Guest Superstar Sarisha Naidoo, founder of Navigate Life coaching www.Navigatelifecoach.com.

100%. Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! I'm so excited. So I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. I know that Sarisha, you are in UK.

Yes, I am. So I have one American friend living here, and, uh, I wish her Happy Thanksgiving today. So, and put some posts on Thanksgiving. So Happy Thanksgiving to your listeners, that they're all American-based families. Hope you guys had a great day and celebrating and have lots to be thankful for. I certainly do.

I appreciate that. So, okay, so I want to make sure I get your name correctly, so I'm going to have you say your own name.

So, uh, my name is Sarisha Naidu and I work as a life coach and business consultant for Navigate Life Coach. Really a pleasure to be here.

Oh, thank you so much. Your website is wonderful and your pictures are incredible. And you really are like, you don't do your pictures justice because you're so much beautiful than your photos are. But I wanted to, I love, I love your About You. I love where you show the importance of getting to know you. So when choosing a life coach, and I'm in a funny position because I don't have a life coach. I wish— I feel like a life coach would have changed my life, and I could see how it could change so many other people's lives. But when it comes to life coaches, I'm not 100% sure, like, how to choose a life coach. So first of all, you, you really get people connected to your story. And can you share, like, why you do that and why that's your marketing too? Because it is brilliant.

I lost the sound there. I didn't hear your question. Sorry.

Yes. Oh, I'm sorry. My question to you is When you're choosing a life coach— yes, can you hear me? The importance of getting to know your life coach and who that person is, and you address it right away on your website, and I, I think that is so brilliant.

Yes, what I found was, um, a lot of people don't know, uh, what a life coach is, what they can and help you with. That's firstly. Secondly, there are too many life coaches The market is quite saturated. Everyone says, "Be a life coach but have a niche." That's another thing. Thirdly, I thought that I would get that out of the way for people so they can see how I could help them. Fourthly, I don't really work with anybody and everybody. I feel that the client should try me out for an hour, see if we gel, we have a good fit, and they feel that, you know, they can feel comfortable and I can allay their fears or anything that they need to. Because not everybody likes everybody and not everybody mixes well. And in that way, I can, you know, know where a good fit, then I can inspire them, motivate, empower them to move forward. So I think that is a very important thing to do as a life coach, to know whether you're going to gel with your client. Because not everybody gets on with you. I haven't had many occasions where we haven't taken the business forward, but it does happen.

I, I, I had an incident yesterday. We had a death, unfortunately. My daughter is in high school and a freshman. A very sad story. 3 of the girls did, um, did, did overdose on narcotics and one passed away. And in a few minutes, I, you know, trying for my daughter and and talking with her. And I had, about a week ago, I went on to some like teen group sites to kind of look at like just, you know, like a book on how teens, like how, like I used to do every month, I would look at like their brain development and I stopped. And so I'm like, I don't, you know, I have 3 older boys, but anyways, a woman out of the blue wrote to me from one of the parenting teen groups, a coach. And I have to tell you, she just said a few words to me, asked me a couple of questions. And help me. And I'm just saying that because it is really amazing how coaching, how important it is. And it's funny that I don't have a coach, but I, I, I believe in it so like heartedly, the idea of coaching. And so how do you— so when you say it's saturated, it was kind of cool to hear you say that because as someone who's looking at the interest of it, it really is. What does What does experience— like, age and experience with coaching— because sometimes, is it better for a younger coach to, like, mentor their age? Is it better to stick with the age? And where is experience coming in when it comes to coaching?

