2020 was packed with blessings. You just need to look!

Hello and welcome to Shedding the Bitch Radio, where you can discuss, debate, and get advice on how to discover and shed the bitches of fear, insecurity, self-doubt, and negative mindsets so you can realize your dreams and life purpose and create and accelerate the riches you want in life. Join us here live every Tuesday at noon Eastern and dialogue with us at 818-572-2910. You can also chat with us at blogtalkradio.com/sheddingthebitch or share your stories on our website at sheddingthebitch.com. Whatever the bitch is that's holding you back from living your life to the fullest, it's not worth giving up the riches in life that you deserve. So call in now and let Bernadette Boas know what's holding you back. 818-572-2910. Good day, good day, good day everyone! How are you? I am so excited to be here. You know why? It is Tuesday. Tuesday. It is Shit in the Bitch Radio, and it is Christmas week, and I'm so excited. Merry Christmas, everyone. I hope, for those of you that will be celebrating, I hope you're kind of winding down but not stopping just yet. Not unless you have a very intentional, purposeful, you know, set of vacation days or just rest time or whatever the case might be. Um, but for those of you who are still wanting and all focused and energized around finishing the year out strong. Keep it going. It will make your holiday season and the new year so much richer, so much more richer. And there's a lot of business to be had still. So keep the pedal— keep the pedal to the metal. Yes, keep the pedal to the metal. I am so excited to be here. Of course, I'm Bernadette Boas. And we are going to be talking about how you absolutely could be finding the silver lining in 2020 and really finding, you know, kind of really making sure that you're also focused on finding all the wonderful things that you've also experienced this past year, even in the slightest, slightest of ways. And maybe it wasn't a big bang of any kind. Um, so we're going to be talking about finding the silver lining, but before we do, I want to thank our new listeners and our viewers. We are, um, we are coming live streaming to Shedding the Bitch, uh, Facebook page as well as our Shift to Riches with Bernadette Boas Facebook page. I just thought I would try that cross-posting and, and allow our Shift to Riches community also to take part. Now I am paying attention to those pages, so if you were to have any questions, comments. I'm also multitasking and I'm by myself today, so Deborah's not with me, neither is Lydia or Giselle, but I am paying attention to all of those pages should you have any questions, comments that, you know, that you want to jump in and participate in. All right, so don't hesitate, don't hesitate to do that. As well, we are, you know, broadcasting on BlogTalkRadio live at noon Eastern time right here, and it also then be streaming to iTunes, Stitcher, TuneIn, and any way you might get your podcasts. 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All right, big and small, as well as anywhere within the United States. So, uh, you know, be sure to check them out as well, ngtaxsolutions.com. All right, so today I wanted to, um, talk to you about finding the silver lining out of this past year. Next week we're going to be talking about Assessing for Your Success in 2020. And that will more so have to do with really how do you do a business assessment, and how do you leverage all that information that you, that you're gathering and garnering from, from that assessment. How do you use it going into the new year? How do you let things go that aren't relevant anymore? And, you know, how just Taking some time to reflect will really set you up for great success in the coming days, weeks, and months. So we'll talk about that next week at noon Eastern time as we welcome in the new year because it is the last Tuesday of the— not only the month, but the year. And then of course the following Tuesday, which would be the first Tuesday of January and the new year, we have our Ask Me Anything episode, which is basically You're sharing your questions, stories, and challenges out on our Facebook page, Shedding the Bits, Twitter. You're sending them to me directly, especially through LinkedIn. And then at the same time, I get some DMs from you as well on Facebook. With your questions, stories, or challenges, I respond to them very quickly, but I'll kind of even say, you know, within 24 hours. But typically I respond very, very quickly and provide you those tips and advice and sometimes tough love. But at the same time, I gather those up and I bring them to the program on the first Tuesday of each month, which gives you an opportunity as well at noon Eastern time to jump on and join me and even kind of elaborate on whatever that question, story, or challenge was. And we can have a great dialogue right here on the program because oftentimes what you are dealing with is what someone else is dealing with as well. And therefore, you sharing your question, story, or challenge, and my advice and tips would benefit not only you, but other people. So