Get Off YEAH BUTT! - Ditchin’ the Bitchin', Losin’ the Excusin’ w/ Sue Wilhite

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Bernadette, thank you so much for having me on the program. Thank you for that intro.

Absolutely, absolutely. Anybody who's ditching the bitching and losing the excusing is my kind of woman. So, so before we get into all that though, tell us a little bit about Sue so we can get to know you as well.

Yes, thank you. So, uh, what people don't realize is that I come from the IT background and I spent a lot of years in IT doing programming, database design, systems design, all of that good stuff. So what I say is that I learned business from the inside out.

Ah, nice.

Because I worked mostly for startups and medium-sized companies. So I wasn't pigeonholed into just doing finance or just doing manufacturing or just doing, you know, marketing or sales. I did everybody's stuff.

Right, right, right.

So I learned how to pay attention to metrics, how to do business, how to do top-down thinking, which I find a lot of business owners—

Nice.

—get confused about this.

Isn't that the truth? Right?

So what ended up happening is that I was really, really good at what I did. I have absolutely no shyness in saying I was a damn good programmer systems designer. I was awesome at this. And I ended up making IT manager in 6 years. Nice. Very nice. I just, boom, went for it. And part of the reason that I was so good at it is because I was a people person. And I wanted so much for people, my customers, as I called them, my customers, my internal customers, to get their jobs done easier, better, faster, more efficiently, less confused, so that they could go off and have their life. Right. Sure. Right? So they could be with their kids or play softball or underwater basket weaving. I didn't care what it was. It was my job to make their lives better. And unfortunately, I took that on a little too much. Ah, yeah. That led to the ulcer.

Oh, yeah. Oh, sympathies.

Sorry. Yeah, don't do that, people. Yeah. It was like a volcano going off in my gut all the time. And I ended up having to be on drugs, which I hated. And if I didn't take the drugs, volcano went off. Right. And when my friend dragged me to the hypnotherapy demo, I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, this is, this is all BS. This is, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've seen Pat Collins, the hip hypnotist on TV. Yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, right, not doing it. Well, at the end of a 2-hour demonstration in which the guy picked me as being the demonstration victim— victim, because really I came out of that 2-hour session with no ulcer.

That's amazing. That's amazing. Now, what do you think? But what do you think from a I don't know, from a layman's perspective, you know, when you go in, like you said, you're apprehensive, it's a bunch of hogwash, you know, in your opinion. Um, but you must have had some opening within yourself that you were willing to at least pay attention and not just dismiss it, right?

So there were kind of two factors involved in that. One was the friend that dragged me to this had life-changing experiences. Right. Okay. So she had been there, done that. This was actually her teacher. She was learning from him and really had great things to say. And I've been listening to her for the better part of 6 months rave about this.

Ah, okay. No, I thought she was deluded.

Right, right, right. Still a bunch of hogwash, but hey, she seemed happier. Yep, yep. And the other was way back in my childhood when I was about 8, 9 years old, my parents gave me, um, I forget exactly what it was called, but it was something like the Spellbook for Kids. Oh, ooh. And it was this thing with, um, it was a pouch with a candle and some incense and a little book that told you how to, you know, get more money, find love, and all this sort of thing. Right. And I did the spell for money and it worked. Oh, wow. Scared me absolutely out of my pants. I was terrified. What ended up happening was I did this spell, which I vaguely remember had a green candle and a quarter involved in some chant that you did. Affirmation, people. Right. Yeah. And a couple of— about a week later, my aunt sent me a check out of the blue. Wow. Was not my birthday, was not Christmas, was not the end of term was not anything, right?

Right, right. Yep.

And so, oh my God, it worked, right?

Well, okay, but now fast forward, right? And you're walking after being an IT person for so many years, you know, that are often very kind of robotic, I will, I will say, you know, analytical, steadfast, you know, kind of to the point, right? And so, you know, did you— were you open to at least remembering maybe that instance when you were younger and therefore thinking, okay, well, maybe this could solve my problem, right? Yes. And therefore that you received it, and an hour later you're walking out of there without an author, right?

And, and it was also to go check, that's not a— you know, that's not an option, right?