I do think age and life experience together with a qualification and an understanding gives you a whole different perspective on coaching. As compared to somebody just doing a quick course on coaching with no life experience. I think life experience brings a whole different ballgame to the profession because it's an unregulated profession. I, on the one hand, chose to leave law and financial compliance to do this because it just spoke to me on another level. And when my marriage imploded and I didn't know what I wanted to do, I went through a very, very difficult time because it came from nowhere, but in hindsight, I know it came from somewhere. But anyway, to cut a long story short, my life coach helped me in such a way and made me realize what my life purpose was. Because initially, when I went to university, I wanted to do social work. I didn't want to do law. I missed the interview, and my third choice on my form was law. I passed every year, so I continued with it and then just stuck with it. You know, I wasn't living my life with my purpose or with my passion or what came through me naturally. And I love helping people. I love even helping people with their businesses. It just, it lights me up, it fulfills me, it makes me smile. And you know, when you get a person from point A to point B and they think, wow, I never thought about that, you know, you've really helped me. It just gives me, I don't know, just elation. I'm just elated and I'm happy for them and they're happy. And what more joy could you have in life than that? So for me to make somebody sparkle and see what their potential is and the possibility of how they could move their life forward and how they can transform is absolutely amazing. You know, we live to help others. Get unstuck from the rut and navigate their struggles in life. So I've helped countless individuals like that, and it just lights me up every day. A lot of people think, how do you make money doing that? How can you just do that? You know, there's so many coaches out there, but like I say, it's the way you speak to people, it's your life experiences, and the way you gel with them that helps you bring them into a level of inspiration, motivation, empowerment that they didn't even know they had within themselves by asking them the right questions. And that is what I love about it. Because then they— when you tell people or ask people the right questions, they begin to think in a different way because they feel more empowered because they realize if their thought process changes and their mindset changes by you asking them the right questions, they think and feel in a different way. And when they think and feel in a different way, they do things in a different way. And then they see this potential and how to access this inner self-confidence, this inner mindset that they didn't know they had, but they always had it. It's just like tapping it out of them slowly, you know. Then they begin to enjoy their lives. And achieve the goals and their dream life. But you know what? It was always in them. They just didn't know how to tap it out.

It's, it's so amazing to me, the words. So last night, after hearing that news, I was really fearful, you know, going into my daughter— my husband and I, we just kept going in and talking to her, the fear of everything. And then this— then when I— she asked me a few questions and I wrote it down. And my daughter's a great girl. I mean, I don't even, like, Alana doesn't need to be punished because she doesn't do things wrong. So after I was— she made me realize it was more like what's inside of me, like, like, and then like my youth, like how I was treated. I swear to God, it was like unbelievable. And I don't know her from, you know, she was just an admin for a Facebook group post that I joined. But it's clear to me that words are getting someone to think differently is all you really need to do to open up those doors. And so really, the, the one thing that can hurt someone is being stubborn enough not to believe in the need to have a coach to help you see things like all the way around.

Yes, because I'm really sorry to hear about that incident. It's tragic because something similar happened a while ago. It wasn't to that extent, but in my daughter's life, you know, one of the little girls was cutting herself. It's quite prevalent these days, and you really need to be vigilant with your kids these days. Coming back to your question about asking the right questions, it's not only about asking the right questions. You know, when you understand your client and you have a good gel with them, you know that they are having some limiting self-beliefs. You know that they're sabotaging themselves. You can see it from the way they speak to themselves because we all have this inner critical voice. We all have this way we talk to ourselves. "Oh, I'm too fat. I'm too ugly." I do it to myself. I know. I have to consciously remind myself about how I speak to myself, how I feel about myself, how I wake up in the morning and talk to myself. But when you say these things to other people, they stop. They listen. They reflect. And then they realize, and it's that aha moment that just changes the way they establish their goals, the way they develop themselves, helping them to access their goals and showing them what's achievable and how to remove the obstacles in their way. And that what, you know, what can— the obstacles they face can be overcome. And you encourage them to prioritize the actions to materialize these goals. So that's in itself for me is an amazing thing.

I love that. So wait, so you said you have— so how does it work? So first of all, I want to just go back so I understand. So the certification, so you said there's no—

there's an unregulated market.

Yes, it's unregulated, but people could get certified from well-known or accredited schools.