it's a great opportunity to kind of give back while at the same time you're receiving support and guidance and coaching. All right, so that's the first Tuesday of every month. And whether you post it on, in this instance it'll be January 5th, or you do it on January 30th, you're still going to get feedback from me and then we'll be able to bring them right here into the program. All right? And if you don't want me to, then you just share that. Just share that, you know, the information is just for you and your ears and/or eyes only. And I totally respect that. All right? We're gearing up for a different look with— in 2021. So I'll be sharing more of that with you as we move forward as well. But if you ever have any tips or advice for us as far as guests and topics that you would like to learn about, that's another thing that you could be sharing with me directly as a DM on Facebook. You could send it to me at BernadetteBoas@BallifierInc.com, or you can, as many of you do, reach out on LinkedIn. All right? Okay, so I know, I know, I know, I know many of you, 'cause I'm talking to you every day, many of you just kind of want to wipe 2020 off the map. Just kind of go, "All right, I am done with it." Even on December, what is it, 22nd? You just want to kind of go, you know, "I am done. I am moving on." And yet, at the same time, what many of you are missing is that amongst all of the chaos and craziness and maybe, you know, hardship, maybe depression, maybe isolation, maybe sadness, frustration, anxiety, you know, even somewhere in between all of that, you, you may have been experiencing changes or growth or awareness within yourself and within your, your universe that are great, great lessons and great tidbits of of knowledge and experience and even expertise, and I'll get to that in a minute, but that you could be not only appreciating right now and what we always talk about in honoring your riches, but at the same time they're going to be great sources of your new being. Because any of that change, any of that knowledge, any of that experience, that expertise, even those trying situations have Add it to your growth. Even though you might want to be like, "I don't care. I just want to forget about them." You don't. You don't want to. I'm serious. You don't want to, and I'm here to kind of influence you to not just let them go, not just kind of, you know, want to sweep them under the rug or throw them out in the trash or whatever you want to do. You really do want to sit back and appreciate them and take from them. As opposed to this whole year taking from you, you know, and that's what you're feeling, you know, that this year just took so much from you. Take from it. Lose the power, you know, give up the power that you're turning over to this past year of crap that you might be feeling. And, you know, kind of say, you know what, I'm going to turn you, you know, turn this you know, on its head, and I'm actually going to take from it, which actually loses the power of that drab, of that junk, of that just complete maybe ugliness that you might have been feeling throughout the month. And it allows you to go, you know what, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I actually did this, this, this, and this, and this, and this, even though I might not have paid attention to it right away or until Bernadette suggested that I focus on it during her program. And that is what I really, really want to, want to kind of, you know, have you really consider for yourself. Okay? And I thought the best way to help you understand how to do that, and maybe how to process that, is that— I am just going to jump over here for a second— is that you, I will share my story. I will share you know, kind of how my year rolled out and what I've taken away from all of the craziness of it. Uh, and, and sadly, it wasn't even just the C-word or the P-word, however you, you term it. We don't use it here. We don't use it here because I have never wanted my clients, my prospects, my friends, my family members to kind of wallow in something. And I, you know, and the more we talk about something, the more energy we're giving it. Remember, where you focus on expands. So if we're sitting around all the time constantly, you know, talking about the C and the P and, you know, just all the crap, well, what's going to happen is all of a sudden that's going to seep within us, that's going to seep within you, and all of a sudden you're just going to be always like, oh gosh, oh, I don't, you know, I just don't want to deal with this, I just I don't want to, you know, move forward through it. I just want to kind of throw up my hands and let it go. And, you know, that is, that is not working at all for you. And it is not giving you that opportunity to really prove to yourself just how strong, how empowered, how courageous, and how bold you can be even in the most trying of times. Okay, so, you know, obviously that's all in the past, you know, since what, a February, March, it's all gone. And if that was your state of being, that's, you know, that's just the way it is, all right. But I'd love to influence you