A mother realized perfectionism was making her unhappy and hurting her kids. She listed her core values—health, family, creativity—and cut productivity and wealth from the list. Her mood improved, and so did her children's.
So I think what it comes down to is the realization I had after becoming a mom, trying to do it all, having deep, deep feelings about how I was failing so much and coming to this realization that you can't do everything perfectly and that an unhappy parent is going to trickle down and make your kids unhappy as well. So let me unpack that a little bit when I talk about a values based approach. When I sat down and actually looked at my values, I realized that they were health, family and creativity. And note, like being super productive or being super high earning or wealthy isn't on that list for me right now.
Reducing Regrettable Attrition in Organizations by Fixing the System, Not the People Reducing Regret
