaking. This was a genuinely decent man. You could argue against his politics. That's fine. But this was a gentleman, and that's a word that can't be used too lightly today.

Well, we Went there to interview him, and his friend who kept him alive in the Hanoi Hilton had just passed, and he couldn't go to the memorial service. So he's gonna film a eulogy. And the cinematography team was missing in action. So we were there with the camera crew, and we said, senator, it'd be our honor. So we made this. And then McCain said he threw all of his handlers out of the room. So it was Mark, myself, and the senator. And we just talked and we agreed that on the record, off the record, we'd honor that. A couple of times I said, senator, I think you ought to put that off the record. He said, yeah, probably. And we've never betrayed that on the record, off the record thing. You can't do what we do and interview remarkable people. If you don't honor that and you don't see that, there's never any leaks.

So.

But it's not. It's not that hard to be kind to people, actually. Somebody got to notice that they're there and notice that they're human. You know, we think that this transformation and information. There's no transformation in the information. There's only transformation on how we are present within ourselves and present with another person. Can you be just there without the monkey mind running amok? Can you just be there in the stillness? Can you just be there in the kindness? I think the word love gets overused, you know, become jargon. Like, what does that actually mean? And so I'd argue was a state of consciousness. There may be verbs associated with. But when we say, well, I love my car. God, I love my coffee. Oh, I love this latest book I'm reading. Oh, I love you, too, sweetheart. Really. I think the word's getting overused at this point, right? And I say that because when it gets overused, then that distracts from what it is. And to your point, I just think it is a state of consciousness when the monkey mind isn't creating conflict and doubt and all those other things. And people want a mantra. They want a meditation, make somebody's day, be kind to them.

Do you know any of the work of A Course in Miracles? Has that ever been something you've looked at?

I know it very well, actually. I asked Bill Tetford, who was one of the people involved in that. I said, did Helen really channel that? He said, stuart, we're down at what used to be the Tiburon, the Swedish bakery in downtown Tiburon. It's now a restaurant. But he said, stuart, did you ever meet Helen? I said, no, Bill you and I have been friends for a while and we love the Course of Muriels. We teach from it. He said, well, Helen was a dark, angry Jewish atheist. If you ever met her, you would know she couldn't possibly have written the Course of Miracles. So the only alternative, she channeled it and they would sit there at Columbia, right? And Bill could type as fast as Helen could talk. So she channeled us and he'd type away. And they were mimeographing it. Remember the old mimeographs? It was like this purple type and it would fade. Yeah.

They'd get it all over your hands.

Get it all over your hands. And they would never tell anybody where this came from. Right. Because they thought they'd get their ticket cancelled at Columbia if the word got out. They were channeling this mystical religious text. And the Whitmores who got. Who turned in the Course of Miracles were neighbors of ours on Boulder Avenue. So I was in the middle of all of that and I loved it. I mean, I have two sets of the Course of Miracle on our shelves. And one of my favorite thing is things have no meaning but the meaning you give them.

Yes.

Now that's really scary if you confront that.

Right, Yeah.

I mean, to be responsible. I mean, think about this. The ultimate responsibility is being responsible for investing meaning in something. See, meaning is an internal construction, part of an internal narrative, and you invest it in external events. They don't in and of themselves have meaning. But we feel better if things have meaning. But we have to remember that we said this has meaning. To me, we invest meaning in this. This is going to matter to us, their personal choices.

We're meaning making machines.

We just making machines. We are. We shouldn't forget that we did that.