today to kind of make a decision right now as you're listening to this or watching it or you're even doing it on replay, to kind of say, you know what, she has a good point. You know, I need to kind of— I'm not doing myself any good wallowing in this stuff, using it. And I had a conversation with my client about this the other day, using it as an excuse or a crutch of why things aren't going the way they want it to go, or you want it to go. So you're, you know, everybody's leaning on, um, you know, oh well, it's the C word, oh, it's, you know, due to the P, and do, even, even, and P was not even politics. But I guess I could add that. Because we had certainly had that year as well, you know, mixed in with all this other stuff. But at the same time, I would rather you use it as energy and fuel for going forward as opposed to having it weigh on you. Even if you think you are protecting yourself or you think you are letting yourself off the hook because you are using it as a crusher or an excuse, I am here to tell you that You're not. You just, guess what, kind of wasted a lot of time, whether that be a minute, a day, a week, a month, or the last 9 months. And if you're not where you want to be, if you didn't accomplish those goals that you set out at the beginning of the year, if, you know, it was a struggle and a challenge, then, you know, all you can say is, okay, so what was my role and what was my part in all of that? Like how did I contribute to where I am today, which is not much different to where I was, you know, in February, March, April, or May, or June. And, you know, is this really what I want? Or do I need to change things up and figure out how I can kind of move on from it and move forward? Because lastly, and then I'll get into kind of my examples of finding your silver lining, but because this is going to go on for a while, I got to give you some truth. I got to give you some tough love here. This is going to go on for a while. We're not done. You know, it is beautiful, and talk about a silver lining blessing that, you know, that we have a vaccine out there. But many of us are not going to see it for quite a while. And even if we see it, we still have a form of PTSD that we are all going to need to deal with. Not all of us, and I, and I do want to make sure that I, I do not throw everyone into, into the same bucket. But there will be some and many that will be dealing with a form of PTSD as a result of all this. Forget about just being a germaphobe. But even just the idea that, you know, to get close to somebody, you know, we lost some of that. I, I am praying, I know I will get it back. I mean, you know, you put out your arms, you know, to give me a hug when, you know, they deem it safe to do so, I am going to be all over you. I am going to be slobbering. I am going to be crying. I am going to be all over you. But, you know, but we still have, we still have, you know, time— days, weeks, months to get through all of this. So you don't want to give up days, weeks, and months. You don't have days, weeks, and months when you think that you— this is one life you have to live, and it goes really, really fast. I mean, think about it. I'm just shocked that it's December 22nd, considering, you know, the clock did seem— obviously it did not, but did seem to stand still for a bit because of the, you know, the isolation, because of, you know, the inability to get out and, and, you know, kind of live a normal life. It did seem to slow down. But even as it seemed to have slowed down, we are still at December 22nd. So 9 months has passed since all of this hell broke loose. And all I am, you know, really suggesting is do not waste another 9 months. Do not waste another day, another week, or another month. So, let us really kind of make a commitment to ourselves that as of, you know, right now, we are, you know, we are going to say, okay, so I am done with, you know, the last 9 months and I am hitting that reset button and I am making some changes. So, not only am I going to really focus on finding the silver lining of the last 9 months, I am going to use all of that and create gold linings going forward. And turning my silver linings into gold findings because I am not going to let another, you know, minute, day, week, or month pass in the state that I might have been in the last, you know, 9 months. All right? Make that commitment to yourself. But I did want to, I did want to kind of share with you my own, kind of ups and downs and experience this past year as a way to demonstrate how you could be finding the silver lining in probably things that you are not even taking time to think about. And for those that are, yay! And I would love to hear what those are for you. I absolutely would love to hear what those are for you. Okay. So, let me, let us step back in time, shall we? But so, back in, well, back in February, before, we started hearing about it in February, things didn't explode until March, but back in February, I'd already started kind of taking my business online. I've been online for many years, actually, but I was doing what now is exploded out there, which