Arthur C. BrooksThe Art and Science of Happiness

The Problem with Dating Apps #Dating #Tinder #Relationships

7 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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Dr. Arthur Brooks argues dating apps create extreme attractiveness asymmetries: women find 80% of men unattractive while men find only 20% of women unattractive. This concentrates attention on roughly 10% of men, who may develop narcissistic traits. Relationships that start online tend to be less stable than those formed in person because the app's mediation disrupts how passion naturally deepens into lasting friendship.

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Women find 80% of men disgusting. Men find 20% of women unattractive. And so that asymmetry per SE means that 10% of guys get turned into dark triad narcissists because they get all the action. They got a roster of women that they're getting and the other 90% are going dry because there's no questions, there's no personality, there's no depth, there's no reason to fall in love with a guy if he doesn't pass the looks good on the dating this tall. Do you make this much money and exactly right. This is why this is how it's messing up dating. That's why. By the way, relationships that start on the apps, some of them are great. But on average, when marriages occur pursuant to meeting on an app, they tend to be less stable and they feature less attraction because they're less likely to actually go through the cascade in the right direction. Go to passionate, companionate best friendship. When you mediate any relationships electronically, you're going to have trouble because we're made to be in person.