I was reaching because it sits on my desk and I've got two of these too, so funny you just said that. I don't know how I picked up two, but at a certain point, we were doing an event some years ago and I. And I had heard that Marianne Williamson was running for office and it was kind of late in the game and she was looking for some extra support and unfortunately she. She lost that bit. I think it was from Congress. But we invited her to come to our event and we'd make a spot for some point during the day where she could speak to our group. We had like 400 people there and. And she was behind stage, I was on stage and I was going to come back and speak to her briefly and then bring her up. And I had a Course in Miracles sitting On my stage table behind, you know, thing. And I walked back there and she teaches quite a bit and A Return to Reflections on a Course in Miracles is one of her books, which is magnificent. I think it's absolutely breathtaking book. And she was holding it up, holding my book and looking through something. And I always wanted to get back with her and ask her was she looking for things, passages or things that I was maybe dog eared or whatever, or was she looking for something for herself? But there's one particular part of that, that text that I just come back to again and again. And I may, I mean I may never know any more than this one thing, but this is, this was a blessing to found chapter 30, which is called the New Beginning. And it's in essence the rules for how you create the day you want. Which is lovely, you know, that you could learn how to create the day. And it starts by asking or having an awareness that you make no decisions by yourself. And we're either making them with fear or with love in essence and that kind of thing. But there's one other really amazing thing at the end of that section where it talks about that we create the day we want so that we can offer it, that it becomes an offering, it becomes a gift to the world, that the peace that we would give ourselves is the peace we get to offer the world. It's such an interesting twist on, on the giving and receiving thing, which is, you know, as my dad would always say, this a front and back of everything. So it's two sides of the same coin. And yet we're always giving, giving, giving. We're thinking that that's the thing we're supposed to do, including giving love. So to give love, to put our stamp of love on things. I love my coffee, I love my car, I love my wife, you know, all those things. And yet the receiving piece of it is what seems to be lacking in so many. Because how can you give something? The quality of what you give is rooted in the quality of where it came from. I mean, talk about cause and effect. So how can you give something that you don't possess? And even if you do possess it, it's still based. The quality of what you can give is based on the quality of what you possess. So this idea of loving yourself is at the root of what.

The love.

We give others is the love we give ourselves. The judgment that we heap on ourselves is the judgment that we also heap on the world. I just think it's so. It's such an interesting Thing that. What you brought up earlier, I find.

It'S hard you tell somebody to love themselves. It's like sometimes they just want to hit you over the head after you tell them that with whatever is available. So I don't find that telling, saying. Well, you gotta love yourself, you know? I remember driving along Timberon Boulevard one day. This is 30 years ago, behind a Volkswagen. You know those old Volkswagen campers.

Yeah.

Covered in peace stickers and all these other things.

Yeah.

And there's a. On the back of the bottom, it says, honk if you love. Jesus, what the hell? Honk, honk, honk. And I drive past the woman, she leaves out the fink and gives me the finger. Right.

Give me the finger.

I guess the message of universal love failed her this morning. Great story, right? Failed. And I'm thinking, so this is why operationally we've come to be kind.

You're married to one of the kind. I wanted to say this earlier. I just. But I'm gonna say it or I'm gonna. I won't forget it, but I don't want. I want to make sure I say it while we're recording. And that is Joan. Your. Your lovely wife. Joan is a walking example of what kindness looks like. Now, I'm not, obviously, don't know her the way you do and don't live with her. And we all have our shit, for sure, but. So I'm sure she's not clear of that, but. But she is just a genuine human being. You married a very kind person, sir.

I married up. That's a good thing to do.

It is a good thing to do, but she's.

Her personal value is to welcome others with respect. And she uses the word love, but she publicly wouldn't say that always. She'd say, welcome people with respect and warmth and be kind to them.

It's doable.

It is doable. I mean, I notice what happens Journey. I do have as a core value being kind to service people. The people who pack the groceries in the bag.

Yes.

The people of service behind the fish counter. And so we tried always to. And it doesn't seem like an effort of trying to be present and leave them smiling as we go. Too hard to close that gap.

Yeah. Between.

Yes and that's actionable. You can actually do that. If I say love yourself, you can't do that. If I say be kind to the person packing your groceries in the bank, you can actually do that. If you're kind to enough people, you will notice one day you love yourself. How simple Is that.

Yes, it's so interesting. We were in Sydney and Melbourne a couple of years back. Been there, fortunately, a number of times to do some trainings and things. But we were there and heard or read that the suicide rate. Well, it wasn't so much about the suicide rate, but the demographic of people who were taking their lives in Australia. And you had brought up the word suicide earlier. So I just want to. I want to. It wasn't an open loop, but definitely something I wanted to come back to. And because this has been on our mind lately as well. And that demographic in Australia were young people in the 20s and early 30s. And then a few years later, we were launching our book Pivot and having a celebration party in the city in Manhattan. And so funny, when you're from New York, I think everybody from New York, wherever you've lived after that, you think of the city as there's only like one city in the world. So you say the city, everybody's supposed to know it's New York.