Or a class program? You can. I have the normal life coaching certification, then I have the master coach life coaching certification, then I have NLP, CBT, and then I also have— I belong to the Association of Coaching and the European Mentoring Coaching Council. And of course, you know, your insurances and all of those bits, you know. So I try to keep— and I do a few CPDs here and there, which is continuous professional development. So my recent one I did was on emotional intelligence in the workplace because another coach and I are launching another joint venture where we are marketing to corporates on emotional well-being in the workplace and how important it is, especially now in the prevalence of the pandemic. So we're going to be doing that to the, um, and helping them support the staff on a corporate level with also with mental health first aid, which is something I also do. So I try to keep up, try to keep up with the changing times and, you know, the way to support your client in different ways. Because people are suffering with anxiety at the moment. It's at a— it's hit a— the numbers have just escalated. It's come to such a head that people are affected so much. So I thought that, you know, this is what I want to do, and I want to go to the masses because now I primarily do one-to-one. I do group coaching. I'm actually, if any of your listeners want to join in, I'm launching on Black Friday, which is tomorrow, I think, here in the UK. I'm doing a free vision board workshop in my group. And it will be on my Facebook page anyway. So I'll be doing that in my group. So I'm—

I'll send a link for everyone to sign up for that because I think that is brilliant. You're so easy to talk to, by the way, or listen, you know, like I feel like I could listen to you for like an hour because you, you have like just, you're just kind of like the whole thing is so perfect and I just love it. But I want to kind of, so I understand, so when someone goes to for the coaching, they go on your site, they learn about you, they find out all your accreditations, which are amazing. They schedule a, so what happens during A schedule, like, is it 15 minutes, 30 minutes, 45?

I actually do a free hour.

You really do? You know, that makes sense to me. I don't understand how I've seen like a 15-minute consultation and I'm like, how are you going to learn about someone in 15 minutes? An hour, it's proven. An hour is enough time to actually have a conversation. 15 minutes is kind of cheap.

So sorry.

That's really, that's really lovely. And then in the hour, what happens?

I do get some people booking 15-minute calls. Maybe they want to do a quick assessment of me, I don't know, but the option is there for an hour. Um, there's a form you fill in and the person can either— I get a few questions answered, but if they want to schedule a discovery call, I have an onboarding form that they can fill in. If they don't want to fill it in, they don't have to. We just have a casual conversation where to see where they are at now, what they hope to achieve where they want to go, what's their problems they're experiencing right now, why do they feel they need a coach, how long has this problem been persistent, what will happen if this problem continues and they do nothing about it, how will help me, how can I help them change their lives or move from level A to level B, what is critical to them right now in this moment, right, to resolve. And if they do not resolve their critical thing what will happen, what will be the, um, what actions will not prevail and what will move in their lives, basically. And that stops people in their tracks because they don't know. They don't, you know, when you tell them if that thing is not resolved, what will happen, right? Will they move? Will they stagnate? Will they just be stuck? I get a lot of people at the moment who are wanting to switch from the corporate world into the entrepreneurial world with the likes of TikTok and the likes of, um, the online, uh, sphere coming in. I get a lot of people that have been made redundant who want me to help them see what they find their purpose, what they're passionate about, to move to the next level. And then I also get Because of my divorce, my personal divorce, I get a lot of ladies and a few men, few men, very few men coming in for relationship and coaching to move on past the divorce because you have a lot of people that are very bitter still, resentful, hurt from their divorces even 6 years, 7 years down the line. So it just depends. I get all sorts and I enjoy the variety. But it's always about what the client wants at the end of the day.

Yeah, it's so interesting to me. I do think that corporate is really brilliant because for a company to have that as a benefit and to offer their employees the ability to speak and, you know, and unfortunately I feel bad to say this, but I bet you only 20% would probably take the opportunity. And, you know, I don't know what the gender would be, but I think that It's so important to really be able to have someone that you could talk to and that understands. Can we, can we switch gears for a second? Because I, the other day, was looking to really figure out, like, about teens, and there's not that many coaches that specialize in, like, teens. But then I'm wondering, is that, like, just too nichey of a niche? And is it more like parental coaching?

