Ashish Kothari explains how reactive emotions like shame and guilt turn team reviews into blame sessions. He argues for neutralizing these feelings first, then showing up authentically to create constructive dialogue instead.
Because if you come into the meeting in a reactive state and you talk about failures, you're going to blame.
Yeah. And, and that, that shame, blame piece, guilt, it's— those are low, low emotions. They're, they're really difficult to get out of. So you don't want to go there. And so I, I, uh, you know, I try to avoid those and try to find ways to neutralize those so you don't end up in that space. You know, I think in the last 2 or 3 years it's been really popular to talk about showing up authentically, showing up vulnerably, and we're touching into all those points right now, right? And I think that's incredibly important.
Reducing Regrettable Attrition in Organizations by Fixing the System, Not the People Reducing Regret