New York for a while. So I get it. Yeah.

But in any event, so we were there and it was front page of either the Times or the Wall Street Journal that they had published a 15 year study of suicide rates in the US and the demographic was completely different here. And the highest increase of suicides was among women 50 plus years old, which was really shocking to me. Like, we were shocked. What's that?

What was it in Australia? What was the demographic? Oh, sorry.

It was 20 young people in their 20s.

It's 50 women.

Yeah, 50 plus women. And of course, men, you know, are on that. And the military, unfortunately, is on that too. And there was. But this was in terms of the rise, the dramatic rise in the rate among women 50 plus years old, as well as young girls, teenage girls, girls, teenage age, young girls. And the number of young girls that had taken their lives was very small, but the percentage increase was what was noticeable. And among women, 50 plus years old, I think that right now suicide is something. A much bigger issue. You brought it up with respect to celebrities and all that. This is something that's not well understood. And I think there's still a great deal of attention that it's. That needs to be placed in that area. What are your thoughts on that, Stuart?

Yeah, what I was thinking about when you were talking, we knew a woman whose father had founded Pan Am. This is again, going back a few years, but she had started a charity and they outfitted aircraft as global traveling eye hospitals that go to parts of the world and restore people's eyesight through surgeries that were simple by our standards, but not available in these developing countries. They did long term tracking and they found that the suicide rate amongst people who had their eyesight restored far outstripped the normal control population. So now let's get our head around. It's okay, you're blind, you have your eyesight restored and you kill yourself.

Yes.

Thing I think we talked about before we went live with this, which was when the perceived causes of your unhappiness are removed and yet your unhappiness continues, you can be left in such a state of despair that the only way out is to take your own life. And that was a pivot point for me where I grew up in poverty, honestly believed that if I could consume the right stuff, I'd be happy. If I solved the problems of being poor, I would be happy. I solved those problems and joined the ranks of the conspicuously affluent by Sydney. Australian standards, which are way below American standards, or they was in those days. And here I was, I was still that same unhappy little kid, tormented at boarding school or feeling alone in the Blue Mountains, Australia, without family or friends. Really. I don't want to do a Woe is me story, but I faced it at that moment. Now, for me, it was the pivot point. You talk about the people. Because I read this book that my first wife gave me, who Passed from Cancer by J. Krishnamurti, Think on these things. And I just had this. I went into a state of bliss, realizing that my inner experience was not the function of external circumstances. And then, you know, later in my life in America, I got to meet some of those people and talk to them who'd survived the concentration camps of Nazi Germany. And they talked about being able to govern their internal experience in external circumstances at you. And I can't imagine, probably, I mean, we can see the visuals, but we can't imagine what it would be like. I couldn't conceive of myself as a person who could manage an inner experience of equanimity in those dreadful external circumstances. But there are people like this. But I meet more and more people who have learned that their inner experience is in fact independent of external circumstances. But I think for a lot of people whose solution was fame and fortune and it didn't get them there. What you gonna do?

Yeah, Robin Williams. Robin Williams being a.

Yes, it's Anthony Bourdain.

Mm.

I mean, a lot of people. That famous designer Kate Spade. Was it Kate Spade? Yeah. So, I mean, people look like to totally have it made. And they always thought that having it made was the answer to the inner demons and the relentless unhappiness.

Bruce Springsteen, I haven't written interest. I haven't read his biography, but what I heard was that he speaks about depression, that his own anxiety and depression and how he dealt with that privately and I guess away from the public eye. But he felt compelled to let some folks know. I think this is a much bigger issue than we even. And there's reasons I'd actually just would love to get your opinion on it, if what I'm about to say makes any sense to you. The number of suicides, which is. As of last year, they were talking about 22 service men and women a day or veterans. And. And the number of people that are reported to take their lives. Very different number than the number of people who've attempted to take their lives or think about it and have yet or have not made an attempt. I think this is a much bigger issue in our world than we're willing to shine a light on at this moment. And it's only. I feel like that's only increasing because the level at which we have true connections with people that we're able to enjoy being present with other people. She's speaking about earlier. I don't know how you can be very easily present with someone through social media, and I'm a fan of social media. I don't think. And I'm certainly not ever looking to hold back the tide of progress. I mean, would be foolish to try. And it's not even. I don't even think it's wise to do that. But it certainly creates its own additional effects. And I think some of those effects are that people are actually more isolated than ever before.

