Arthur C. BrooksThe Art and Science of Happiness

How to Rebuild Connection in Marriage

25 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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A short single-speaker relationship-advice segment offering four practical rules to rebuild marital connection: (1) have more fun together and focus on positive shared experiences rather than rehashing negatives; (2) maintain lots of eye contact (speaker claims women have three times as much oxytocin as men and benefit from eye contact); (3) keep frequent physical touch (hold hands, be in contact); and (4) read to each other. The tone is conversational and instructional.

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So there's kind of four rules for saving a marriage. Okay. Number one is have more fun together. Right? Have more fun. There's a reason that marriage counseling is really. Is not helpful for a lot of people is they just want to. All the bad feelings. Let's go over it again. Let's go over it again. No, no, no, no, no, no. You have a bunch of dirt in the glass, and it's just swirling around the glass. Just, like, pour as much water into that glass until the dirt is gone. And that means just love and fun. More fun together. Just have more fun together. Number two, lots of eye contact. Especially important for women because they have three times as much oxytocin as men. At your wife in the eyes while you're having a conversation. It'll be like she won't remember why she's so mad at you. Right. Number three is abt. Always be touching. Yeah. Always be touching. You're in mass together. You're holding hands. You're always touching. And number four is read to each other. Yeah. Do these four things. These are the four things.