is these 5-day challenges, 3-day challenges, webinars,, you know, using Zoom, using, you know, everything that is now kind of a staple. I started using them back in February. So, when all hell broke loose in March and the next thing you know, pivot became the term of the day, I had already done that. So, when I look back, and I have been doing this now for several months, but, you know, as I look back, I was blessed. My silver lining started filling up when I realized that I didn't have the adjustment many of you did. I certainly didn't have the adjustment to remote working because of the fact that I've been working out of my home, boy, for 25, 30 years. At times in corporate I was going back and forth, but predominantly my home base has been out of my house. So that I didn't even have an adjustment to. So I felt very blessed. I felt very blessed. And at the same time, because I started in February really also amping up my— and consider, I want you to be considering all of these examples for yourself, okay? So then in February, as I was considering— well, not even considering, but working on putting my business online, I started buying up, you know, a new microphone, a new, you know, set of lights. I went out even from a social perspective. I recognized very quickly when my gym closed that I was going to continue wanting to play pickleball safely, um, singles. And I would continue wanting to play pickleball, so I even went and ordered a net online. And so, you know, I kind of had some foresight for myself. That was it. I did, you know, it's not like I'm a miracle worker, you know, of what's happening in the world. And so I felt very blessed that when even April started rolling in I already had my March launch and that was, you know, kind of very successful and I believe it was because of the fact that I was already kind of in the groove, as you might want to say. And so I felt very fortunate about that. Another blessing I had to, had to, had to take consideration of is now when I started my launch in May, between March and May, everyone was now at home. And they were looking for, for support and guidance, and they were looking for the type of information and the type of teachings and the type of coaching and service and support I was providing. So I had to really, you know, kind of say to myself, well, I can't be, be, you know, in the dumps. I can't be thinking desperation or lack or fear or insecurity or doubt. Because there is this opportunity to help many, many, many people who really need it out there. So I, you know, I kind of put all the negative stuff—that is why I do not use the words C and P—I kind of put all of that aside and kind of threw it away because I wanted really to ensure that I was finding those opportunities and those possibilities that were out there even in the worst and worst of situations. Because many of you know I have a very similar smart audience of viewers and listeners. Many of you know that when there is real hardship in the world, also these silver linings, there are also these opportunities and possibilities. And, you know, call it, you know, you think like and feel like, you know, that glass is half full, or you might feel that it's half empty. You know, whichever way, if you are thinking that it's half full, then you're not falling in, falling prey to all the negativity. You're looking for those, for those possibilities and opportunities. And I felt extremely blessed, um, as a result of that, um, you know, as we kind of were progressing through this. And I also had told my clients and, and prospects, and even in my online teachings, that, um, going back as far as I can remember in my career, let alone when I went out on my own. In 2008, when the, you know, the Great Recession, uh, where everyone else was running scared and kind of throwing their hands up and giving up, uh, I actually built a— because I went out on my own in 2008, I actually built a full bucket of coaching clients and actually consulting clients because I would not allow others to focus on all the blah. I wanted them focused on the yay, you know. I could buy up— and business owners out there and entrepreneurs out there and corporate professionals out there, this is for you right here— is, you know, their resources to hire people were very inexpensive because people were losing their jobs. They needed jobs. So it was, you know, it was not— well, it was actually easy, but it was ripe, ripe in opportunity for those that really considered, okay, I'm going to make some investments here, I'm going to invest in my business, I'm going to invest in myself. So they want, you know, so people including my clients made sure they were going out and they were, you know, buying up the, the employees and the resources that they wanted because they were inexpensive. They were buying up the products and the services just like I did with the, you know, technology equipment. They were buying up whether it was 2008 or this year, they were buying up equipment, products, and even services. I mean, I even took advantage of— I said to myself, okay, so I have this time and I have monies to