Arthur C. Brooks tells a 20-something to ask friends and family for introductions instead of relying on dating apps. He warns that about 7% of people have narcissistic, Machiavellian, or psychopathic traits that make them especially seductive, but trusted friends are unlikely to set you up with them.
What do you tell somebody who's listening now that's like, okay, I'm 20-something, I'm still look, you know, I'm looking for the person I wanna be with. I've tried the dating apps, they're awful. I don't wanna swipe any which way anymore. And I don't have anyone to stare at every night when I'm in bed.
Yeah. That means that that's when you put out, you know, an all-points bulletin to your friends, your family, to everybody else to say, I want you to find the best person you can possibly find for me. Yeah. I'm willing to take a chance on people that you think are really great for me. And again, you're gonna, you're gonna kiss a lot of frogs, but that's part of the deal. You kiss a lot of frogs. What they're, what your, what your friends and family are not gonna find for you is what we call the dark triad, which is somebody who's very high in narcissism, Machiavellianism, and traits of psychopathy, psychopathic traits. That's, Tam said, that's 7% of the population.
It is.
Yeah. And women find this unbelievably seductive because guys who are very narcissistic, Machiavellian, meaning they're willing to hurt you, and they're psychopathic, not like ax murderers, but they're pretty remorseless and unempathetic. They prey on women who really, really, really want to fall in love. And when people are setting you up, they're not going to do that. They know when somebody is a weirdo.
Yeah, they do.
You don't because you're blind to it.