There is— there are many of my colleagues that are coaching teenagers here in the UK. Right down to a specialist, you know, children with autism. I have several coach colleagues that are coaching in autism, some with Syndrome X, some with just teenage problems, some with coaches just specializing in the niche of children that have problem teenagers. So, you know, they are. I have 6 coaches that I know that are just specialized with teenagers.

And what about podcasts too? I was listening, trying to find podcasts. Maybe I'm not searching in the right way, and that could really be it.

My friend, she has one podcast on, on just teenagers.

Will you send that to me? Sure, I would like that. I would like that. I don't know if there's enough.

She's a lovely lady if you want to interview her. She's a lovely, lovely lady.

I would like that. I think that, um, there's a whole conversation to be had. But part of it also is how you see yourself with your teen to know. And I worry that too many families, you know, too many families leave our teens alone too often. And so I was trying to find the answers to that. Like, what does that look like?

You know, and I do leave my kids alone. I'm a single mom and my ex-husband lives in another country. And I work all the time, mainly at home, but I do go into London even I need to. I do go to networking, but that is what it is. And my kids are old enough and we have systems in place which I've put into place, like cameras in the house, outside the house, you know, a tracking system on their phones and all of that. Um, but needs must. And they're both really, I would like to say, well-grounded girls, and I've not had any issues.

Oh, that's lovely.

But yeah, I think it's so important though. I mean, I don't know how it is in there, um, in the US, but here you shouldn't leave your kids if they're under 13. Right.

So just getting advice, like, like sometimes just hearing someone else's point of view, which is— is that also like with coaching too? Like, it's a It's a different point of view than like sometimes, because we get ourselves in a tunnel where we're thinking and we're like, okay, this is just the only way to do it.

Yeah, coaching is mainly more about, you know, asking the right questions. Yes, you listen to the person's problem, but you don't give them necessarily the solutions unless I'm doing business coaching, which is completely different, and people want to know what, how to take this and their strategy to the next level and to upscale their business for it to grow, then that's different. Yes, I'll give you some solutions. But with normal coaching in relationships, or whether you're struggling with anxiety, you just feel stuck. I'm stuck. I've been working this 9 to 5 for 5 years and I'm sick of it. I don't want to leave it. And you know, I'm stressed out of my hair. I've got my hair falling out, or whatever. Then that client, just the right questions, you know, will get them to the next level. Just things they would never think about asking themselves, you know, because you want to clear their doubts in the various areas of their lives. You want them to have the knowledge so they can begin the process of letting go of those doubts. You want to avoid the overthinking. You want to discuss the various ways in which our minds speed up and change once you have the right questions ask you so you can let go of the regret, let go of the nagging voice, let go of the inner criticism and get ahead. You know, just move and realize that you can take the action, that that's what it is.

Anxiety is awful, right? It's just an awful— it just, it eats people up. It's just, uh, it's just bad, bad, bad, bad, bad. Like, you know, It's sad too because you can't get yourself out of anxiety with the, with the right person that can help you.