Wow, okay.

You know, it's like one more thing to knock off the list. You know, I've done the— you know, and all of the things, the home remedies to cure my ulcer, to take care of it, or, you know, dim down the volcano a bit. And none of them had worked. And this would be just another one to kind of go, okay, yep, that didn't work either.

Yeah. Wow, that's awesome.

So this is what we call in the business a convincer. Right. And I went, okay, there's something to this. I want to research this. Yeah. And so I got into the whole mind-body connection rabbit hole.

And how long ago was that?

That was in, I think, '93.

Oh, so you've been doing this for quite a while. I've been doing this for quite a while.

Okay. So I evolved from hypnotherapy on to all kinds of other techniques. Nice, nice.

So where did this whole idea of, you know, getting off Yay Butt, uh, where did that all come from?

Well, about 6 years ago, uh, I made the leap from doing sort of consultations for free to— I'm, I'm going to be a business coach. This is really— people keep coming to me for advice on how did you do this, how did you build your business as a therapist. How did you, you know, what do you know? How do you know? It's like, okay, I need to charge for this because I'm giving people whole business plans.

As your coach, that's what I would have told you to do years ago.

So I made the leap, and the things that I found were I would be helping people and going, okay, here's the things that you need to do. You need to start with strategy and then figure out your tactics and then work on your ops. This is the way it top-down goes. Right. And people go, yeah, but I've got this. And yeah, but I got that. Yeah, but I got the other thing. And coaching would be a waste of time and money for them. Yeah. Because they weren't willing to do it because they had internal blocks. They had tapes in their head. Programs in their head. It actually, it turns out, into their DNA, right, that was keeping them from moving forward.

No. So what do you find to be the most common blocks to, to success that people have? Well, there's two.

There are two that are what I would call external and two that are, that are internal. Okay.

External ones are time and money. External, time and money.

Okay, money. Because if you don't have the money to do what you want to do, then, then you feel blocked. And, and that's kind of a circular thing, and I'll get into that later. One of the reasons you don't have money is because there's other stuff going on. And then time. Oh my goodness, how many times have you in the audience Not you, Bernadette. No, never. I've gotten onto Facebook, Instagram, now TikTok, Twitter, and gone, oh, that's cool. Oh, that's cool. Oh, next one, next one, next one. Oh, cats of Instagram. Oh, Nashville has a new robot out there. Let's go through all of this, and suddenly you've used up an hour, hour and a half, 3 hours, 4 hours, right? Right. Going down the rabbit hole. Right, right, right. You have more time than you think.

And yet, I know for me, Sue, I will say, but— and Sue uses a but as in B-U-T-T, by the way, B-U-T-T. But I'll say to myself, but I don't have 5 minutes to do that that exercise routine that I committed to. 5 minutes, I can't do that, but I can certainly spend an hour scrolling on junk that has no, no relevancy to what it is I'm trying to accomplish. Right. But, but, B-U-T-T. Yeah. Okay. So time and money, external. Yes. Yes. They're outside things.

Okay. Internal things. Are relationships and family. Interesting. Okay. Okay. And, and relationships and family are two different things from my perspective. So let me talk about family first. Okay. Family is not only your family of origin who might have their own issues with time and money, right? A lot of them do. Absolutely. Absolutely. But there may be cultural things that have to do with time and money, right? So that where you live or what ethnic group you're in or what subset of ethnic group that you're in may determine what you believe deep in your soul, literally in your DNA, what you can do. Does women—

does gender fit into relationships?

Gender is part of family. It's part of family.

OK, all right. It's the DNA. OK, OK, that makes sense.

Yeah, that's true. So, so, you know, women versus men, that yes, there are differences in our makeup and then certain— I mean, hello, physically we're different. Can't get around that. Thank God. Right? And there are things that women have been taught and men have been taught that get in their way. Yep. Men are taught not to be emotional. Men are taught to be tough and, you know, work through it.

Right.