invest. What services do I really want to ensure I put into place over the, you know, coming weeks and months because I can get it inexpensively? I can get it inexpensively. You know, people, clients, um, back in 2008 and this year, they were also finding their silver lining bulging because they were really seeing that they could go out, get even, um, uh, real estate, uh, whether that's lease or buy. So I have some clients in manufacturing, I have some clients that are working out of their home and/or an office, and yet now they wanted to even find an office that was kind of isolated, you know, maybe one or two offices, uh, that wouldn't put them in, in a position of, uh, jeopardizing anybody's health and safety. So there was just tremendous amount of opportunities. And as I was doing it for myself, I was ensuring my clients, whether, like I said, back in 2008 or this past year, were also taking advantage of those opportunities. So if you're a business owner or even a corporate professional— you know, there was just tremendous amount of opportunities there. Corporate had it a little bit tougher. I have to acknowledge that because all of a sudden many business owners work out of their home unless they are, you know, kind of in an office or a manufacturer plant or whatnot. Many corporate people, you know, were having to lose kind of working in an office and being sent home, not really accustomed to it. Not really accustomed to it. At the same time, they also found, as their employers have, that they can create a blend— I'll call it a blend, not a balance— of working from home versus in an office, and, you know, making that productive if they were to put in the kind of the structure and the environment and the systems and the processes that allowed them to kind of work as effectively as possible. Now, I do not have kids. I do not have even a significant other that I have to worry about. All I have is a four-legged little dog, and sometimes, like the snoring behind me, are two big, big dogs that are here for the day. So I certainly do not have the situation that families do. And so I do not want to, want to come off as if I am dismissing that it is easy. For all of a sudden everyone's home. The kids are home, the significant other's home, you're home, and now you have to kind of figure that all out. The difference I will stress though, and it's what kept me and a lot of coaches or a lot of consultants and experts, trainers, very busy the last 9 months is that there were those individuals who stepped aside and said, okay, this is not working. I can't figure it out by on my own, so I'm going to go and find someone. Now, that's a silver lining for you. Yes, you might look at it as an expense. I'd, I'd ask you to look at it as an investment. Uh, but, you know, for those that did look at it as, oh, you know what, I need to find some support, I need to find some help, I even need to find an organizer to get online with me, let them, let me show them, um, my environment and help me, because I have a client of mine does this, and I'll help them get organized. I'll help them get structured. I'll help them find the technologies and the tools that they need. So, silver linings in everything. Now, as I moved on in the year, many of you might remember this. So, my March, even my March launch, because that was my main focus this past year was, Beyond my clients, whether individual or group, my main kind of marketing work was my launches that I do about every 5 or 6 weeks. You might have participated at Goals to Riches Challenge. So March went off without a bang and it went off very well, yet at the same time people were just going, you know, getting into the house. May, boohoo! Sweet! You know, that really allowed, gave people an opportunity to go, okay, I need some support, especially around goals, especially around structure and productivity and mindset. And that's what our Goals to Riches Challenge is focused on. So, by May, I was also kind of now in the groove and, you know, kind of all set up and situated and whatnot. But, But— is the big one— but in July, I think it was late June, maybe July, as I was going to be going into my July event, I lost electricity in my house for about 10 days in the heat of Atlanta. Now, many of you who might be regular listeners or viewers, I'll make this very quick. Basically, a big-ass tree limb fell, broke off of a tree sitting above my house, fell on— fortunately not onto my house, but fell onto the side of my house and wiped out my electrical box. And so it took out all the electricity, and fortunately it took only my electricity. It didn't take my neighbors' or anybody else's, but it just wiped out my whole electrical system. And thinking that this was just a matter of calling Georgia Power and having them come out and hook it up, yeah, no. This was no. My entire electrical, you know, system had to be replaced. Silver linings, okay, silver linings. I got a brand new electrical system in a 1941 house. It had been updated since then, but, you know, so silver lining, right? Fortunately, silver lining, I had insurance, so I, you know, I didn't have to put