Bernadette BoasExecutive Leadership Coach, Trainer and Speaker, Ball of Fire Coaching · Become the Leader Everyone Wants to Follow and No One Can Overlook.

Main Character Energy: Conquer Fear, Build Confidence

4 Mar 2026 · 1 min

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In this motivational monologue, the speaker introduces the concept of "main character energy" as a tool for women to overcome fear and imposter syndrome. She asks listeners to imagine themselves as the protagonist of their own life story and consider what the main character would do when faced with a daunting task—typically, the most frightening action. The speaker argues that repeatedly taking such courageous steps (e.g., sending a risky email, pursuing a promotion, leaving an unhealthy relationship) forms a habit that directly builds confidence, rather than relying on superficial "fake it till you make it" tactics. She emphasizes that this energy reflects the person's authentic self before self‑doubt takes over, and that acting on it is the only reliable way to develop lasting confidence.

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Whenever I'm feeling scared, or whenever the women that I coach feel scared about doing something, whether it's sending the email, going for the promotion, stepping out of a shit relationship, all of the things, we talk about if you were the main character in the movie of your life, what would she do at this point? And 9 times out of 10, main character Rachel would be you, you do the thing that scares you the most because it's the action that builds your confidence. Nothing else is going to build your confidence. It's a habit-forming strategy that you have to do, and it's only formed with taking the action. So I, when I talk about main character energy, I'm not talking about faking it until you make it. I've been there, I've done that, and yes, it does work to an extent. I'm talking about main character energy being the person you are at your core before imposter syndrome started talking you out of it.