Which can be an advantage, but But it's a horrible thing when they're trying to create rapport, right? Because there are many men who are taught that you just bludgeon people until they acquiesce. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Just the way they've been taught, right? Right. And by taught, I mean they've probably heard it so often that they have no memory of anybody saying anything, right? Just the way it is. Women have been taught to acquiesce, to not speak up, to not use their voice, to not push back. And they must be caring and nurturing and forgive everybody for every little thing.

And not make money because that's a man's job. And not make money. Yeah. Right? Yep. Yep.

And so culturally, can I share a story about a client of mine? Sure, absolutely. This is really fun. So this client came from South Asia, um, in India, where although technically they got rid of the caste system 100 and some odd years ago, it still exists. There is still— from people who are born in India, there is still the overwhelming belief that whatever caste you're in, you're in for life. That's it. That's the way it is. So folks who, like my client, who were born into a family that used to be what were called Brahmins or priests, are not allowed to work. They're not allowed to make money. They were supposed to be receiving, right? People just, you know, fed them and kept them clothed, and it was all about donation. But they can't go out and solicit for money. They can't go out and, you know, say, hey, I've got this really cool widget and I want to sell this. Right. So I worked with my client to get rid of that cultural boundary that he had living in the back of his brain that somehow going out and selling was, was not, it was not evil, but it was just not okay for him.

And talk about adding gender into it. I mean, it's a guy versus if that was a woman, that would be one thing, but that, that would be adding fuel to the fire being that it was a man. Yes, interesting.

And so it, and it was very difficult for him to, uh, propose his business proposal to folks in his culture because they recognized from his last name that he was in Brahmin caste, and in the back of their minds they went, nope, can't do this.

All right, so that's a great example of the extreme, right? Right. So, so help us understand, you say that you've been— you helped him with that. How does one eliminate these things that are so deep into our DNA? Right.

So there's a whole slew of mind-body techniques. Okay. And one of the things that I promised in the description is a very short, easy way to shift your brain from, I can't think, I can't move forward, I can't go anywhere, or what I call repetitive thoughts. Okay. Squirrel cage thoughts. Right. Right. And this is a technique you'll hear people say, "Oh, just think of something positive." Right? You're in doom and gloom. You've got something horrible that's going on. You're not making your numbers. You've had another no. You've had something going on. And you're just going, "Oh my God, I'm a failure. This is awful. I can't do this." And just to shift to the positive is physically impossible for your brain to do. Physically impossible. Because if you are going into that doom and gloom thing and you get into the repetitive— this is, this is one of my favorite things that I went down the rabbit hole of neurobiology. This is so cool. Your brain wants to be efficient.

Right, right.

Your brain loves being efficient. So when you start thinking the same thing over and over again, your brain actually weaves, uh, what are called engrams together so that when you start a thought, it automatically, it just goes there. It's not creating anything new. It's just like, oh yeah, I know what this is, boom, and it creates that thought and it goes down the whole it gathers all of the stuff that's negative, right? Right. And it just collects all of that and puts it together. Okay. Well, you can't shift because your brain is already there.

All right, so how do you prevent your brain from getting there?

Here's what happens. So the first step is, is the hardest. Notice when you've gone down the negative path. It's It's the hardest part, is to go, "Oh, I'm sitting here thinking about failure again. Okay. I need to stop that." The second part, part 2, is really easy. This is the easiest part in the world. You pick something right now, right here and now. You pick something that is absolutely neutral. And the example that I love to give is door hinge. Okay. Door hinge is a neutral thing. You have no emotional connection, right? No, I don't. Zero emotional connection to a door hinge. Right. Absolutely none. There is— it is neutral. It is blah. And so what you do is you think about a door hinge for about a minute. 2 minutes is best. But you think about the door hinge with all 5 of your senses. So you think about what does it look like. Is it silver? Is it brass? Is it, you know, long? Is it a big door hinge? Is it really thick? Is it, you know, connected to a bag of salt? Is it connected to, you know, a jewelry box? What kind of door hinge is it? Right. Okay. It's a bag of those examples, right? You think about, oh, it could be this, it could be that, it could be a door hinge, yeah. And then you think about what would it taste like? If you— it sounds weird, but if you were to lick the door hinge, what would it taste like?

All right.

