Look at yourself straight, strengths and weaknesses both, without excuses. See how your behavior actually lands with the people around you. Own your talents and flaws equally. That honesty is where real leadership starts.
You've discovered all these things about you, the good, the bad, the ugly, the bitches and the riches, as I call them. And now it's time to confront them, to look at them directly, honestly, without rationalization, without deflection, without blame, without shame, just simply trying to understand yourself and what is actually motivating you or causing you to show up the way you're showing up. And so you want to look for the behaviors, the patterns, the impact that you're having to those around you, especially in the workplace, to your team and your peers and bosses. And if you're honest, that will be your first step to really transforming yourself into a powerhouse leader, is recognizing the impact that you're having to those around you, let alone to yourself. In the confront phase, start chipping away at all the information that you've gained about yourself, including those riches. Remember those riches that oftentimes people are uncomfortable acknowledging their talents, their strengths, their values, their beliefs, their skills, their accomplishments, their experiences, their expertise, all of those things. You want to own your strengths. You want to claim your value and you want to believe in your capacity without needing a title or a performance review to confirm it. Because once you do and you begin to slowly feel comfortable in your own skin, regardless of what it's made up of, the ugly and the beautiful, the warts and the beauty marks, then that is your first step to really becoming a true leader, a true individual. And there's nothing more exciting and more freeing in that. Oh,
From Stuck to Leading, Episode 2 — Meet the 5 Inner Fears Destroying Your Leadership
