Ashish Kothari explains emotional intelligence as the capacity to recognize your own emotions and others', using a horse-with-blinders metaphor for lack of awareness. Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, and Travis Bradberry shaped how we understand EI's role in motivation and performance.
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If you look from Daniel Goleman's perspective, and I'm big fans of obviously Daniel Goleman's work, he and Richard Boyatzas have worked together for decades as well as Travis Bradbury has some amazing work. And they talk about like emotional intelligence being this capacity. And I love the word capacity because you have to have room for it. Like you talked about happiness, for the recognition of not only our own feelings and emotions, but of those of others. So, like, how does that intrinsically motivate us? How do we manage those emotions effectively, not only in ourselves? And that's kind of like the first bit side of it. That's why I love self awareness and also love self management of emotion, because the heartbeat. And again, people will call them different things, but you and I both know that on the self side, if we don't have awareness of those things that impact our performance, the way we communicate, the way we show up, then we basically might as well be like a horse in the stall. We got the blinders on and we don't see it.