Okay. What would it smell like? What does it feel like? You know, is it cold? Is it painted and have that kind of, you know, matte finish, or is it the metallic thing? So you use all of your senses. Does it creak when it opens? Is it just this nice smooth glide? When it opens and closes. And after you've thought about that door hinge for a while, and, and again, this is something that you have to pick beforehand. Okay. You go to something else that you picked, which is your positive anchor. So you pick something that always brings you up. For me, it's the smell of roses. Sunrises and baby's laughter. Mine's puppies. Puppies. Puppies. Kittens. Babies. Whatever it is, whatever your positive— these will always uplift you, right? Always, 100%. You pick it ahead of time again so that you go, oh, I just realized that I've gone down this horrible well of despair. All right. I'm going to think about a door hinge. Door hinge, door hinge, door hinge. Okay, it's a door hinge. Got it. It tastes like this. It smells like this. It looks like this. It feels like this. It sounds like this. Got it. I've got door hinge. I'm really into door hinge. Oh, baby's laughter. Oh my God.

Puppies playing.

Oh, isn't it so cute when the puppies are trying to run and they kind of tumble? And, oh my God, that's so cool. And when they're just cuddling in your lap and they're all warm and fuzzy. Oh my God, puppies. Okay, now let's think of a solution. It literally, I mean, the first few times you do it, it's going to take you about 5 minutes. Right. I do it in under a minute.

Right. Yeah, I can, I can see that. I can easily see that. Now the solution to the problem that was keeping you distressed and stuck, correct? Right. Right. So I just want to tie the pieces together.

Yeah, yeah. You cannot, you cannot, as Einstein says, we cannot solve a problem with the same mind we used to create it.

Oh, I love that! Wait, wait, wait, let's slow that down a little bit. You cannot—

we cannot solve a problem using the same mind we used to create it.

Oh, love it, love it, love it!

It has to be in a different mindset. Right, right, right. That— this technique, this is, this is one of my favorite techniques ever, ever. And I can guarantee, I absolutely guarantee that if you do this over even a 10-day period, a 6, 7-day period, by the end of a week, you will stop being in doom and gloom. You will stop having the repetitive thoughts.

Right.

And my one and only failure in this was somebody who said, you know what, I found that I preferred being in that.

Oh yes, there are people that love to live in that.

It's an endorphin rush, unfortunately.

Yeah, love.

Yeah, that was my only failure when somebody said, wow, I liked being miserable better than I liked being happy. Okay, go for it.

That's Now, and you're not saying, and you're not saying, Sue, that someone will never be distressed again. You're just saying that now they have a tool that they can recognize very quickly that they're about to, if not, they're already there, and they can pull themselves back out.

Right. And this works for, you know, I hate to use the word obsession because that's kind of a technical term, But if they find that they've got repetitive thoughts about something that they just can't get over, and they're typically finding them when they're trying to go to sleep or they're, you know, trying to do something, these thoughts are what are getting in the way.

They're the yeah, but. Right, right. I love it. I love it. I love it. Now, the other thing I love other than that, you know, the title, Ditching the Bitchin' and Losing the Excusin', I'm gonna walk around all day saying that. Dang it, I'm losing the excusing. But you also, which wasn't easy to explain in the, in the opening, but you have this idea of a TOO syndrome, and TOO being T-O-O, TOO syndrome. So can you explain that for us, please?

Yes, yes. Everybody has TOO syndrome to a greater or lesser degree, and What you want to do is turn it around so that you're using it in a more positive light. So, too syndrome. Too syndrome, I coined that phrase from reading Louise Hay's You Can Heal Your Life, in which she has an entire chapter of too's. You're too old, you're too young, you're too fat, you're too skinny. You're too, too successful. God knows how you could be too successful, but okay. Too successful, too broke, too fill in the blank. Too rich. She's too what?

Too rich.

Too rich. Oh, don't get me started on that one. I'm having such a a reaction against the current culture against people being rich. Right. Driving me nuts. Right. You can't be too rich and have too many loving relationships. That's just not possible. Yeah. So, too syndrome is when you are saying you are too fill in the blank, or you've heard people say. I've heard people say, "Oh, you're too enthusiastic." Stop it.

What?

