When you get feedback, don't assume the giver explained it well. Ask questions. Most people are bad at delivering feedback, and you need time to process it anyway. You're not a passive receiver; you're an equal in the conversation.
When it comes to receiving feedback, I think the biggest mistake that I see people make is adopting a little bit of like a victim mindset, feeling like feedback is happening to them as opposed to feeling like they are an equal participant in the conversation. And this shows up in a few different places. One is simply accepting the feedback that the other person has provided at face value without asking questions to seek to understand more or gain clarity. The reality is most people are, pretty unskilled at giving feedback. So no one does a great job of giving feedback. It's inevitable that there will be holes in what they share, or you might have questions. And then I think the other big challenge for people receiving feedback is not really understanding what's happening in their brain and expecting to instantly hear the feedback, make sense of it, accept it, and know what they need to do with it. And the reality is that takes time, something else that, that we could spend a lot of, of our conversation discussing.
Reducing Regrettable Attrition in Organizations by Fixing the System, Not the People Reducing Regret