I think that's the case. Joanie was doing a course for teenage girls. It was a very difficult experience for her. But there was a moment there where she said, oh, my God, they're taking a break. And she sees two teenage girls sitting next to each other on a park bench in the park next to the building, and they're sitting there texting each other. Not, like, being present with each other and connecting, protecting each other. How crazy is that?

And people any crazier than people sitting in a restaurant that are sitting in a restaurant with a glass of wine or good food on the table and are on their phones. I mean, you see that every day. I mean, everywhere, right?

Everywhere. Yeah. So technology has not brought us closer together.

Hasn't brought us bliss.

Hasn't brought us bliss. Well, you Know, one way of looking at human history is all the things we've believed in that were going to make us happy. Or I used to say with a little more cynicism, all the things we believed in that were going to save our ass. Easter bunny, the tooth fairy, Santa Claus. Oh, don't. Then we graduated to socialism, communism, capitalism. Then we have all the isms and ologies. We tried Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Scientology. I mean, it goes on and on and on. And you say I was holding the Norman learn the family Norman Lear.

Yes.

And saying, you know, we talked, we did a book. And so we're talking about all of the isms and ologies we have believed in, not to mention lovers and assorted other friends that we thought were going to save our miserable butt. And none of it works. Oh my God. None of it that could have. You want to do yourself in right now.

I know, that's what I'm saying.

Don't oh my God.

Come with a warning label.

I don't. But I've studied a lot of people who a successful in the terms you read. You know, success is a total concept.

Yes.

They're happy people, they're loving people, and they have as much affluence as they need to be able to choose freely in the world and live a life that's a gift to the world. So I have spoken to hundreds of people like that life and I always notice the same characteristics.

Right. It's the great. I think life is the greatest game ever played. I mean, after all, who makes the rules, right?

We do.

Yeah. We get to be the judge and the jury and the referee all the time. I mean, could you get an easier game to play on some level than that? I mean, what you said earlier about nothing has meaning except for the meaning we give it. I mean, there are just some really important basic principles that are life changing. When you met, how did you meet Werner Earhart? I mean, maybe some of the people who are consuming this might not even know of that name, but. And we only have just a short amount of time. But I'd love to know how that relationship started.

And what happened was we had a client in Australia as the ad business and called Holiday Magic, run by a fellow called William Penn Patrick. And we had programs. They had programs to help people be more successful, like lead the field with the whole Nightingale and various other courses. And one of them was of course called Mind Dynamics, which was how to use your mind more effectively and how to work in alpha states. So I took the Mind Dynamics Course, it was after I had this epiphany in Australia, and it was remarkable. And so they said, well, why don't you come to. We love the ads you're doing in Australia for us. Why don't you come to America, do some marketing work for us there, and if you want, take the Mind Dynamics franchise back to Australia. So that was the plan. Do all this in two or three weeks. But what went wrong was in the middle of the Mind Dynamics course, Werner Earharts had some of these people there because he was the star Mind Dynamics instructor and he was going to become president of Mind Dynamics. But I got up and did my thing because I was leading encounter groups in Australia. And his people went back, said, this is kid from Australia, you've got to meet him. He's really something else. He's like a terrier. He gets his teeth into someone, he just doesn't let go. You gotta meet him. So I meet Werner and he says, I hear these courses you do in Australia are phenomenal. Would you do one for me and my staff? And I said, sure. So it was Werner's birthday weekend in 1971 at the Sir Francis Drake. He was set to announce as president of Mind Dynamics, we did the course. He said, you know what? I don't become president of Mind Dynamics. Why don't we start our own thing? Esther's born.

Wow.

