Bernadette BoasExecutive Leadership Coach, Trainer and Speaker, Ball of Fire Coaching · Become the Leader Everyone Wants to Follow and No One Can Overlook.

My Siblings' Intervention - 'We Don't Like Who You've Become'

5 Feb 2026 · 2 min

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In this personal monologue, the speaker recounts a pivotal moment during a family vacation when her siblings confronted her about the drastic changes they observed in her behavior after she co‑founded a company with them. They described her as exhausted, constantly on her phone, and emotionally distant, warning that if she did not become more present and considerate, they would distance themselves. The speaker reflects that her original purpose for building the business was to create something valuable for her family, yet she had become a shell of herself, jeopardizing the very relationships she valued. This confrontation served as a rock‑bottom intervention, prompting her to recognize the need for change despite not knowing the exact steps. She concludes with a hopeful mantra: "small steps, big dreams," emphasizing that change is possible at any moment when one acknowledges the problem.

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I was going on my first vacation since I had started the company with my brother and sister. And at that point in time, I was, as we are when we start a new business, head was down, hadn't looked up, was just going so focused. And I remember going out to dinner. It was one of the first nights we were on the trip and my siblings had an intervention with me pretty much saying, Bianca, we don't like the person you've become. You're unrecognizable. You're exhausted every time you're with us. You're like the shell of a person. You don't put the phone down. You can't relax. Your laugh is fake. Are you okay? What's going on in there? And if you don't start to be more considerate and more aware and part of our lives and make an effort, we're not going to want you in ours. And to me, if you like asked me what was the purpose of why am I trying to build my business, it was to provide and to create something incredible for my family that I could be proud of so I could, so I can support and grow and everything. My siblings are my two best friends. Yeah. And that was like, that was my rock bottom intervention moment where I was like, I need to pull myself out of this. Like I'm burning the most important relationships to me because I can't pull my head up. And look at the bigger picture of why I'm trying to do this. And that was the point where I didn't know how I was going to make the change at that point in time. I just knew I needed to make a change. So it is possible at any point in time when you have that moment, change is possible. And always, I always say small steps, big dreams, but small steps.