What? Somebody told me to stop using my hands because deaf people will get confused.

Oh my gosh. This is not a deaf person. Right, right, right. Oh wow. People who do ASL are okay with this. Yeah, yeah. Now does this have anything to do with, um, and if it doesn't then we'll just move on, but Does this 'too' syndrome have anything to do with the #MeToo? You know how like someone says something and then you're like, 'Me too,' or is this something separate?

This is something different. Okay, this is comparison to an unreasonable standard. Oh God, okay, good.

That's a great way of looking at it. Okay, awesome, awesome. Okay, so what does one do to break these habits? That are self-destructing, you know, and really kind of creating a lot of undue stress and beyond everything else that's going on in the world and what we're doing, you know, to ourselves, how do we stop it?

Well, again, I'll go back to the first step of my 3-step process. And it's the hardest one of all. I absolutely want to be upfront about it. Noticing when you're doing it. Being aware, being mindful.

Why is that so hard?

Because we're not taught how to be mindful. We're not taught to pay attention to our thoughts. We're taught that what's going on in our minds is not useful, and instead, it's our greatest tool if we use it properly. Absolutely. And many people have said it's also your worst enemy. Right. If you don't. There are so many people to quote on that one.

Right. Yes, but I have, I have I have to admit though, and that's why I love this subject that you brought to the show, because, um, I have to admit, up until about 10 years ago, I had no idea. I didn't care what I was thinking. I didn't even know what that meant. I didn't even like have an idea of what, what does that mean, that I have to be self-aware, that I have to be mindful? And yet at the same time, you know, 10 years later, and it's my number one practice I focus on every day is to be mindful, and it is the most powerful, healthy, positive, uplifting tool, you know, in practice now that I could have. And, and so yes, I agree, it's hard, but at the same time, boy, is it worth the work. And it gets easier with time.

Yes, yes, it gets easier with time. One of the things that you can do to notice— this is, this is the easiest exercise. Not easy, but it's the easiest exercise— is to notice when you're holding your breath.

Oh, boy. Okay. Okay.

Yep. So during the day, set off a timer or do something to notice when you stopped breathing. —because people do, or you're taking little tiny shallow breaths, that's usually when your thinking has gone negative. It's gone to flight or— flight or fight or freeze mode.

So, it's almost a fear response. Yes. Okay. Okay.

And then what you want to do is notice what you're thinking, what's around you, what are you doing to provoke that response in your body? Because your breath is the first thing to go. I hate to say it that way, but your breath is the first thing to go.

The first thing to respond to something that's going negative or fearful or something— Exactly. That's working against you. That's awesome. I love that. I, I can understand why it's hard to recognize At the same time, I can understand, you know, the actual physiological reaction that your body takes to when you get scared or nervous or anxious or stressed or negative or judgmental or— yeah, wow, okay. I love that. And this is the cool part, it's a vicious circle.

That's a cool part. It's a vicious circle. The less you breathe, the more negative you get.

And the less brain you have.

And the less brain you have and the more anxious you're going to be.

Interesting.

So when you breathe, and I suggest breathing into the small of your back, imagine that you're filling yourself up from the base of your spine. This is also your ye butt. From the base of your spine. Imagine that you're breathing into that space and having it fill. And when you do that, your whole body relaxes. And your brain gets oxygen again. It's going, okay, now I can stop being anxious. Now I'm getting oxygen again. Okay, now we can fire up some problem-solving things. Because when the brain goes into fight, flight, or freeze, right? It shuts down. You get tunnel vision and you can only see one thing. Yeah, yeah. That's not good for problem solving, right?

Because it's probably a negative thing or a judgmental thing, or— yeah, right.

We've been conditioned to go for— right.

Well, it's a self-protection, isn't it? It's self-survival, self-protection. So it's not— I mean, it's, it's important to have it there, but we also have to recognize that when it is working against us and not protecting us.

Exactly. Yeah, exactly.

Yeah, cool. All right, all right. So what does our vibe have to do with any of this, especially when it comes to doom and gloom, sunshine to light, right?