Yeah, you can. I think, I definitely think you can. I used to struggle massively with anxiety, um, in the first few years after my divorce. I did suffer with a lot of anxiety, but I had to realize I had to learn to love myself for who I am and stop being so judgmental. To myself and others, love myself and respect myself, and know that I am trying my best, and to give up and to move on and forgive my past and live in the now. Yes, of course we worry about the future, we worry about what's going to happen next week, we do worry about that, we are human. But now with me practicing— excuse me— mindfulness, journaling, gratitude, has made me realize and appreciate when I walk with my dog, makes me realize more and appreciate it more that my daughter cooked dinner tonight, you know, um, makes me appreciate the small things that I wouldn't— or like you go walking in the forest and you see a growth, a new little plant coming out. It makes me appreciate the small things because there's some places where people live that are just totally barren. I come— my home country, South Africa, There are loads of, you know, there's lots of poverty there. So I feel by reminding people, you know, to practice these small things, breathing, diaphragmatic breathing, how to handle it, and that, you know, journaling, being grateful, saying in the morning, you know what, I'm grateful I woke up today. Do you thank yourself that your eyes opened? You took a first breath in. You don't think about it, do you? You just wake up and think, oh, you know. But actually, the fact that you woke up and you're alive and you've got a roof over your head and you've got food, that's something to be grateful for. So the practice of mindfulness, journaling, gratitude, and helping you let go and move forward can center you in such a way that your anxiety is less.

I agree. I am very grateful. I wake up and I do— I guess I practice it innately because I've always been very grateful every day of my life. Like, I just see the beauty in everything. But that's— I think that's just how I've been. And I think it's been a detriment to me also because some people don't like that, and others either. Like, you know, misery loves company. So yes, I've had a lot of people that like— but it's miserable because I do. Go ahead, I'm sorry.

People fail to remind themselves that doubt kills more dreams than failure ever would. And because people doubt themselves, so doubt kills more dreams than failure ever would. I think that's the lady, what's her name, Suzy Kassem, Kassem, Kassem. She did, she said that. And it's such a thing that we need to remember because we all doubt ourselves, we all judge ourselves. It's innate human nature, but we have to remind ourselves we are enough. We're trying our best. We're worthy of acceptance and inner peace. We have a stronger self. We just have to bring it out and understand it, love ourselves, and live our best lives. And that will help the overthinking and the anxiety.

And look for the adventure and everything. I try to just look for, like, the adventure in different things that can be adventurous in life.

I would say, um, look for the joy in everything, like the small things, you know, just the joy of walking, taking a walk, joy of breathing, the joy of just, you know, today I ate a banana loaf and a hot cup of tea while I sat on the couch and looked at the blue sky, you know.

And I love when people post that on Facebook because it's always reminders. And I think the more reminders we could put out to the universe to remind people to do just that is It's good. It's good for all of us. I, I think the work that you do is tremendous.

Oh, thank you. I really appreciate that. Thank you. I do think that, you know, as time has passed, there has been a huge movement towards yoga, Pilates, mindfulness, diaphragmatic breathing, uh, all sorts of breathing, you know, exercises, etc. Grounding work, walking barefoot on grass. It's actually very therapeutic, actually, you know. So there has been that, but now with the pandemic, people have become panic-stricken. And even though there is the meditation, it's like, I can't stop thinking about what's happening. I'm listening to the meditation, but it's not working. Nothing works just overnight. It takes practice. It takes patience. 1% change per day. We're not asking you to change 100% overnight. We're not saying do these 20 things and your life is going to be changed. 1% change a day is enough. Just try baby steps and you will transform your life. We believe everyone has the power to do great things. I live to help others who feel stuck move forward with their struggles with confidence, and that's the thing that gives me the greatest joy. So 1%. You just have to remember that 1%.

So you're making the world better 1% at a time because people that do practice and practice gratitude are always kinder and more gentler and nicer and more understanding and just, you know, like a whole good person. Is that okay to say? Like, it just, you know, when you meet people that are, because you genuinely care about others because you practice it and you understand, you're self-aware, that whole mindset. I don't have the terminology, but I'm such a believer in making sure that everyone does, especially, I mean, get the help. So many years it was get help of a counselor, get a counselor, get a therapist. But I love this new direction. Not that it's new, but about 20 years old, coaching. I just think it's an amazing direction. And it's so worthwhile. And I just, and I love what you're offering for your business. I think that's amazing. So I, and I could listen to you for hours. I really, I don't know if you have like videos or whatever, but if you could post them and dedicate them all to me, I will be your number one fan because you're really easy to listen to. And all of this, like to me, it's all reminders that we need. Like every time, like someone watching this may be like, Oh yeah, you know what? I do wake up and I bounce out of bed and I'm always worried about this. I need to stop and smell the roses. And that's it, really.

