Bernadette BoasExecutive Leadership Coach, Trainer and Speaker, Ball of Fire Coaching · Become the Leader Everyone Wants to Follow and No One Can Overlook.

How Can We Overcome Self Doubt

1 Nov 2024 · 1 min

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When someone doesn't respond to a request for advice or a referral, the mind spirals into worst-case thinking. But the speaker says neither interpretation—they don't respect you, or they missed the email—actually matters. Step back, let people say no without taking it personally, and stop sabotaging yourself with over-analysis.

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I used to get all up in my head if I would call someone and ask for a piece of advice or referral when I was first starting. If they didn't respond to me, I would get all up in my head about, oh, they don't respect what I'm doing, or some silly thing. It may have been just that they did— maybe I was right, they didn't respect it. That's okay. I don't, you know, they can do— let them do them, I'll do me. Or it may be that they didn't see my email. And either way, nobody died. Like, it just wasn't that serious. So I had to stop making it that serious. And we do that to ourselves. We are very good at doing that to ourselves and getting in our own way. And we can get out of our own way. And all they can do is say no. Yeah, completely. And then we say