And I could. We contributed the concept of aliveness because Esther was about alive. This. That was what we were offering people. But I can't say that was an original offering. Werner paid us, Joanie and Jan, time in advance to do the course. I said, what am I going to do for three days, right? So I go to the town hall. I swear that you can't make this stuff up. I go to the town hall Metaphysical Bookstore, and there's a little book, tiny little book, red cover. Oh, wait.

Can I guess? Can I guess? I don't know that there's any chance I'm going to guess what book you're talking about, but are you talking about the Seven Day Mental Diet?

No. This is called Aliveness, Health, Wealth, Happiness, and Full Self Expression. So that became the marketing promise of est. Wow.

Who was the author of that book? Do you remember?

No, I don't even have the book. Wow.

Oh, you got to get that book.

Oh, we'll have it.

We'll have. We have a recording from this, obviously. What a great gift to get you. Oh, my God. Wow.

And so, you know, Werner really made up his mind before we started the course. He wasn't going to take the deal at Mind Dynamics.

Yeah.

But that became the. The founding idea of est. So I didn't join immediately. We had lunch for his birthday at Greenbrae. He said, well, we started this. I said, well, I've got some other commitments that I need to tidy up. And so on the 1st of April, 1972, boy and I met at the Trident and Sausalito, just across from where I live now. And we made a deal.

And the world changed.

My world changed.

Your world changed. And a lot of people's worlds changed. I mean, it. It's. It's a. Gosh, thousands and thousands and probably hundreds of thousands of people have come through that. And then obviously that morphed into landmark for the landmark trainings.

And, you know, I became the first CEO of S, the first person out of Learner to do the training and train the first 10 trainers. So they were exciting, very exciting times. But the timing was right. The timing was right for est, and we got really remarkable people. So EST became successful because remarkable people. You get the leading edge of the bell curve.

Yes.

People were up to something.

And what we're talking about when it comes to timing was that we were coming. So this is the early 70s and where in the. This is the civil rights movement, this is the Vietnam War, and all the activism against that war and the ending of the war. And it's also Nixon, and it's just shy of when we find out what's going on with him. It's a tumultuous time. And so it was the perfect time for something like an S to be born, correct? Yes. I'm curious to look at the times that we're living in now, because I'm just sort of tracking the threads here of our conversation, and one of them is this concept of aliveness. We've covered a lot of really interesting things. I want to see if we can't connect the dots a bit too. We are living in very divisive times, very tumultuous times in many ways. You could look at the rhetoric and compare it to the late 60s or early 70s.

Absolutely could.

So there's some similarities, for sure.

I don't want to malign people, but as we both know, a lot of big names are making a lot of money selling success, right?

Yep. Their definition or some version of what success.

But it's the kind of definition of success that allows you to be one of the crazy rich Asians, if you've seen that movie, have.

Yep, yep.

Of just conspicuous consumption in the world that can't support that anymore. So. So I watch a lot of this version of success. Correct. Yes. Send that out to people. Your entire. Everybody just deserves to have that to read. It's magnificent. And. And so I think that those of us who are in the business of supporting people being successful, it's time for us to redefine what that means. In the spirit of that piece you read. I talked to Jack about this. He has his core success principles, but the kind of success we want is this success of being able to be kind to people. Whoever is in front of you.

There'S a new paradigm that will emerge and hopefully is already emerging. Any sense of what that might look like? I mean, you have already said that it's that kindness would be a important element in the equation. Anything else? That having been on the. And the reason I'm asking is you, obviously, on the. On the, you know, as the wave was cresting. You're an Australian, so you surf and you really play rugby, too, right? So. And the rugby thing came up for me earlier just to say that what's great about rugby, our son played rugby, is that they knock each other around pretty good on the field. But more, more to the point, they. They gather afterward as, as fellow competitors and people that respect each other. And they have. They hoist a few, right. They sing, they arm in arm with each other, celebrate one's, you know, the competition. And that's definitely not what seems to be in the air today, but it's.

What McCain was talking about as being the case of the Senate way back in the day. We have some friends who are working to try and sort out the North Korean mess. Had made some progress since that's not in the news cycle anymore. But we're going to start a conversation about how do you. How do you have those level conversations with members of the Senate, which puts us at greater risk than the guy in North Korea? Way back, I designed a program for Condoleezza Rice's State Department where they brought people together from Palestine and Israel who were water engineers. Meant I had to smuggle them out, secure location. I actually couldn't lead the seminar. I couldn't get a security clearance.