Okay, so recent research has shown— I think it's been in the last 10, 15 years It was right about the time that I was really kicking off my practice and really getting going. There's a company called HeartMath that found that your brain, your heart, and your gut produce an electromagnetic field. Hmm, okay. And your thoughts are producing an electromagnetic field.

Right, I understand that. Okay, right. Yeah, this is basic.

When you are in contact with somebody else's vibe, ah, and they're in doom and gloom, you have a tendency to get into resonance with each other and you acquire that. I'm going to go back to family, right? Your— if your family's vibe overall was that way, it's literally going to program your body into that. When you get your vibe going and you, you get it to where it is in a positive mode, number one, it expands, and number two, this is the basis for the law of attraction, that when you put that positive thought positive vibe out into the world, it's connecting with everybody else on the planet.

I love it.

And that's how you attract stuff to you. It is not the stuff is coming randomly falling out of the sky. It is making connections with people. So you showed up in my life, I showed up in your life because our vibes matched. Right, right. I love that.

And that— this goes back to talking about, uh, you know, um, this goes back to your money experience. Exactly. When you're young and you kind of, you know, put this focus in this magical spell. Yes. And you attracted that money into your life. Yes. Unexpectedly. Yes.

Because I didn't have any preconceived notions. I grew up on fairy tales. Of course magic works.

Yeah, yes, absolutely.

So I'm going to do this spell. Boom, it worked. Hey, oh my God, that means everything else is real. I love it.

I love it. All right, so what would you suggest? And I, and I want, you know, I've been sharing your information for people to reach out to you. Sweet Sound of Success. Who doesn't love that? Who doesn't love that? You can reach out to her and learn more at Sweet Sound of Success. Her email is even easy, it's sue@sweetsoundofsucces. Um, her, uh, Facebook page is Sweet Sound of Success. Her Twitter page, I believe, is Positivity, correct? Positively. Positively. How you got that, I don't know, because that was one of the early Twitter adopters. Awesome. That is Awesome, positively. Um, so definitely be reaching out to her, learn all about what she's able to do to help you. Why stay in the doom and gloom? Move to the sunshine and light, as she will say, and really find those antidotes, those techniques that will help you shift your mind, shift your brain over, or put it aside so you can do the work that's necessary to be self-aware, present, and attracting what it is that you want. But what are those, um What would you say are those things that they need? They must, you know, this is one thing that if you were to do anything leaving here right now, this is it. Breathe. Breathe. I love that because I do tend to hold my breath. Breathe.

Just notice when you're not holding, when you're holding your breath, just notice that and breathe and switch to something that makes you laugh, makes you happy, brings you joy. Puppies.

Well, first I'm going to focus on the hinge. Yeah, I'm going to focus on the hinge because now I can't get that out of my head because I have a particular fence hinge that is my nemesis. And then puppies. I love it, love it, love it, love it. All right, now I want— I do want to mention, or I'll have you mention as well, um, you have an ebook, 5 Steps to Double Your Revenue in 30 Days. Yeah. How does one get ahold of that?

Uh, there is a, uh, link. It is a Bitly link, which is, uh, Bitly Sue 5 Steps.

Yeah. And I'm definitely going to post that when this goes out. And, um, we'll have— I should have had it here and I didn't, but we'll make sure that we get that in the comment sections and in all the posts. Um, the first step is— I'm sorry, pardon me?

That's what the first step in doubling your revenue is.

Getting rid of your— oh, breathing, breathing, breathing. All right, everybody, take a deep breath. And thanks, Sue, for being here. Thank you so much. This has been awesome. I so appreciate it. I feel all energized and ready to attack the day. This has been great. As my puppy just kind of woke up and, uh, perfect, and wants to say hello. Thank you so much, Sue. I so appreciate it. And everybody, please go to sweetsoundofsuccess.com, learn all about Sue, email her at sue@sweetsoundofsuccess.com, go to her Facebook page, Sweet Sound of Success, and definitely do what is needed in order for you to create the riches in your life that you deserve. And for everybody here in the Shedding the Bitch community, thank you so much for being here. We certainly appreciate it. Coco appreciates it. And, um, we'll look forward to having you right back here for another episode of Shedding the Bitch Radio and TV. We'll see you soon. Bye.

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