You know, I was that person who was— and, you know, I was that person who stubbed my toe and think, oh shit, I'm going to have a shit day. You know, now and then it's going to progress. But, you know, now my daughters can wake up grumpy in the morning. I'll think, oh, come on, smile. They'll be like, oh, look at her again, she's smiling. But you know, so I tried. I've changed my whole perspective, and it wasn't overnight. It was, it was a work in progress, small steps, slowly, and I got there, you know.

It makes you more likeable.

Some days I wake up and think, I, I don't want to say, oh, you're amazing, but you know what, when you look at yourself in the mirror in the morning And you can say, "You know what? You're amazing. You got up. You showed up. You got dressed. Well done, you. You're trying." Say that to yourself. "I love me. I put me first." Because when you are fine, everything else will fall into place. When you are fine, your kids will work better. They'll be happy. You'll have a happier home. When you are fine, everything will fall into place. Because that's what you— that's why you need to love yourself first and remember that you are worthy of everything that you have and more. That's what people are forgetting. That's self-care, that's self-love. Whether it's in business, whether it's in your personal relationship, or with your relationship with yourself, the most important one is the relationship with self.

I love that.

And oh my gosh, that changes your mindset. By knowing you are first, you love yourself more, and that's the best thing you can do.

Isn't it weird that people have to give themselves permission to love themselves?

I know. And also, people have a different perception of what they think is self-care. They think self-care means 'Let me go have a massage.' Or, you know, so it is having a massage sometimes, but you know, it's also about just sitting down, like you said, smelling the roses, or sitting down having that cup of tea, breathing. We're always just rushing around and rushing about. We need just to be still. Yeah, you know, and, and take that in.

I totally agree. I totally agree. I love it. I love it. So before I let you go, I want to ask you, if you don't mind— I'm sorry, but I'm going to ask you about what's happening with COVID-19 and like where you are. Like, just because like obviously we read the news, but like in your neighborhood, let's say, like your community, what is the story?

In my, in my county, which is Essex, our numbers are the highest. And I do think that what happens is just before lockdown, people go crazy and they start going out loads. And even the restaurants have limited times. And I think that brings the infection rate up higher 10 days later. And then now we're going into— we're getting out of lockdown. Are you—

are you in lockdown now?

Yes.

And what does that lockdown look like?

It's all right for me. I work from home. My kids are allowed to go to school. Uh, but they cannot if they have a temperature. We've had COVID tests 3 times, my girls and I. Reason being that as soon as any one of us have a temperature, they are not allowed to go to school. We have to have COVID tests again to go back to school.

And if you're positive, how long?

14 days, 10 to 14, depending. Yeah. And if you're with one who's positive, uh, then you have to stay to stay at home.

You quarantine too.

Okay, so you're right, that varies from state to state, uh, from county to county, which is quite odd because I mean, like, our school asked me for results of my girls but didn't ask me for my results. So what if I was positive and sending my kids to school?

Oh, maybe they're just not thinking. I just think someone— they're not thinking.

Yeah, there's double standards on that. And then also now when, when we go out of lockdown on the 3rd Everyone's booking restaurants because you have to book, and it will go—

it'll be mayhem.

All the shopping malls will be— man, we're coming towards Christmas, people go crazy.

Um, are people wearing masks? Do people wear masks and social distance?

You're not allowed— you're not allowed to. We have one bubble, you— one other family you can meet. I can meet with one other. So another single friend of mine, she's my bubble, and, uh, we meet together, her kids.

A bubble.

We can meet, but we call it a bubble. So we're allowed to have one bubble, one, one other family we're allowed to mix with in, in lockdown.