Long story.

But anyhow, so. Or in time, I couldn't get one. So, I mean, they came into the room not being able to look each other in the eye, and they left hugging each other. So on that level, it worked. Now, it hasn't solved the problems there, but we do know in any given moment, if a program is well designed and well Facilitated. People can get to be present with one another, get to recognize each other's humanity, and for the length of time they're together, to be kind. Then, you know, it's difficult because as Drucker said, Peter Drucker said, culture eats strategy for breakfast. Or Stuart Emery says, the environment always wins. And we talked about that. One of the difficult things about the s training or actualizations, which was the thing we did, all the corporate work we've done, was people can have this extraordinary experience for that period of time, and then they go back to the environment they came from. What I liked about corporate work rather than public work, was you could change a corporate culture. We spent years with MasterCard and made a huge contribution to their success in the marketplace and with each other, because their success in the marketplace began with his success with each other as people. So you can do something about corporate culture. So I think enough people have got a care to try and get the dialogue started in a civil way.

Is it the same wave that's cresting again? Will the answer to this particular discord be the same or similar answer as to the one when you started establishing with Werner?

But I think we didn't invent the human potential movement, Adam. It's been around as long as humanity, hasn't it, really?

Sure.

There has always been a human.

The Bible is a human potential movement.

I mean, totally.

What else is it? Right?

So we reinvent the narrative. In a book called Sapiens, he talks about what separated humanity, or this version of humanity from all of the competing forms is unique to us, is our ability to create narratives and have people believe them and be willing to die for them. So Christianity is a narrative. We can go through a list of isms and ologies, Judaism, Islam. They're all narratives. Republican narrative, Democrat narrative.

Yes.

Or they're all narratives, and we divide in the tribes and fight over whose narrative is the right narrative. So, you know, some progressive intellectuals think, well, we've got to get rid of tribes. But if we look at the person as an elephant with a rider, the tribe lives inside the elephant, and that's not going to change. So how do we get. How do we do globalization without destroying tribalism? Because if you try to destroy somebody's tribe, that doesn't end well. So, you know, we can bring ourselves to be kind. If we love animals, we can be kind to a lot of species of animals and donate to animal welfare. What about this element? What about that animal? Right. How can we be kind to the very species of elephants making up the human race. And it's not by the writer giving dogma and a personal version of the truth as the only truth. That just isn't so absolutely don't work.

Generally. I wanted, I wanted just the last couple of moments ask you this question and I've. For those of you that are watching this on YouTube and you can see what I've got on the screen and folks that are listening, I'm just bringing up a graphic of Stuart's new book, who's in your room? And speaking of narratives, Stuart, how has this book. Is this book informed by some of what we've been talking about today? I imagine it is. In many ways.

The book's a really simple idea. Imagine you live your entire life in one room, travels with you, can be beautiful, but the thing about the room is that it only has one door. You can say, but Stuart, lots of rooms only have one door. What's the deal? I say what the deal is, Adam, is that this room has a one way door in, but not out entry, but no exit. So whoever comes through the door to your room is with you in your room for the rest of your life. Whatever they bring with them is in your room with you for the rest of your life. Now, if you knew that, would you choose more carefully now, before you argue whether that could possibly be true or not, would you be willing to live going forward as if it were true? By the way, if you talk to the world's best brain scientists, they will tell you it's absolutely true. If it comes into your mind, it never leaves. You may think people are out of your life, but they're still in your head. So the book's about how do you live with that? How do you choose carefully going forward? How do you have people that support you becoming the best version of yourself, living in kindness and living a life that's a gift to the world? That's what the book's about.

Beautiful.

Very practical. Yeah, that's the.

Yes. And you obviously co authored with Ivan Meisner and Rick Shapiro and had Ivan on just a couple of months ago on the podcast. So is it available now? Is it in stores on Amazon?

It's up for pre order on Amazon. I don't know what date this is, but the book launches in America two days after the midterms.

Beautiful.

And we think it'll be a very relevant book at that moment. Who's in your room, Right?