it out of pocket. Uh, not such a silver lining, not such a silver lining, is I lost a 3-month renter. So I rent my main house, I live in my guest house. I've mentioned that before to, to many of you, um, and I do that for a number of reasons, one of which it allows me to write and, and you know, not worry about income generation at times when I don't want to because I want to be writing. And so that, you know, here I was going to be getting hit with a, with a, a 3-month, um, uh, you know, lack of, uh, rent, lack of income. Not only that, but even, even though I also lost that, when I got the electric up 10 days later. Um, I also lost a number of, um, possible renters due to the C-word, and, uh, because people weren't traveling any longer and/or taking the risk and so forth and so on. So now, silver lining, silver lining of me sitting sweating, even sweating during my live event, uh, in July that I was doing But here I am without electricity. So you say, hmm, how did she get to, you know, how was she able to handle going live when she has no electricity? Hmm, silver lining. And that is, you know, I learned the kindness of, of not strangers, but the kindness of neighbors. And so one of my neighbors had like a 100-foot power cord and was willing to use one of his outside outlets to allow me to at least have a fan and one light, my ring light, and have a light. My ring light. Uh, the other silver lining was, um, I just, you know, simply I called my insurance. I was like, what can I do? I don't necessarily want to go into a hotel And, you know, what can I do? So they also, you know, suggested, "Well, we will get a hotspot through your Wi-Fi service and, you know, it will be covered because you have no electricity." So I was able to get a personal hotspot, just paid, you know, I do not know, a bunch of money extra. And therefore, I used that during the 10 days I was down without electricity in order to continue working. Not such a silver lining was I was sweating while I was live. Okay, I mean, I literally was sitting on my couch and sweat was pouring down as I'm, you know, training and coaching and, you know, serving those that participated in our July Goals to Riches Challenge. Silver lining: you were so beautifully accepting, receiving, receptive, understanding, compassionate about my situation. And it was not only me that was learning this. It was anyone that went online, even professionally, you know, to, to do their work. And so the lighting was not great, or the sweating was going on, or the dog, or the kids were screaming and yelling, or, you know, people were walking in behind you., you know, as you are teaching or whatever you were doing. And for me, I found the same. I found that even though I was sitting there, you know, sweating and putting on, you know, a great face even though it was like 95, you know, in my house at the time, you were just so understanding and so kind about it. And I just really learned a great deal about not only myself and about you, but also about humanity, also about just we were all dealing with the same stuff. How often does that happen, that every human being on this earth has been dealing with the same crap and the same junk, or the same blessings and silver lining? And so when ever, ever again in our lifetime, let's hope and pray that we'll ever have that opportunity for for all of us to be human, for all of us to be kind and compassionate and understanding and patient. And I just, that was probably my biggest, biggest lesson. And a silver lining that you can find as well is the, you know, the humanity of people. Now, forget about all the hate speech on social media, but, you know, and all the ugliness that comes out. In, you know, in trying times like this. But, you know, but find the silver lining. Find the silver lining because it is out there. It is those people that are reaching out, that are caring, that are lending a, you know, a, even if it is a voice, let alone, you know, financial support, or a roof for your, for, you know, over your head, or whatever the case might be. There is tons of silver linings out there. And I certainly, had to sit back and really make note and be very considerate of what I was struggling with, but what I was also, what I was also, you know, getting very, very, very blessed with. Now, I was not struggling with a lot. But then, I know I passed May. But then May had come and gone, and that is my yearly beach trip with my 5 sisters. And obviously, it was not going to happen. But it had gotten pushed off to November. We did not cancel it. We were not able to without losing our money. So, we pushed it off into November. Well, silver lining, I now had something to look forward to as the year, you know, went on. And the hard work I was doing and the lack of electricity I was dealing with. And, you know, some of the, you know, some of the frustrations. Now, of course, we were all at home. We were all isolated. Silver linings. Silver linings. I got to know my local restaurants and the local folks at the grocery store and even the local first responders, whether that be nurses or, or policemen or