Oh my gosh, that's an interesting idea. But one family can't be more than 6 people also together with the other family.

Yes. So if you, you got 4 kids, I don't know, I don't know how that works. You got 4 kids and your mate has 4 you can't eat. It's just— you can walk with one other person, but it's got to be socially distanced. You can— you have to wear masks to go to the shop, and we have fines now. And you know, you do have mine. Yep. And you have to limit travel.

You know what, I'm grateful for that one bubble though, because that one bubble may not sound— but if you're just two people alone, you may have a family, another— like, at least it may cut down on people really being really lonely to have off our bubble.

Yeah, I think that the people living on their own who have no family around, I think that's the hardest. And for people that have to isolate, like the elderly, uh, or the ones that are more susceptible to or have low immunity, I think though that those are the hard cases. But we— they have a lot of outreach programs here at the moment, um, on Facebook and everywhere, uh, where we— they're delivering and doing food deliveries and stuff like that. So I do know that. I know on Sunday—

oh, let me just interrupt for a second. Delivery of the food is good, and, and actually I'm chair of a beautiful program that does it here. But in talking to you, I'm really thinking, what about the delivery of even like, um, this, like the ability to conver— because converse with someone on Zoom, it's not the same, or, you know, any of these virtual, it's not the same as being, but it does help a little bit relieve. It's got to be good.

It does. I'm sure it does, because I mean, I, my parents are living in South Africa, which is, I haven't seen them for 2 years. I'm trying to get on a flight in December, but we'll see. Um, I, I speak to them regularly, you know, with FaceTime and calls like that. Fortunately, they know how to use the technology a little bit. But, and I do this every day, so I'm always seeing people on Zoom.

You're helping people. So let me just make a little pitch for you, if you don't mind, if you have time, or another coach, that if you do have a family member that is able to operate and use Zoom and have a conversation, maybe, maybe, I don't wanna say buy them a coach, like it sounds so weird, but hire a coach to help them because that, it's an hour, well, whatever, I bet you the coach wouldn't even mind, but that ability to really be able to get, and I love the idea of having it be about grateful because when you are in isolation, this kind of talk and focusing on all the good things that are just around you are exactly what is needed. You know, I never really thought about this. My dad was in a nursing home and someone said to him, he hated hospitals, and someone said, oh, you get sick of the chicken. And you know, my father from that day, it was asking everyone to bring him food because he was so sick of the chicken. And it was like, in my mind I thought, oh, that person that said it put it in his mind. But I said it more in a lighthearted way. But the reality is, just like when you do something positive and say it, if the person said, oh my God, Herbie, every day I love the Jell-O and I can't wait for the meal, my dad never would have had that feeling. So He spent like an entire summer— my mom and dad spent in the same like suite of nursing homes. And because— and people had to bring him a meal. He wouldn't eat the chicken because that one person made a comment. We really do have to watch our words and take care of the people that are in isolation and make sure that someone is finding out. And not just a nurse walking by going, how are you, Bill?

Like I think the most important thing is to watch the way you talk to yourself and to be aware of that critical voice. I mean, you know, I have another— my business partner in my other business, she says to me, because I always say, "Oh, I'm such a donut." She's like, "You're not a donut. Don't be silly. It's a silly mistake. Absolutely fine." We have to remember how we talk to ourselves and about our inner critical voice. That is what we have to remember and to love ourselves because doubt kills more dreams than failure ever would. That's the best one for me.

And we all have— I have my friend Jennifer. So the minute I start saying something that it's like I do exactly that with the negative, she is right on top of me to remind me and to move me in the right direction. So for everyone out there, if you have the ability to see what Sarisha sees, then I say also speak up, get that person to stop thinking the way they're thinking and try to help them to pivot their mindset.

100%.

We all could really make changes. Wow, the power is really in us, I think.

Exactly, the power is within. We have to release it. I love that. Doubt.

Clear out the doubt.

