A short spoken piece (YouTube monologue) arguing that the reasons behind our goals determine their lasting value. The speaker contrasts extrinsic goals (money, power, pleasure, honor) with intrinsic goals (relationships, love) and contrasts positional goals (zero-sum, status‑seeking) with non‑positional goals (doing good, contribution). The recommendation: favor non‑positional, intrinsic aims because they produce deeper, longer‑lasting satisfaction than shallow, extrinsic, positional aims.
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The right kind of goals. The proxy goals that we have, number one, they tend to be intrinsic, not extrinsic. So extrinsic is the world rewards you intrinsically. Is that they're rewarding. And it's mostly about love as opposed to stuff. Yeah. Extrinsic goals are money, power, pleasure and honor. Intrinsic goals have a lot to do with your relationships and the love that's actually in your heart. That's super important. The second is positional versus non positional, which is me versus others. And positional goals are the kind of thing where if I've got it, you can't. I'm mostly talking about. So why would you want to CEO? Because I want to be top dog versus I want to be able to do something important and good with this company. One is positional, one is non positional. Right. Non Positionality is really, really important. Is that one of the reasons? Because it's a zero sum game or because it can always be taken away? Yes. At some point someone's always going to be better or higher. Yeah. Or you're going to lose it for sure. But it's also sort of an impure motive. It's like I want it because somebody else doesn't have it. That sort of thing. It's an ego motivation is kind of how this works. So you're thinking along those lines of positionality versus non positionality and intrinsic. So you non positional intrinsic things. If you're doing that, then you're going to find things that really are rewarding to you that do lead to a kind of deeper satisfaction as opposed to a shallow satisfaction that you might have otherwise.
