YES Talk 309- How To Overcome Fear

How do you stop being afraid? So had a coaching member asked me this recently, how do I, how do I get over being afraid? Well, you get over it. Code number five of the yes Masters code. Get over it. I get it. It's real. We all get afraid. We all, we all get afraid of doing certain things. There are things that we are afraid of and the reason we're afraid of them is because we anticipate they could mean pain. It's going to be uncomfortable. We don't feel confident, so we're afraid of it. So today I'm going to give you a very, very simple formula for how you get over fear. How you stop being afraid. Start doing what makes you afraid every day. Just start doing one thing that makes you afraid every day. I'm nervous about role playing. We'll get a role play partner and start role playing. You start doing it because I promise you, you role play for 30 days in a row with different role play partners or even with the same role play partner, you're not going to be afraid of role playing anymore. You're afraid of prospecting, afraid of lead, follow up. Do it for 30 days in a row every day and you'll stop being afraid of it. Call inspired every single day. I'm not saying you'll start loving it necessarily, but you'll not be afraid of it anymore. Why? Because you realize there's nothing they can do to hurt me now. There's going to be other moments where they're going to throw something at you. It's going to make you uncomfortable, it's going to make you afraid. Maybe an objection. It may be some threat of, you know, turning you in or whatever. Say, oh, okay, well, that just happened. I'm afraid of it. Well, what if that happens? Well, face your fear. Do the thing you're afraid of. Do it over and over again. And there was a book written years ago by David Schwartz who said it was called the Magic of Thinking Big. And he said, do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain. Do the thing that you fear and the death of fear is certain. Your fear has to die. Your fear cannot survive in the face of action. It cannot do it. Your fear only thrives and only survives in the face of inaction. Because in inaction, your fear is nothing more than a story. It's a story of, oh, no, what if this happens? Well, it hasn't happened. What happened before doesn't mean it's going to happen again. Well, I heard it happen to that person. Doesn't mean it's going to happen to you. See, it's all a story. It's all a story of something that has not happened. You're not afraid of something that happened to that person last month? Well, I heard it happened to her. Well, you're not afraid of what happened to her. It already happened. What happened to me before? Well, you're not afraid of what happened to you before it already happened. But because of what happened, you have this memory and you bring it into the present and the future. So you believe in this story that it will happen again. What's the worst, absolute worst case scenario if it happened? You can live with that. That I promise you. Oh, they're going to yell at me. Okay, good. So how'd that hurt somebody you've never seen before, never going to see again? They yelled at you? Who gives a. I got. And this bothered me on YouTube. It still bothers me. And I have to look at it and go like, okay, well, why am I afraid of this? Somebody make a nasty comment. I'm like, oh, I hate that. So it makes me like, I'm afraid of getting nasty comments, really, from somebody that I've never heard of, never heard of me before, never seen, probably never going to see again, certainly not adding any value to my life. And I'm certainly not going to add any value to their life. Why am I worried about the fact that they don't want to dance with me, that they're going to hate on me? They can go themselves. You got dreams to fulfill. You got goals to accomplish. You got things to do. You got people for whom you're responsible. So be responsible. Go do the fucking work. Face your fear. Take action into your fear. Do the thing you're afraid of, and the death of fear is certain. Three, two, one, off you go.