firefighters, because I then became very aware that they needed my help and everyone else's help. So, silver lining was I made sure that I did give back by, you know, taking out at restaurants. And, you know, therefore I was able to get to know them as I would show up at their place like every couple weeks or whatever the case might be. I, you know, I, we all certainly felt for nurses and doctors and firemen who was also dealing with fires out west, and policemen. Even in the hardships of all of that chaos. But I, at least, my silver lining was I just slowed down and ensured that I said thank you, or I said hello, or I just, you know, shared a kind word to, you know, let them know that, you know, even though all hell is breaking loose, you know, I appreciate them. And I know many of you have done the same. I know many, many, many of you have done the same. So I also then— so November comes along, and November, you know, brought the beach trip with my sisters. Now, not a struggle, a frustration, I guess, or aggravation maybe, is, you know, it was C testing and C testing and C testing over and over and over again, before, during, and after, which, silver lining, The silver lining was I learned to really appreciate and be considerate of ensuring that I am not going to add or contribute to someone else getting sick. So, every one of us, there is obviously 6 of us, every one of us were ensuring that we got tested before, during, and after to ensure that we are not, you know, kind of jeopardizing anyone's health. And then, while we are on our beach trip, Well, consider Ocean City, New Jersey in November. It's not crowded. You know, it actually was beautiful considering it was November. The temperatures were actually beautiful. So, you know, we didn't eat out, obviously. We didn't eat out. We didn't really go out. We didn't go to the boardwalk like we normally would. The fair wasn't there that would normally be there in May. So we— silver lining is that we had a lot of quality time together. And quality time doing new things, like painting. You know, I shared with you, you know, my one sister brought down a bunch of canvases for all of us and we sat down and spent the day painting. And it was wonderful. It was fabulous. Silver lining. I came home and bought a painting set. You know, so there's so much we can be really appreciating out of all the craziness and the chaos that this past year may have brought into our lives. So I just want to, you know, influence you or, or stress to you that, um, make a commitment to yourself that you're going to look back and want to find all the silver that, that, you know, filled this year amongst all the other junk. But there were things that were going on, things that happened, things that you grew or you learned. I learned a great deal about myself. I learned a great deal about the fact that I can actually be calm and patient and considerate. Because normally I am like, "Wah!" You know, and I am just like running around and I am like the Energizer Bunny. And it takes a lot for me to just— and so another silver lining was I got some reading done that I typically don't do because if I'm, you know, if I want to do something creative, so to speak, I write. So I got reading done and The Power of Now, you know, by Eckhart— Eckhart something. I'm drawing a blank right now. I'm sorry. Tolle. Eckhart Tolle. The Power Now, you know, brought me so much joy this past year and really kind of grounded me. Jesus Calling by Sarah Young, it's a daily devotional combination of scriptures and her writing to support the scriptures. I live with it. Actually, it's right here. You know, I live with it. My journal, I, you know, I lived with journaling. These were my silver linings this past year is finding you know, new, new things about myself that have just, you know, been there, but I just learned to shift and adjust and change and transform. And I'm sure you have as well. So I would just ask that you take some time over the next several days as you're maybe winding down, taking time off, spending with friends and family, minimal, safe. But just really look back and appreciate this, the other things that you might not be paying attention to, you might not be acknowledging right now, and allow those things to kind of be bulge of your silver lining, because they are there, they are there. And then use them to move forward, putting all the junk and the chaos and what we call bitches here in, in the Shedding the Bitch community, put it behind you and move into the new year with just a whole new outlook and appreciation of the trying times and the really blessed times. All right, and I want to wish every one of you a merry, merry, merry Christmas. Uh, we will talk next week, so I won't wish you a happy new year just yet. And for, you know, what— whatever you might be celebrating these coming days, I just hope it's a blessed and beautiful one and a rich one for you. And next week we're going to be talking about assessing your success in 2020. So come back next Tuesday at noon Eastern time for another episode of Shedding the Bitch Radio. Right, everybody, have a great one. Bye.