Indeed. Yeah. No kidding.

I, I just, you know, have a stranger. So there's a part of me that's Just, you know, cheeky, incorrigible.

Yeah. This has been everything. I would have wanted it to be both for me, but what a. What a wonderful conversation. Go on forever and ever. But we get to do that privately. Everybody else, sorry.

I'm so glad that we finally got to hang.

I know.

With an audience.

Think about it.

I hope they like it. Yeah. Well, I'm thinking. I don't know whether anything I'm not.

Attached to, whether they do or they don't, so.

But I don't know whether anything I said is actionable. I think being kind to people, that's actionable.

I think it's incredibly actionable. And it's simple. And it is the kind of thing that when you walk in, I love things that are usable. And walking into the supermarket, which is something we all do sometimes daily or weekly, certainly to see that person on the other side of the counter, and instead of fiddling with your phone or doing any other number of things, figuring out whether you spent too much money or did you, you know, get everything you're there to get, Maybe just to look across and look at that person and see them, allow them to see you seeing them, ask them something, use their name. I don't think there's anything more practical as a way to model kindness than in that scenario. It's just one of many, many scenarios. But what a beautiful example you gave us.

And it could get to be a habit. You see, once it's a habit, it's got critical mass. Then you just notice that you become kind to yourself.

Yeah.

When we recognize each other by just being present rather than what our job is or what we're wearing. But just being present, it does all change. Just does.

Yes. As we close out this episode. First of all, thank you, Stuart, for your time today. Thanks for the words and your wisdom. It was a pleasure.

Likewise. It was great. And I was going to say thank you for whoever signs in to read this. And, you know, the world needs you to have a successful life and to be a happy, kind person. That's what the world needs from you right now, and that will bring you fully alive. So you'll be honoring Thurman's quote to Martin Luther King. So go do that, please. We all need us to do that.

Indeed. So for our community, thank you so much, as always, for supporting what we're doing here and for the wonderful comments that you leave for us. We'd love to get your feedback. So you can go to itunes and leave a review. You can go to AdamMarkel.com podcast to leave a comment, we can reply directly to you. There's of course, if you haven't yet subscribed, please feel free to Our Facebook group is growing and they are very much like minded, like hearted people that are pivoting in so many ways. And the essential pivot for most of us, if not all of us, is our day to day, our moment to moment thoughts. So that community Facebook is the start my pivot community. And you can get there by going to PivotFP and I will leave with a prayer. I really believe in the power and the value of prayer and I say this in a secular way, I suppose, because I'm not assigning it to a religion, but yet I believe every moment of our lives is holy. So to that extent there's something. There's nothing that's really secular. But without splitting hairs, my prayer is that we all get to wake up tomorrow. Today we did, we got to wake up and be alive as we've been talking about today. And that wasn't a guarantee and tomorrow it'll be no different. So my hope is that we all get to do it again tomorrow. And I hope that you will in fact agree that your intention is to wake up tomorrow, wake up not just physically, but but consciously, that you are a little more conscious tomorrow, a little more awake and alive tomorrow than you are even today. And if that's the case, and I'm sure it will be, then we're making steady progress. And that in that moment, that waking moment when you take your first conscious breath, that you're aware that there will be people taking their last breath at that moment, and babies being born taking their first breath. And it is something to be grateful for. So waking up, part one, acknowledging how special that is, and being grateful, part two. And lastly, if you're inclined to say these words out loud, I've had the blessing to share this with a lot of people around the world and it has made a big difference in my own life. And you get to be the judge.

Of whether it works for you.

That's the beauty of any of this, what Stuart was sharing today. You get to try these things on for size. No different than if you went into a shoe store and tried on a pair, and if they fit great, wear them, and if they don't fit, take them off. You get to create your own narrative about it. But my narrative is that I love my life. And so tomorrow when you wake up and you feel grateful for that breath, you get to also choose if you want to declare out loud from your bed, from the moment you stand up, whenever it is. I love my life. I love my life. I love my life. It's been a blessing, everybody. We'll see you very soon again. Stuart, thanks so much for your, for your, your kindness today. Thank you.

Thank you. Thanks for listening, everyone.

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