We all have some kind of doubts in life. We just need to center it to live in the present moment.

Thank you so much. I love talking to you. I feel bad it's 37 minutes. You're amazing. See, I could really, I'd have like a couple cups of coffee with you. No, this really, I'm 58 years old and I find the whole conversation still just incredible to me. Just incredible.

You're welcome. We'll have to have another conversation in the new year then.

Have a great rest of the day. Thank you for your advice. I love what you said about your daughters. That actually was like, oh, please send me that link. So that I— the Facebook group for the vision board, so I can put that out there. And then let's stay connected. So I'm going to connect with you. I'm not even sure if I connected with you on LinkedIn. And tell us how people connect. So just because you're a little harder to find, so Navigate Life Coach, and if you type those 3 words separately, it does pull up your website. And then you have— you tell me what you have for the, um, social media and I'll find you. And then connect everything together so people can connect with you. So Instagram—

thank you, that's— that would be great. I'm on Instagram, I'm on LinkedIn, and on Facebook.

Okay, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Facebook. And what are your— what are— what is it so I can find it easy?

All of them are Navigate Life Coach, except on Facebook my business page's name is Transform, uh, uh, Transformational Coaching, which is changing. Facebook has been difficult, so I'm just in the process of that. But everything else If you want, I can try and find you on LinkedIn and send you the links now.

Oh, I'll find you. But so when you got Navigate Life Coach, were you like just so thrilled? Because that's a great name. It's a great URL.

No, I just— yeah, I just felt that everyone needs a bit of navigating in their life, don't they?

They do. They do. And do you do your own website? Because it's wonderful.

You know, I had a great project manager, and yes, I did do my own website. I didn't do all the design. I had a wonderful, uh, web designer, but all the content is me and putting it together, together with amazing project manager.

So yeah, you can feel that. I like that. I just want to let people know that too. So when you go on the website, it's not like a cookie-cutter canned site from the coaching school of how to, uh, get clients. It's really like— it's just real. It's real. I love it. It's you, and I love it. And so I am your biggest USA fan in Daytona Beach.

Oh, thank you.

All right, I will talk to you later. And I'm going to— we'll talk to you later. I do feel like this is the new conversation on phone. I'm going to stop the stream. And you have been— I'm going to rewatch this a few times too, just so I could hear your voice while I'm kind of like resting. I know it sounds weird. I'm going to cut myself out so I don't just like— do you have a podcast or a video or anything?

I have videos, but I don't— I haven't done any. I've done podcasts where other people are interviewing me, but no, I haven't.

But you have videos? Do you have one like— do you have one that meditates you to sleep?

Of me?

Yeah.

Yeah, I'll do one for you.

Oh my gosh, are you kidding? Are you just saying that?

I would really love that because, um, in my workshops that I, I teach, we do a meditation you know, just like a minute, because my coach, uh, has asked me to do these things. You know, it's about taking all those changes. And I know I have a morning routine, I have an evening routine, and it's those small things from incorporating in my life that has changed my life and has helped me when I do suffer with anxiety, because I'm not totally anxiety-free. Most of the time I am, but when the few bouts that I would have It's those things that get me through it.

Could you— is this weird to ask? But like, I love 20 minutes. That's a great time for me because it's a time from when I put my head on my pillow and start to relax and I want to listen to something to time I fall asleep. So I really feel like I absorb those 20 minutes.

Oh, you're good falling asleep in 20 minutes. I don't fall asleep in 20 minutes.

Oh, I am good because I really practice that too. I've had so much— I could like get every part of my body to relax. Then I listen to the soothing voice, which you have a wonderful soothing voice. So that's why 20 minutes would be amazing. If you make it longer, I'm fine with that. I'm just saying minimum of 20 minutes. Maximum could be like 5 hours. I wouldn't mind waking up to your voice. You want to do like a full 8 hours?

I love you already. All right.

I'll stop the stream. Sorry.