The speaker argues that constantly putting others first is a conditioned pattern, not virtue. He says rebuilding self-trust and taking small actions like speaking with more confidence can break the cycle of devaluing yourself.
Hopefully you'll be able to retain when people are judging you as stupid when you're your best self, that you're talking to a neurotic individual, that you are conditioned to believe that you're in second place and the other is in first place. So you need to engage the deifying the other and the crucifying yourself. And you need to see this is BS. And you're developing an independent authority that's seeing this is a tendency where I serve others, but I don't trust myself. And I don't expect others to trust me. I am going to spend the rest of my life reversing that. I'm going to start now. And it's going to be a small, concrete action with, with the person that's most likely to do it. And either I'm going to say it with more confidence, or I'm going to ask them questions, put them on the spot. Intuitively, I'm not going to just let that run my inner show.
